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Grieving for old life

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Danceswithgeckos Sun 13-Sep-20 18:32:16

I know this sounds ridiculous when lots of people are actually grieving for lost friends and family but I’ve felt so sad this last week.
I knew it would get worse again when schools went back but it’s already in our schools locally.
My daughter keeps talking about her birthday party, which obviously won’t be happening and I know - I know - in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter but I’m still sad about it for her. Both my children missed trick or treating last year because they were poorly and they were looking forward to this year. My mom and dad have a special anniversary in October and a trip planned and now it won’t happen and due to my dad’s declining health there’s a fair chance that they won’t be able to go at all ever now.
I do understand these are minor things, I know it but I still feel so fucking sad about it.

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prettycatseyes Sun 13-Sep-20 18:34:48

I'm exactly the same, I feel more sorry for my daughter whose 18, she wanted to go off travelling and do all the usual stuff 18 year olds makes me really sad. She seems happy enough but definitely feel the same as you xx

RepeatSwan Sun 13-Sep-20 18:41:41

flowers op.

I think it's right to grieve a little, we're all feeling it. I am very sad about the things we used to do.

But stay strong with your children, with a loving family even very hard times are ok and can have joy in them.

Babdoc Sun 13-Sep-20 22:09:02

Yup, me too, OP. I live alone, and I really miss my social life. I used to be out a lot at bridge club, table tennis club, theatre, concert hall, the Edinburgh festival, visiting my adult kids, walking in the hills and going to the coast, having foreign holidays, etc.
I was hospitalised with Covid in April, and have been left breathless with lung damage and post viral fatigue ever since. I now have home oxygen and get puffed walking 100 yards to the village shop. I doubt I will ever be able to do what I used to, even when life eventually reverts to normal in a year or two. It’s bloody depressing, but we just have to try and make the best of it. At least we are still alive to moan about it!

Qasd Sun 13-Sep-20 22:14:51

Me too and I don’t really think there is anything wrong with it! I liked my life before with theatres, birthday parties socialising I wouldn’t have done it otherwise! Why anyone would think I did all that got it taken away suddenly overnight and not miss it is beyond me! As I said why do those people think I did that stuff in the first place if nut because life was always more than walking from the exact same room as I sleep in?!

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