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Scared to leave the house(10 Posts)
I've been diagnosed with post natal anxiety and honestly I feel so drained and sick of feeling terrified of getting covid, I already have anxieties about illness and dying. Its got to the point where I cant bring myself to leave the house, I've had panic attacks over it. The thought of leaving my house with my baby to take my 7 year old to school after half term literally makes me feel ill. I dont know how to cope. I've been given medication to help deal with the physical side of things but I just can't relax or stop my mind racing, I can't stop the fear of going out. Has anyone else felt like this or found ways of coping? X
What’s your journey to school like? Is it by car or by foot? You need some grounding techniques to keep your panic at bay.
Its a short car journey. Then I would have to walk up to the main gate with son and wait in a queue for the teacher to collect the class.
@Cherryrainbow I'm currently going through similar anxieties as you. I was on the extremely clinically vulnerable list and remained indoors only going out for a walk once a week. I'm still being careful but i have to do the school run.
I work myself up and get panic attacks whilst driving to school and walking into the playground. I have to remind myself that nothing will happen and concentrate on my breathing. I'm getting counselling for my anxiety and I take beta blockers to help with the palpatations.
What helps me is writing down how I feel when I'm having an attack,what the triggers are, what happened as result of the attack. this is to remind me that nothing bad happened. I know come Monday it will be awful doing the school run, but Tuesday it will become slightly less awful. It doesn't help that I'm a natural worrier and with covid I find I'm constantly anxious about my health.
Thanks for your reply hun. I've been put on beta blockers too. Thanks for sharing your experience I was feeling like I was the only one with these fears and experience. I think apart from the school run I won't otherwise be leaving the house unless going to drs so... hopefully will be safe I just need to build myself up to this x
The beta blockers will help a lot. Make sure you are busying yourself and chatting with your 7 year old. It will keep your brain busy so it doesn't have time to panic. Child-friendly music (times tables songs?) in the car. Headphones ready with a story/podcast for when you have dropped off.
The secret is not to let yourself fall down the rabbit hole of panic, keep busy to keep it at bay.
I'm reading a book about anxiety by Chloe Brotheridge, and it's really helping me understand why we feel so threatened and things. I'm still struggling with horrible acrophobia though.
You could try being really enthusiastic with your 7 year old and try to trick yourself in to believing you are excited to be out and about. Grounding techniques are things like: think of 5 things you can hear right now - make it in to a competition with your child, so both listen very carefully and you might hear a bird or a siren in the distance etc. It’ll hopefully distract you enough. Make sure you get fresh air every day - pram walk with your baby.
I agree with the above poster about being really enthusiastic with your child , this works for me. I also find if I go a little bit late to school (but only by 5-10 mins) it’s a little bit calmer and easier to distance . I understand how hard it is OP, I really feel for you xxx
Have you spoken to your health visitor.
I was diagnosed with post natal anxiety back in March when my baby was 5 weeks old.
I felt exactly the same way you do.
I was petrified to even go for a daily walk (which was all that was allowed back then)
I had high intensity CBT and it’s really helped.
I’m still anxious but I have found ways to deal with it and put things into perspective.
Have a chat with your midwife/HV and ask for a referral.
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