I saw my mum today and I think she seems depressed. She said she hardly ever does anything or talks to anyone these days. My Dad is in a care home as he has Alzheimers and I think she is really struggling living alone and misses him having been married for 52 years. She is only allowed to visit him outside and she has to wear a mask and keep 2m apart. Last week the carer ‘told her off’ as she touched his arm briefly, no skin to skin contact as he had a long shirt on.
She said to me today ‘we can’t live like this forever’ & she thinks it’s cruel as the elderly people in care homes are in the final years of their life and need their loved ones close.
She is usually very busy socially but all the groups (think WI, bridge etc..) are still not meeting and I think she is becoming increasingly low and unhappy. I have never seen her like this before. I suggested she meet up with friends outside for walks, coffee and she just said hmm maybe. She said but what about the winter & Christmas, we can’t meet outside then!
I just saw such sadness in her today. It must be so hard to be told she cannot hold the hand or even the arm of the man she has loved all her life. It is heartbreaking to watch & I don’t know what to do to help.
Sorry so long just needed to get this out. Is anyone else experiencing similar?
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Worried about my mum, she seems depressed
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Littlemiss74 · 31/08/2020 20:27
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