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'the ban includes partners who live elsewhere'

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Muranoandizumi · 01/11/2020 22:20

Those of you who don't live with your partner and can't form a bubble, will you be seeing them as normal ? Do they expect us to only meet our partner outside and socially distanced for potentially months ?

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TheDowagerDuchessofMwwwahaha · 01/11/2020 22:23

Why can’t you form a bubble with them? Do you both live with other adults?

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TheDowagerDuchessofMwwwahaha · 01/11/2020 22:23

I think if you aren’t a single adult household you can only meet them outdoors.

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Muranoandizumi · 01/11/2020 22:27

Yes we both do, I think this particular rule is cruel and draconian.

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Givemeabreak88 · 01/11/2020 22:29

Some people will live in house shares so they won’t be the only adult, so that means they can’t meet with their partners inside. If I’m getting that right!

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KarlKennedysDurianFruit · 01/11/2020 22:31

It's the same as before, you either move in for the duration or you don't see each other for a bit

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Muranoandizumi · 01/11/2020 22:32

How many are actually going to comply with this again ?

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Muranoandizumi · 01/11/2020 22:33

Depending on jobs, kids etc. It's not always practical to move in. It's also very easy for cohabiting couples to judge because it doesn't affect them.

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KarlKennedysDurianFruit · 01/11/2020 22:38

You can meet outside, it's 4 weeks, not 4 months

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Givemeabreak88 · 01/11/2020 22:38

Laughing at “its 4 weeks” it won’t only be 4 weeks though will it, we was told it was only 3 weeks the first time Hmm

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KarlKennedysDurianFruit · 01/11/2020 22:39

How do you think military couples manage?

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IcedLimes · 01/11/2020 22:40

Yanbu

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1Morewineplease · 01/11/2020 22:40

So what did you do the last time?

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grapewine · 01/11/2020 22:40

@Givemeabreak88

Laughing at “its 4 weeks” it won’t only be 4 weeks though will it, we was told it was only 3 weeks the first time Hmm

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Contentmayvary · 01/11/2020 22:41

Just carry on as you were. I wouldn't judge you. Maybe be more careful in other ways to compensate.

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TheGinGenie · 01/11/2020 22:41

Yeah I'm not doing it again. DP and I spent 12 weeks apart earlier in the year and really suffered, fuck that.

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enjoyingthequiet · 01/11/2020 22:41

^^ this

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Porcupineinwaiting · 01/11/2020 22:42

Well if you do both live with other people then you can understand exactly why they dont want the two of you connecting up the two households cant you?

It's tough and its shit but the virus doesnt much care about extenuating circumstances. It just likes to move from person to person.

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Muranoandizumi · 01/11/2020 22:43

We did it last time. Will try and figure something out anyway. I wouldn't judge couples either for doing it, it's hardly like having a party or something.

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DeeCeeCherry · 01/11/2020 22:51

I didn't see DP from March until 1st week in June, during previous lockdown. I will be seeing him this time around. Cold dark winter nights, rubbish weather for walks, nowhere to socialise etc. No thanks. & I've a mind others will be feeling the same

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Onjnmoeiejducwoapy · 01/11/2020 22:52

Am in same situation—moving in would be impossible (small houses, both need to work from home with lots of calls).

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hamstersarse · 01/11/2020 22:53

I’ll be seeing DP 🤷‍♀️

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Muranoandizumi · 01/11/2020 22:54

Yeah, the last lockdown was very much helped by the fact that we had amazing weather. Things are different this time round. If it was certain that it was only 4 weeks, that'd be different, but it's the uncertainty around it all.

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JaceLancs · 01/11/2020 22:58

Fortunately DP (severe MH issues) lives alone so can bubble
DM has recently come out of hospital following hip replacement also has dementia so am counting her as supplying care to vulnerable person otherwise would have to choose between them!

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TheGinGenie · 01/11/2020 22:59

I live alone, DP is a lodger. We can't bubble because his landlords would have to have me as their bubble and it would mean 5 people who barely know me having me as a bubble. We can't move in together. We will only see each other, no other friends. We spent 12 weeks apart in the first lockdown and in August DP was suicidal. His dad has previously taken his own life which puts DP at a lot higher risk than most. I'm not prepared to leave him to go through it again alone.

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Muranoandizumi · 01/11/2020 22:59

I'm glad you can see both :)
It seems like generally speaking people will be seeing their partner as usual. I'm sure it will all be done carefully and taking extra precautions.

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