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Waitingforsleep2 Fri 12-Jun-20 22:31:26

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AbsolutePleasure Fri 12-Jun-20 23:22:02

Same here. DD (16) has been brilliant and kept to all the rules. Other friends going to pool parties, each others houses, meeting in groups in the park. Apparently their parents don't know... of course they do.

BackInTime Fri 12-Jun-20 23:34:21

I am ok with DC meeting with a friends as long as it is outdoors at the park or going for a walk or for a friend to come here and be with a friend in the garden. They have been so great for the last few months that at this point I think there is more of a risk to their mental health by staying isolated.

Notcontent Fri 12-Jun-20 23:37:22

Yes, it’s an issue - some people don’t think the rules apply to them and this makes things difficult for others, teenagers in particular. Dd, 14, has been sticking to the rules, but she knows people who have been having sleepovers, etc.

AbsolutePleasure Fri 12-Jun-20 23:43:16

DS has been meeting friends a couple at a time and going for a muck about in the fields/woods which is fine. But DD & friends aren't into that - it's all at people's houses. I really feel for her.

Bellebelle Fri 12-Jun-20 23:51:07

Similar experience here. Of her group of friends DD1(14) says that only her and one other girl are sticking to the rules of only meeting one person (we’re in Scotland) and staying 2 metres apart. Her other friends are respectful of her wanting to follow the rules when she has a meet up with one of them but she knows that they’re meeting up in bigger groups and not keeping their distance. It’s really upsetting her and it’s difficult to discuss with her as she just gets upset and angry about it. She wants to stick to the rules and understands it all but she’s just so frustrated by the whole situation and it’s really affecting her mood.

Waitingforsleep2 Sat 13-Jun-20 08:13:45

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LockdownLou Sat 13-Jun-20 08:23:20

Just let her go.

If she’s such a good girl and I’m sure she is, why should she be the one to miss out? You won’t get a medal you know and it will do her well-being the world of good.

Alex50 Sat 13-Jun-20 08:27:40

What’s the point of keeping your daughter locked up when 1000’s of people are protesting, let the poor girl enjoy going out with her friends, i’m Sure she’s very sensible. The risk to teenagers is minimal. My daughter’s going shopping with a friend on Monday, she can’t wait 😊

BlackCrow Sat 13-Jun-20 08:41:04

What’s the point of keeping your daughter locked up when 1000’s of people are protesting, let the poor girl enjoy going out with her friends, i’m Sure she’s very sensible. The risk to teenagers is minimal

Erm, to protect the rest of the family (including dads, who if they're in the 50+ age bracket and a bit overweight as many dads are, are very vulnerable to Covid?). And anyone else you have no choice but to come into contact with?
This is not even nearly over, but so many people seem to think it is.

Alex50 Sat 13-Jun-20 08:43:07

Lockdown is over as far as i’m concerned, I will keep to the 2 metre rule and so does my daughter.

Qasd Sat 13-Jun-20 08:46:52

They can meet outside in groups up to six, I don’t understand how they are going shopping for much as the shops are shut😂! Although dd did go and get a doughnut with a friend the other day but it was take away and they ate it outside.

Obviously they should social distance on meeting but I think teens meeting in person is a good thing re their mental health and dd has been a lot better since the relaxation of the rules.

itsgettingweird Sat 13-Jun-20 08:47:08

Teen DS (15) here.

He's not been out either sad

Gaming online and zoom meetings through his CP group. Missing his swimming, school cancelled and exams too.

We are a LP facility though and so this afternoon are meeting another LP family as we've formed the social bubble with them.

It's actually quite scary how ridiculously excited we are grin

I would allow him to meet up outside with friends at SD. But he's got ASD too and doesn't socialise outside of school and swimming generally.

It'll be a tough 12-18 months. I'm hoping though that the end result will be a better society who appreciate what they have and see socialising in a park as a good day out rather than the consumerist need it now society we had before.

Alex50 Sat 13-Jun-20 08:48:46

Shops open here on Monday

whenwillthemadnessend Sat 13-Jun-20 08:48:54

My teens began seeing friends 2 weeks ago. They are not distancing but do use hand gels and don't go in houses so far. But you can't realistically get teens to stay apart forever. They need peers for development and mental health.

Pipandmum Sat 13-Jun-20 08:50:16

My daughter is a real stickler for the rules. She refused to come for a beach walk with a friend and me as it was two days before the 'you can meet with up to six people outside'.
But today she is meeting up with four or five friends at the beach. There's a cafe there doing takeaway. I doubt whether they manage to stay 2m apart he whole time, but they will try their best. And it the first time any of them have seen anyone in person since March.
I think it is fine if your daughter can meet her friends outside, but not stay at each other's houses unless just walking through to the garden.it is tough when you stick to the guideiwhen or seems everyone else isn't!

MsTSwift Sat 13-Jun-20 08:53:14

Mental health is so important. My girls 12 and 14 meet one or two friends outdoors. The change in their happiness is obvious they come back buzzing

Nishky Sat 13-Jun-20 08:53:32

@itsgettingweird hope you and your son have a lovely day. The much maligned X box in our house has helped my 16 yo stay in touch with his mates the last few weeks!

itsgettingweird Sat 13-Jun-20 08:55:56

I did have a google last weekend when walking along our local beach.

Groups of 6 teens all sat in circle with bikes. Perfectly SD. Groups a good 2m away in other circles. Quite obviously both groups knew each other etc.

Then watch one group get up. Keep distance as they tidied up. All fab at taking rubbish.

Then they walked side by side along the prom to get to the road/ cycle path! This was probably for about 3-5 minutes.

They obviously had good intentions and it didn't cross their minds. smile

Alex50 Sat 13-Jun-20 08:56:18

My husband is at work in a car showroom, meeting many people every day, with social distancing, so how can I say my daughter can’t meet her friends?

Waitingforsleep2 Sat 13-Jun-20 08:56:40

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itsgettingweird Sat 13-Jun-20 08:58:13

Thanks nish
I'm lucky I've worked throughout as a keyworker but I'm beginning to feel it now that I've not had face to face adult conversation in a social situation for 12 weeks!

rookiemere Sat 13-Jun-20 09:03:48

Teens have paid a high price for all of this. I'm encouraging DS 14 to play football with his friends, I don't care anymore if it breaks the rules. The long term impact to his physical and mental health is getting too high and I've used my own judgement.

MsTSwift Sat 13-Jun-20 09:06:04

If they are outdoors and distanced what is the problem?

Alex50 Sat 13-Jun-20 09:06:42

The shops open Monday, they need support or they will shut, there will be millions of redundancies, families, children will suffer.

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