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'the ban includes partners who live elsewhere'

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Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 22:20:35

Those of you who don't live with your partner and can't form a bubble, will you be seeing them as normal ? Do they expect us to only meet our partner outside and socially distanced for potentially months ?

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TheDowagerDuchessofMwwwahaha Sun 01-Nov-20 22:23:13

Why can’t you form a bubble with them? Do you both live with other adults?

TheDowagerDuchessofMwwwahaha Sun 01-Nov-20 22:23:36

I think if you aren’t a single adult household you can only meet them outdoors.

Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 22:27:25

Yes we both do, I think this particular rule is cruel and draconian.

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Givemeabreak88 Sun 01-Nov-20 22:29:43

Some people will live in house shares so they won’t be the only adult, so that means they can’t meet with their partners inside. If I’m getting that right!

KarlKennedysDurianFruit Sun 01-Nov-20 22:31:27

It's the same as before, you either move in for the duration or you don't see each other for a bit

Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 22:32:15

How many are actually going to comply with this again ?

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Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 22:33:28

Depending on jobs, kids etc. It's not always practical to move in. It's also very easy for cohabiting couples to judge because it doesn't affect them.

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KarlKennedysDurianFruit Sun 01-Nov-20 22:38:05

You can meet outside, it's 4 weeks, not 4 months

Givemeabreak88 Sun 01-Nov-20 22:38:54

Laughing at “its 4 weeks” it won’t only be 4 weeks though will it, we was told it was only 3 weeks the first time hmm

KarlKennedysDurianFruit Sun 01-Nov-20 22:39:54

How do you think military couples manage?

IcedLimes Sun 01-Nov-20 22:40:12


1Morewineplease Sun 01-Nov-20 22:40:30

So what did you do the last time?

grapewine Sun 01-Nov-20 22:40:38


Laughing at “its 4 weeks” it won’t only be 4 weeks though will it, we was told it was only 3 weeks the first time hmm


Contentmayvary Sun 01-Nov-20 22:41:19

Just carry on as you were. I wouldn't judge you. Maybe be more careful in other ways to compensate.

TheGinGenie Sun 01-Nov-20 22:41:47

Yeah I'm not doing it again. DP and I spent 12 weeks apart earlier in the year and really suffered, fuck that.

enjoyingthequiet Sun 01-Nov-20 22:41:57

^^ this

Porcupineinwaiting Sun 01-Nov-20 22:42:52

Well if you do both live with other people then you can understand exactly why they dont want the two of you connecting up the two households cant you?

It's tough and its shit but the virus doesnt much care about extenuating circumstances. It just likes to move from person to person.

Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 22:43:00

We did it last time. Will try and figure something out anyway. I wouldn't judge couples either for doing it, it's hardly like having a party or something.

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DeeCeeCherry Sun 01-Nov-20 22:51:18

I didn't see DP from March until 1st week in June, during previous lockdown. I will be seeing him this time around. Cold dark winter nights, rubbish weather for walks, nowhere to socialise etc. No thanks. & I've a mind others will be feeling the same

Onjnmoeiejducwoapy Sun 01-Nov-20 22:52:43

Am in same situation—moving in would be impossible (small houses, both need to work from home with lots of calls).

hamstersarse Sun 01-Nov-20 22:53:36

I’ll be seeing DP 🤷‍♀️

Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 22:54:44

Yeah, the last lockdown was very much helped by the fact that we had amazing weather. Things are different this time round. If it was certain that it was only 4 weeks, that'd be different, but it's the uncertainty around it all.

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JaceLancs Sun 01-Nov-20 22:58:16

Fortunately DP (severe MH issues) lives alone so can bubble
DM has recently come out of hospital following hip replacement also has dementia so am counting her as supplying care to vulnerable person otherwise would have to choose between them!

TheGinGenie Sun 01-Nov-20 22:59:10

I live alone, DP is a lodger. We can't bubble because his landlords would have to have me as their bubble and it would mean 5 people who barely know me having me as a bubble. We can't move in together. We will only see each other, no other friends. We spent 12 weeks apart in the first lockdown and in August DP was suicidal. His dad has previously taken his own life which puts DP at a lot higher risk than most. I'm not prepared to leave him to go through it again alone.

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