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I’m absolutely gutted for my youngest:(

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Mummypig2020 Wed 10-Jun-20 19:29:30

I know I’m being ridiculous. But I’m home without another adult to talk too, Dh is at work and the kids are upstairs.

Dd is 4 next month and due to start school in September. Before all this she was so confident and happy, absolutely loved pre school. She doesn’t have any other family than me and Dh so grew really close to the staff.

Since lockdown she’s became clingy, emotional, unconfident. She refuses to even talk or mention school, crying to see her friends etc.

They were due to open next week and Iv just had an email saying it won’t be happening.

I’m secretly sobbing. I’m so fed up with all this now.

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Hartleyhare1206 Wed 10-Jun-20 19:35:21

Your not being ridiculous at all. You want the best for your little one! I’m in a very similar boat, my DDs preschool has reopened but can’t give her a place back (Despite her dad being a keyworker and me having to go back to work this month😢), and she has spent lockdown becoming clingy, scared of her own shadow and a totally Lonely Introvert. She is an only child and hasn’t played with another kid for almost three months and my god it shows. You don’t need to apologise for feeling this way, the government need to apologise for failing our babies so spectacularly xxx

Chocolategirl19791 Wed 10-Jun-20 19:38:19

It's sooo bloody awful for kids. We have a just 4 year old and as we're in Scotland has another year before school but no nurseries open here still.

It's really affected here, she won't be parted from me and if I go to the supermarket watches sadly out the window until I get back as she's convinced I'm going to get coronavirus and die and not come back to her. She's 4, she should have to worry about things like this. She should be at nursery with her friends enjoying her life.

nosnugglesforyou Wed 10-Jun-20 19:42:43

Can you all arrange some play dates for your children - I’ve done a fair few since we’ve been allowed

LockdownLou Wed 10-Jun-20 19:43:07

You are not being ridiculous. flowers

I’m really sorry the pre school isn’t opening. I would be gutted too.

Keepdistance Wed 10-Jun-20 19:49:24

You could look at deferring her place at school to next year.
Though it doesnt necessarily sound like you need to.

Mine starts in sept and obviously it's so less than ideal.
I mean what if she wont do as told they wont be able to intervene. Wont be able to take her off me if she refuses that day

Paranoidmarvin Wed 10-Jun-20 19:51:22

I’m with you but mine is older. He was so looking forward to going to college in September. Was bookmarking the clothes and shoes he wanted. Looking forward to being out of a school environment and having more freedom and doing work he was really interested in.

Chance now he won’t get to do that. I’m gutted for him.

welshpolarbear Wed 10-Jun-20 19:53:58

Not ridiculous at all. My boy is 7 and he is so lonely as an only child. Im in the extremely vulnerable category and my husband works away (keyworker) so he has only been able to get out of the house when DH is off, until I started venturing out for walks last week. Its been torture for him.

Despite the extra risk to me I'm desperate for him to go back for his mental health (and mine).

MrsMyreton Wed 10-Jun-20 19:54:15

I'm with you OP. My DD is three and absolutely loved nursery. This sounds silly but yesterday we were playing and I asked her to sing her nursery circle song, but she couldn't remember it and it made me so sad. Doesn't help that we're both WFH and I'm 25 weeks with baby number two so hormones are adding to guilt! Actually worried that nurseries going back might coincide with DD2's arrival and worried DD1 will link the two (that she might feel completely pushed out). thanks

amy85 Wed 10-Jun-20 19:56:22


My 4 year is as clingy as hell since lockdown...her nursery isnt reopening on until the 7th of July so if she's offered a place she will go back for 2 weeks before she's off for the summer holidays as she only goes term time.

The last few days I've let her out the front to play with some friends and it's helped her tremendously... definitely try book some playdates if possible

DominaShantotto Wed 10-Jun-20 19:57:59

You're not ridiculous. This whole thing is absolutely barbaric to children (and no I'm not going to belittle them that it's not important - it's like a massive proportion of their lives, and one of the focal points for their social interaction.

The point where they named the school years that were going to have a chance in hell of getting back first and DD2's wasn't one of them - and I had to break it to her and her face just crumpled absolutely broke me to the core.

Hopingforsummer1 Wed 10-Jun-20 20:01:05

Oh OP, you're not being ridiculous at all. I had a quiet cry yesterday when I found out that my 7 year old definitely won't be returning to school before September. Could you organise playdates or walks with some of your dd's preschool friends? If you know any of the nursery workers well, they may even come along.

DearTeddyRobinson Wed 10-Jun-20 20:02:15

You aren't being ridiculous at all thanks. DS2 is due to start school in September and he was absolutely blossoming at his lovely little preschool. They hope to open the last week of June so best case scenario he gets maybe 3 weeks before the summer holidays.
I'm so sad and cross, it's a vital resource for children and I'm genuinely concerned about their mental health. DH and I are both WFH full time so the poor little guy has had more TV than his wildest dreams. He was doing so well and I'm sure he's fallen behind where he should be.
I realise it's not the end of the world but it's shit. How the government think that opening bloody zoos is a priority over schools is a mystery.

Teacher12345 Wed 10-Jun-20 20:19:28

My DD starts school in September too and I ma hoping to send her back to nursery (private) for a couple of mornings a week until she starts.
She is so lucky to have her older brother here but it is still very hard on them.

Putapeonyinyourpocket Wed 10-Jun-20 21:25:29

I can totally relate, although my son is only two. Yesterday we walked past a church in our village where we use to attend a play group, he walked straight up to the door and got upset when I said we weren't going in. He's an only child and obviously too young to understand, breaks my heart.

We did however decide to merge with my sister and her children so he got to see his cousins, the joy on their faces was unbelievable. Obs me and my sister are deligent with hygiene, but they so needed it.

Rory786 Wed 10-Jun-20 23:56:23

Not ridiculous at all.

My Reception aged child cried when I told her in March she will not be going back to her school. She loves her friends and her teachers.

FulfilledRemit Thu 11-Jun-20 09:13:46

Not ridiculous at all. I am so angry about how kids have been treated!!

My 5yo is due to start P1 in August. His transition will be one 45 minute meeting at the school where we all stand 2m apart and don't touch anything. He says he doesn't want to go, and he also refuses to watch any of the videoes the school have sent to try and prepare him (just nice videoes of the teachers saying hi etc!). He already got clingy and anxious when I left him at nursery (but was fine once I'd gone), I don't know how the fuck I'll get him through the door in August. There were less than 15 cases in the whole of Scotland yesterday, this is beyond ridiculous.

FulfilledRemit Thu 11-Jun-20 09:15:27

New cases. But still, as a percentage of the population infected people are minscule.

Oh, and pubs are going to reopen in July, but kids will only get 10 hours a week school in August (til...?). I am so pissed off.

mondaynoon Thu 11-Jun-20 09:19:46

Why can't you arrange for her to see a friend?

Francina670 Thu 11-Jun-20 09:27:14

People saying ‘why don’t you see a friend?’. It’s only allowed if social distancing is maintained. Pretty impossible for young kids. I’m not averse to breaking the rules but you need the other family to be up for it too.. I’ve asked a few close friends and they aren’t so that’s that.

Bflatmajorsharp Thu 11-Jun-20 09:57:32

That sounds tough Francina670. Unless someone in the family is shielding or a health care worker in contact with people infected with the virus, it seems a bit overly cautious at the moment.

I'm definitely encouraging my children to see their local friends in the park as much as possible tbh. We've all been at home for weeks so the chances of us being infected are miniscule. Goodness only knows what the autumn and winter will look like in terms of social contact - it seems vital that children have what they can now.

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