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Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 15:04:33

Partner lives 3 hours away with his family. Can't bubble up because I live in a houseshare with people I never even see or speak to.
So can't bubble up with my family either.
Work in a school now i'm hearing they might be closing soon.
Nothing to look forward to except walks or jogging for the next few months or straining my eyes on a screen seeing that everything is online now.
Don't believe for a second it'll be until 2nd December only.

Feel very depressed and hopeless today but guess I should be grateful because i've not died of Covid and still have an income.

If you plan to tell me to suck it up or other vile phrases then don't bother commenting.

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Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 15:05:53

Life was so good in the summer when so much was normal again albeit with social distancing, I feel like this is the future now for a good while.

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Bouncycastle12 Sun 01-Nov-20 15:06:07

It’s grim, and I’m sorry. I think a lot of people are feeling the same, if that helps at all? I really hope you find a way of enjoying the next bit is small ways? I’m trying a bit of self-indulgence this weekend!

Lemons1571 Sun 01-Nov-20 15:07:36

In your situation I would class myself as a single adult living alone, and bubble up with someone. If you never see your housemates then the only possible transmission route is touch, and the risks surely no different to other support bubbles that are allowed.

Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 15:08:03

Scared of losing my relationship because of this, I live in this grotty houseshare with crap Wi-Fi, a leak and people who leave hairs in the sink, don't know why I moved here, but this is it now.

Thank you, you're right that many people are, but a lot of them live with their partner or can bubble at least.

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Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 15:08:52

I pass them in the hallway but never spend any time with them or in close contact, I might just do that to be honest.

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BefuddledPerson Sun 01-Nov-20 15:09:28

flowers cake brew and wine for you.

Was discussing with do the one thing I thought better for people in your circs is one + one meetings outdoors are allowed so at least you can meet for walks or in parks. I know that's not much but you can see friends. I take a chair, hot water bottle and flask to meet my mate, been doing it for a while.

BefuddledPerson Sun 01-Nov-20 15:09:51

confused do = dh

Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 15:10:42

Thank you.
It's hard because we live 3.5 hours apart and so if it's chucking it down or whatever it's very hard, don't even know if public toilets are open.

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MRex Sun 01-Nov-20 15:10:46

Sounds like you need to move regardless. Can you look around a bit? Or move in with family / friends for a while if they're nearer?

Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 15:12:13

Looking at moving closer to my partner if I can, but need to find another job for that, sadly can't move in with family now as they live 2 hours from my workplace but i'll look around.

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FizzyDizzy121 Sun 01-Nov-20 15:12:47

It's very difficult and I'm sorry you're struggling.

Summer was definitely too soon - I think a lot of people thought we had come through the worst of it and we now know things like Eat Out to Help Out etc actually made it worse for us now.

My advice is to allow yourself to be sad and down for a day, stay in bed, eat bad food etc. Then make a plan. Is there anything on your to do list that now would be a good opportunity to do? E.g. declutter, do an online course, lose weight etc? I've been shielding since March and it's been incredibly tough but I'm lucky to have an indoor bike and work from home. I've managed to beat a lot of personal beats on the bike so far (and lost nearly 2 stone!) which has been something for me to work towards

Good luck

Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 15:15:14

Thanks, sorry to hear it's been tough for you.
I had recently joined a gym and started getting fit but that's off the cards now.
Weather is rubbish so doesn't really inspire going outside, i'll look at getting some indoor equipment.

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user1274157963247 Sun 01-Nov-20 15:15:44

It is demoralising. It may not be lifted on 2 December, but things will be brighter in the spring and that will come around quicker than it feels when we're focused on how shit this is right now.

That's what I'm using to keep my head above water anyway. That and trying to find tiny little things I can do that make it all feel less rubbish - I think for a lot of us what makes this so tough is feeling we have no control over our lives, so finding lots of small things we can influence can help.

I don't think simply being alive and having an income mean you can't feel depressed about what's happening to you. It's not a competition.

Youandmeareluckytobeus Sun 01-Nov-20 15:16:00

Work in a school now i'm hearing they might be closing soon.
Where have you heard that? The PM wants schools to remain open. Be careful who you listen to.

Don't believe for a second it'll be until 2nd December only.
Negativity is not going to help.

Feel very depressed and hopeless today but guess I should be grateful because i've not died of Covid and still have an income.
If you feel like that then please contact your GP to get some medication to help as this is going to last a month. We will then be allocated tier levels based on how well our area's rate of infection/death/hospitalisations is. It will end, you just have to hang on in there, be as positive as you can be and seek help for depression if you need it. It is tough though.

BefuddledPerson Sun 01-Nov-20 15:18:08

Negativity is not going to help Neither is telling someone they shouldn't be negative when they've a legitimate reason to be pissed off hmm

Muranoandizumi Sun 01-Nov-20 15:18:31

Everybody seems to think, even Michael Gove, that it's going to be extended.
They're pushing for schools to close, and they might not but still it wouldn't surprise me.

Tier 3 which I was in was fine, but this is just too far.
I will look at some medication, if I can even get an appointment at the moment.

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the80sweregreat Sun 01-Nov-20 16:24:11

It sounds an awful situation for you.
I'm not sure where you've heard about schools as I think the government are trying hard to keep them open hence shutting non essential shops and pubs and everything else. I know it doesn't help your situation much but whoever has told you this isn't correct.

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants Sun 01-Nov-20 23:02:10

Lemons1571

In your situation I would class myself as a single adult living alone, and bubble up with someone. If you never see your housemates then the only possible transmission route is touch, and the risks surely no different to other support bubbles that are allowed.

Of course it's different because she's sharing communal spaces which someone living alone won't be!

@Muranoandizumi. You definitely need to see your GP. & see if you can self refer to some talking therapy. From your various threads you appear to be spiralling

Take care & look at moving from that flatbed soon as you're able, it won't be doing your MH any good!!

If your DP is a keeper, lockdown won't make you lose him and if you lose him he wasn't a keeper!!

profilechange Sun 01-Nov-20 23:06:21

I'm with you OP. I'm so sad right now, won't be able to see my partner properly for weeks. We can't carry on like this, it's just a cycle we aren't getting out of. Can't do it again 😩

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