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I need to visit my OH in hospital

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joystir59 Fri 19-Jun-20 01:24:10

Anyone else not able to visit their loved ones who are seriously ill in hospital? The lack of contact is really painful. My DW is on a ward where she cannot get a mobile signal and there is no WiFi. But really the issue is not being to visit her. She is really ill, nil by mouth, waiting for scan results which should have been reviewed this morning but weren't, possible obstruction somewhere in her digestive tract, no one giving me any information. Anyone else? The decision to completely stop any form of visiting right across the board is too harsh!!!

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joystir59 Fri 19-Jun-20 01:24:52

Oh, and has advanced ovarian cancer.

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Icanflyhigh Fri 19-Jun-20 01:37:32

I'm so sorry for you, I didn't want to read and not reply.

Can you chase for the results of the scan in the morning?

DramaAlpaca Fri 19-Jun-20 01:40:33

A sympathetic handhold from me @joystir59. That must be so difficult for you both flowers

oo0Tinkerbell0oo Fri 19-Jun-20 04:26:13

Sorry about your wife. I get that it is upsetting not to be able to visit but the no visiting rule is to protect the patients and staff (and also yourself) from infection from a highly contagious virus.
Have you asked the ward if they are able to facetime you. If not you can ask for them to take the phone to your wife or your wife to the phone if she is up to it.

Layladylay234 Fri 19-Jun-20 05:56:31

Hey OP. Sorry to hear your situation. I've linked a document that PHE put out a few weeks ago that says the nationwide restrictions on visiting have now been lifted and it's down to individual trusts to make a decision. It might be worth reading it and going to the trust with it to ask when they expect to me implementing it and citing yours and your partners mental health and how it is effecting it. I'd also suggest getting pals involved and maybe a charity to advocate for you to try and arrange a visit x
Good luck

Cusano34 Fri 19-Jun-20 22:07:56

The trust I work in Is allowing visitors from Monday. One visitor per day for once hour. You have to wear a mask and wash and sanitise your hands when entering and leaving. I really hope you get to see you wife really soon 💓

SirVixofVixHall Fri 19-Jun-20 22:36:10

What a horrendous situation, I am so sorry. My friend’s husband was taken into hospital this week, and she was allowed to visit, I think there is some leeway. I hope you can get to see her tomorrow. Have you spoken to her consultant?

JacobReesMogadishu Fri 19-Jun-20 22:40:07

The hospital really need to sort WiFi access out in such a situation. Could you ask PALS if there’s anyway of sorting out WiFi access?

joystir59 Fri 19-Jun-20 22:47:20

So she has now been told that the cancer has grown and there will not be any more treatment and I still cannot visit her. This is cruel beyond belief

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joystir59 Fri 19-Jun-20 22:48:22

I went and got myself tested for the virus and have my negative result back, I'm going to try and get to see her with that tomorrow.

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m0therofdragons Fri 19-Jun-20 22:51:26

It’s not ideal but the ward should support you to video call daily - all nhs hospitals have free WiFi so perhaps it was temporarily down but they will have it. We also have devices to ensure video calls can happen. Contact PALs if the ward staff are unsure. I’m so sorry the staff aren’t supporting you as they should. It’s challenging times but our ward staff recognise how hard this is and are doing all they can to support so it’s really disappointing to hear your experience isn’t the same.

m0therofdragons Fri 19-Jun-20 22:53:20

End of life and exceptional circumstances are reasons to visit and these have been open all along. Please speak to pals or escalate to the chief exec!

Shinygreenelephant Fri 19-Jun-20 23:26:31

I’m so so sorry, that’s awful. They should definitely be ensuring you can face time, my grandma is in hospital with a broken hip and they’ve been letting her face time my grandad every day (never been apart before in 68 years) and she doesn’t have a smart phone or anything, she’s 90 and wouldn’t have a clue, so there’s no good reason they can’t facilitate that for you and your wife. Good luck and lots of love

Pipandmum Fri 19-Jun-20 23:38:04

It is very odd. I was at the main hospital today to take my daughter for a blood test, yet wasn't able to take her last week to the paediatric ward which is in a totally separate building across the parking lot. No common sense has been applied. There are few covid cases at the hospital in any case.
I think you need to escalate your request.

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