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Coronavirus etiquette - telling DDs friends?

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GreyishDays Sat 14-Nov-20 21:04:46

DD has just had a positive result. I’ve phoned school but would you message friends too/get DD to?

I don’t want DD to have to hide it from her friends but equally think maybe it’s better to go down the official route.

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Pommes Sat 14-Nov-20 21:05:59

Yes, absolutely. I would also be really disappointed if my DC's friends tested positive and didn't tell me ASAP.

There's nothing to be ashamed about. The virus is spreading rapidly.

Wishing your DD a speedy recovery.

GreyishDays Sat 14-Nov-20 21:10:18

I just don’t want to cause chaos. It’s not clear who will have to isolate as they only do close contacts.

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KittyMcKitty Sat 14-Nov-20 21:10:48

Yes you need to tell everyone immediately who she has been in close contact with so that they can isolate.

Bridecilla Sat 14-Nov-20 21:13:11

Yes. Don't delegate to the school. It's the weekend and her close contacts need telling now, not on Monday

HarrietOh Sat 14-Nov-20 21:15:06

Track and trace ask for details of who you’ve been in close contact with in the 48 hours before symptoms started, inform those people.

KittyMcKitty Sat 14-Nov-20 21:15:41

GreyishDays

I just don’t want to cause chaos. It’s not clear who will have to isolate as they only do close contacts.

Her friends will obviously be close contacts though.

I’ve been there with a child with a positive test result and I fully get how overwhelming it can be but you need to do the right thing. Hopefully you will receive lots of support. Also isolate your dd from the rest of the family - zone bathrooms etc. We did this religiously and only half of us contacted COVID (I got it taking dc to testing centre).

Hope your dd has a speedy recovery.

MigGril Sat 14-Nov-20 21:15:54

I would tell all her friends that you know she's been in close contact with.

Track and trace are being useless, my boss is off self isolating as he was in contact with someone with a known case. He hasn't been contacted by track and trace at all.

Don't just leave it upto someone else. Also they need to not be going back to school on Monday, not waiting for school to contact them or send them home.

KittyMcKitty Sat 14-Nov-20 21:16:25

HarrietOh

Track and trace ask for details of who you’ve been in close contact with in the 48 hours before symptoms started, inform those people.

Seriously don’t rely on track & trace they are rubbish!

GreyishDays Sat 14-Nov-20 21:25:36

Moot point now, as we told my daughter my son texted his friends, so now we need to tell her friends anyway.

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rainbowunicorn Sat 14-Nov-20 21:27:06

Why the fuck does everyone call it Track and Trace? That is a Royal mail thing to track your parcels.

GreyishDays Sat 14-Nov-20 21:28:34

And it looks like school aren’t phoning me straight back anyway. hmm

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dyzzidi Sat 14-Nov-20 21:35:54

I would email the school the results. Most schools have a rota for checking emails and children over the weekend. They may not ring you directly but will have class lists and seating plans etc so can act from home.

GreyishDays Sat 14-Nov-20 21:42:48

dyzzidi

I would email the school the results. Most schools have a rota for checking emails and children over the weekend. They may not ring you directly but will have class lists and seating plans etc so can act from home.

I did that straight away. There’s a phone line and they will phone me back. I was hoping they’d do that straight away tbh. And then get onto contacts. But they haven’t.

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Firefliess Sat 14-Nov-20 22:05:04

DD heard from a friend that she had tested positive and DD would have to isolate on a Sunday. School doesn't tell her til the Monday. It was good to know sooner as it allowed us to keep DD in and stay our distance from her ourselves. So I would tell those you know she's had contact with. Make sure you tell them exactly when she first got any symptoms as that affects who needs to isolate (it's contact in the 48 hours before first symptoms that matters)

3littlewords Sat 14-Nov-20 22:28:45

I would tell her close friends especially if she sits next to them a lot in classes so at least they can expect their DC to be isolating for the foreseeable.
My DS best friend needed to be tested during the week they sit next to each other in most classes I was grateful for his DM keeping me in the loop (it was negative in the end) but I didn't feel any animosity or anger about it if that's what you are worried about. I suppose it depends on the relationship you already have with the other parent but I'd always be appreciative of the heads up personally. Hope your DD is ok

queenjaneappro Sat 14-Nov-20 22:56:09

On Monday this week dropped my dd7 to school at 0900, had a text at 0910 from school saying to go and her her straight away as someone in class had tested positive. Don't know whether the parent of the kid who tested positive waited until Monday morning to tell school, or whether my school didn't check calls/emails over the weekend?
Either way it was an extra hassle and I'd rather have known sooner.

freddiethegreat Sat 14-Nov-20 23:09:56

Are people seriously isolating themselves from their (positive) children in the same house?! Seriously???

PurpleDaisies Sat 14-Nov-20 23:13:29

GreyishDays

And it looks like school aren’t phoning me straight back anyway. hmm

At 9 o clock on a Saturday night?
Lazy arseholes. hmm

How is it that schools are expected to be ok 24hour call for this?

3littlewords Sat 14-Nov-20 23:14:06

freddiethegreat

Are people seriously isolating themselves from their (positive) children in the same house?! Seriously???

I wouldn't be isolating from them either they're children for gods sake probably what they need most in the world when feeling ill is a hug and cuddles from their Mum.

churchcoffee Sun 15-Nov-20 00:12:01

Children don't necessarily feel ill at all, and won't be helped if parents catch it from them unnecessarily when they might avoid it by keeping a bit of physical distance.

Obviously you can't physically distance from young children, but for older kids who aren't actually feeling ill, it would be mad to carry on as normal and for instance all watch tv together in the evenings if you know one of you is positive!

Bobtheshark Sun 15-Nov-20 00:13:02

@freddiethegreat - agree it’s ridiculous and pointless if you live together. I know 3 people who have tested positive and no members of their family contracted it.

GreyishDays Sun 15-Nov-20 07:24:31

@PurpleDaisies

I think it’s a shame that there are potentially infectious people wandering about today, yes. I presumed they’d have a rota or something. They say to phone them out of hours and they’ll phone back. That was why I didn’t think to necessarily do it ourselves. I don’t think my daughter will necessarily remember who sits where in every class, from all the different classes. So they need the seating plans.

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GreyishDays Sun 15-Nov-20 07:26:58

Ah school has just texted me.

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BefuddledPerson Sun 15-Nov-20 07:28:17

rainbowunicorn

Why the fuck does everyone call it Track and Trace? That is a Royal mail thing to track your parcels.

Grumpy today? grin

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