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Am I OTT or do other people just not care?!

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Lou0808 · 05/07/2020 02:10

Tonight on social media, I've seen several posts from "friends" (and by friends I mean Facebook friends, people from school who I've not actually seen or spoken to in a long time) who are having parties with absolutely zero social distancing.

One particular person has posted videos of people in her house, easily 20 people.
All doing karaoke, drinking shots, dancing.

Another post from a separate person is a picture being in a pub hugging three girls captioned "missed my besties"


A work colleague posted a picture of her young niece saying she's staying over at her house, again hugging her.

I don't mean to sound like the "fun" police. I know we've all desperately missed our friends and families, but the situation is never going to improve unless we follow the guidelines.


I have a 4 month old DD and I've love nothing more than for her to have a cuddle with my mum and her other grandparents, but I just wouldn't allow it.

I desperately miss my friends, I'd love to have them over and hug them, but I wouldn't do it.

Am I being over the top? Am I right for feeling pissed off at people just not following the rules?

I just feel like it's going to drag things out even longer if people just do as they please 😔

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BusterGonad · 05/07/2020 02:27

Imo you are being way over the top. I personally think the repercussions of lock down are way way worse than covid 19.

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AllTeaAllShade · 05/07/2020 02:31

No your not being over the top, you're being careful, so am I, I'll look forward to seeing family and friends when its safe to do so

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Lou0808 · 05/07/2020 02:38

@BusterGonad

Imo you are being way over the top. I personally think the repercussions of lock down are way way worse than covid 19.

How exactly do you feel I'm being way over the top? Because I'm social distancing or because I won't let family hold my DD?
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Quartz2208 · 05/07/2020 02:43

It’s a risk analysis some of it is a high level some at the individual one

My kids will hug their grandparents because I think the risks are low

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Luzina · 05/07/2020 02:43

Only you can decide what's best for you/your family.

Don't waste your energy getting annoyed about other people's choices. Stay off social media, that's what Ive been doing

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Neome · 05/07/2020 02:44

@BusterGonad

Imo you are being way over the top. I personally think the repercussions of lock down are way way worse than covid 19.

A lot of people died during lockdown. Some from Covid 19 some from the other repercussions. Do you feel death from Covid 19 is less important than other repercussions?
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Lou0808 · 05/07/2020 02:44

@Luzina

Only you can decide what's best for you/your family.

Don't waste your energy getting annoyed about other people's choices. Stay off social media, that's what Ive been doing

I think it's just the frustration that unless people follow the guidelines, I can't see how the situation is ever going to improve.
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BusterGonad · 05/07/2020 02:53

People losing their homes, jobs, businesses. Hospitals canceling appointments, cancer treatment etc. The economy ruined. Kids not going to school. Suicides. Domestic abuse. Kids living in shit holes with shitty parents who don't feed them properly etc. It's only my opinion but it's how I feel.

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wildone84 · 05/07/2020 02:54

No, you're not being OTT. I will be seeing friends and family soon but we won't be hugging.

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Pixxie7 · 05/07/2020 03:21

I don’t think your being OTT, however I think your probably more at risk going to the beach etc than having a hug with a close relative where you able to calculate the risk.

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Medievalist · 05/07/2020 03:39

Depends on your family's circumstances really. If you've all kept social contact to a minimum and nobody has underlying health issues then I think you are being OTT.

I think people do need to apply some common sense now the rules have been relaxed.

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ChristmasCarcass · 05/07/2020 03:53

I think it depends on the individual risk - the people you are describing all sound pretty young, under 40 if not younger. So if they do catch covid, assuming no other health issues, it’s unlikely they will suffer any serious harm. So they may think the benefit to their mental health is worth the risk.

If they were 70, or had a kidney transplant, or any other issue, I imagine their risk assessment would be quite different.

I have been socialising with individual people from work - we spend 8 hrs sitting next to each other every day, so I can’t see there is any more risk in sitting outside in the park with them. I wouldn’t go to the pub or anywhere I was unable to social distance from strangers, and I wouldn’t hang out with anyone who was shielding. I’ve started seeing DM - she lives alone, so we are in her bubble now. Haven’t seen PIL yet, and they are pretty risk averse so they want to stay away even once restrictions are lifted.

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Happyhappyday · 05/07/2020 04:20

@ChristmasCarcass the point of quarantine isn’t to stop young healthy people getting sick. It’s to stop 1. Lots of people getting sick and overwhelming the healthcare system and 2. Stopping lots of people getting sick which makes it much more likely that old vulnerable will get it.

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geojojo · 05/07/2020 06:11

Aren't you allowed to have family and friends in your house now? I haven't but I was sure that was one of the recent changes. I'm not a huggy person anyway apart from with my husband and children so don't miss that but can understand if you are it must be hard, even my children are used to social distancing now. Im not massively cautious but won't break any guidelines.

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user1493413286 · 05/07/2020 06:26

I’m letting my pil hug my 4 month old as they have been out very little (only to the shops) and I’m now having people over. I’m not hugging people but I’m not sure that in my house I’ll realistically be keeping a metre plus away at all times.
I don’t trust the government with this and I think you have to make your own risk assessment based on your age, vulnerability, exposure etc

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iffymiffy · 05/07/2020 06:30

You’re not being OTT, but plenty of people here will say you are.

@geojojo only from one other household. Not 20

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Bluemoooon · 05/07/2020 06:30

We are back on lockdown here in part of Scotland as there have been social gatherings and an outbreak.
At least now they act fast and make everyone stay home til the outbreak clears.

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PhilCornwall1 · 05/07/2020 06:33

Totally over the top. What those people are doing is up to them and not really anything to do with you. It's simple, if those types of things make you uncomfortable, don't go if you are invited.

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KindKylie · 05/07/2020 06:40

I've had a hug from a friend today. It felt great and was much needed. The risk is incredibly low and benefit huge.

My dc are having their cousins to sleep over in the next couple of days - they are so excited and it will do them all the power of good. None of them have been anywhere nor into school. The risks are tiny.

Bizarrely, they could all be in school, on public transport, in a pub, at work or even going on flipping holiday abroad. Just because that's all OK as per the rules it's way riskier imo.

Don't judge. It's pointless and arbitrary.

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Divebar · 05/07/2020 06:44

I’ve just started to see my friends either on their own or in a small group (socialising outside) but I wouldn’t go to a party. If I had a 4 month old I would probably not do that but I don’t. I know our local hospital is empty so I conclude Covid is not raging through my community. We all make risk assessments based on our own circumstances.

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ceeveebee · 05/07/2020 06:45

I think there’s a middle ground in between eg we went to a classmates party yesterday and there were 4 kids and 4 parents there (in a garden) so technically breaking the rules but not exactly tearing the pants out of it (to quote JVT!!). And we had our in-laws across for dinner the day before the rules changed. But we are not doing cuddles and we are doing our best to maintain a 2m distance with them

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user1497207191 · 05/07/2020 06:54

People losing their homes, jobs, businesses. Hospitals canceling appointments, cancer treatment etc. The economy ruined. Kids not going to school. Suicides. Domestic abuse. Kids living in shit holes with shitty parents who don't feed them properly etc. It's only my opinion but it's how I feel.

People partying and ignoring social distancing doesn't make any of that better - it's likely to worsen it if it causes cases to rise again.

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EnlightenedOwl · 05/07/2020 06:55

@BusterGonad

Imo you are being way over the top. I personally think the repercussions of lock down are way way worse than covid 19.

Agreed
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EnlightenedOwl · 05/07/2020 06:56

@BusterGonad

People losing their homes, jobs, businesses. Hospitals canceling appointments, cancer treatment etc. The economy ruined. Kids not going to school. Suicides. Domestic abuse. Kids living in shit holes with shitty parents who don't feed them properly etc. It's only my opinion but it's how I feel.

You are so right
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secretllama · 05/07/2020 06:58

Maybe people have realised that at the start we'd been lied to about the purpose and length of lockdown . We were told it was to flatten the curve, ensure the nhs wont be overwhelmed. Now it seems like (in Scotland anyway) that the aim is elimination. We're getting around 5 to 10 cases a day.

Also as we're seeing lockdown being reinstated in Germany, Spain, Leicester etc people will start to think what is the point. You personally can follow all the rules to a tee and the virus still spreads in your community. I've never seen the end goal of lockdown, as long as you have a few cases in the community it will spread again when its lifted so what is the actual point.

People cant and wont live this weird limbo life away from their friends and family indefinitely and its only natural that as weeks go on, more and more people will "give in". I cant blame them. I'm going to my mums today, my sister and niece will be there and I won't be social distancing inside.

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