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Isrhisavalidusername Fri 19-Jun-20 21:57:00

Just saw a friend who was visibly upset and hugged her. It was a totally natural reaction then afterwards I was like shit sorry I shouldn't have hugged you.

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Isrhisavalidusername Fri 19-Jun-20 21:58:02

Pressed send before I'd finished! Now I'm slightly freaked out by what I've done.

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PurpleDaisies Fri 19-Jun-20 21:59:34

The chances are it will be fine. Just forget about it unless either of you gets symptoms.

Hugglespuffed Fri 19-Jun-20 22:11:19

I wouldn't be annoyed with you. It was a natural reaction to make your friend feel better. You didn't do it on purpose and the chances are you'll both be fine.

Isrhisavalidusername Fri 19-Jun-20 22:15:25

Thankyou. I hugged them and then had a little freak out. It was totally a natural instinct to seeing someone upset.

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maleficent53 Fri 19-Jun-20 22:15:29

It is fine community transmission is low and peoples mental health more important. You have done a good thing

secretllama Fri 19-Jun-20 22:18:04

I met my sister in the garden today. She told me she was pregnant and I immediately hugged her without thinking. I'm not worried though, but it was the most natural reaction!

Isrhisavalidusername Fri 19-Jun-20 22:23:36

Thankyou everyone you've made me feel better.

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Bol87 Fri 19-Jun-20 22:54:20

These things happen. It’s hard to abandon natural responses. A lady dropped some of her shopping in Sainsburys the other day & I absent mindedly stepped very close & picked it up for her! Then realised what I’d done! I started to apologise and thankfully, she was totally fine & we had a distanced chat about how weird it all is!

Passthebubbly Fri 19-Jun-20 23:16:23

My my is in hospital I was allowed to see her just before surgery and the nurse quietly said in my ear before I was taken in, “she wants to see you, when the door closes take off that mask and let her see you and give her a hug” I did just that and don’t feel guilty

Redolent Sat 20-Jun-20 00:13:01

Keep checking AIBU to see if she creates a thread there.

nutellafortea Sat 20-Jun-20 05:16:37

You did the right thing. I live in Spain and other day my neighbour came to visit me, as I opened the door this lovely woman gave me the usual air kisses. I was delighted and even thanked her for it. She said we are both healthy, no need to worry, let's get back to normal... in her words "it is important to show some affection". All my other Spanish friends are keeping their distances. So happy to have an affectionate neighbour who is not paranoid. And if I get covid because of her so be it, I'm tired of this already and happy to take my chances out there.

Isrhisavalidusername Sat 20-Jun-20 08:33:33

@Redolent if I create a thread there??

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CestTout Sat 20-Jun-20 08:37:09

Don’t worry- as others have said it’s a completely natural reaction and the mental health implications of the last three months are just massive :-(

PinkBuffalo Sat 20-Jun-20 08:39:46

Try not to worry op If you are both well I think it will be ok.
I hugged my colleague/friend when she came into the office first time since March (everyone apart from me wfh) and put my arm around her because her mum had died during lockdown And she had not been able to speak to anyone face to face about it other than her family she lives with. Neither of us have been poorly or have got poorly as a result. I do not regret it one bit

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