Just wanted to get some opinions......
I have 2 DD of 2 and 4.
We've obviously been isolating and probably more than most - as in we've literally not been to a shop since lockdown, relying on deliveries and wiping everything down - in the hope that when lockdown was lifted we could safely see my parents.
Parents are late 60's and my mum does have some compromised health in that she had meningitis twice due to - in layman's terms - a couple of holes in the membrane of her brain which were subsequently operated on. Following the meningitis she has a mild auto immune condition which should be resolved with time, it's not a forever thing and she takes minimal steroids for it. She never got an isolation letter.
I took my kids out of nursery 3 weeks before lockdown as we would rather see them (they live 5 mins away) and we see them almost daily if not every other day. They have been, until lockdown, part of our daily lives and great extra childcare and as a couple to me and husband, great company and best friends to us.
My husband did work in town full time and I am freelance, however we are both in the events industry so work has been non existent since Covid so we've been managing fine as a team with the kids in lockdown and quite honestly it's a time we have cherished and loved as a family. We are lucky.
However, my husband is now working almost full time again at home and I am struggling to provide the stimulation that friends and nursery provide for the kids and struggling on my own with total lack of any head space/housework/cooking. There is a lot of TV watching which I have mum guilt about. They are happy and healthy but I do feel really lonely and scratching my head as to how to give them what other faces, friends and interaction can provide.
We are now seeing my parents, outside, but it is very difficult for social distancing with them and the kids. They are too young, especially the youngest to get it and also my parents just really don't care and want to hug and touch, much like many other older people I have heard of among friends. They literally cried when they saw the kids for the first time since lockdown and I've only seen my dad cry once In my life when his mum died. We are covid free as we've been so stringent so we can see them safely.
However, I'm wondering, is the risk in the kids going to nursery now (3 x days, 6 hours a day) then a massive risk with my parents? We'd choose my parents over nursery every time.
Am I being too paranoid not to send them back for their benefit of social interaction and my own of being able to clean the house/cook etc?
After what we went through with my mum I just don't want to risk another traumatic event for us. We've also had a few other traumatic health events the last few years so I do have a mild health anxiety with my family.
I think I've answered my own question. But the thought of sending them back to nursery for theirs and my benefit is so tempting. It's just my parents I am worried about.
Yes - send back
No - you're and idiot for even asking
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TroubleNo1 · 12/06/2020 18:46
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