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Is anyone else still living in strict lockdown?

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laura081008 Wed 10-Jun-20 10:38:20

Just that really.

Since March I’ve lived in lockdown.

My baby was born in lockdown and we haven’t seen anyone.

Even now the restrictions are relaxing, I don’t want to leave the house.

I’ve had friends asking me to go for a socially distanced walk, I don’t want to go.
Our parents have asked if they can come to our garden, or we go to theirs. I’ve said no.

I suffer terribly with anxiety and ocd and I just cannot face the world again after living in fear sad

It’s just too hard for me.

I can’t imagine going out to a clothes shop / supermarket and feeling comfortable.

My OCD means I doubt myself a lot and I know I would worry that I’d touched something, or forgotten to wash my hands.
It’s just not worth my mental health and the worries it would cause me by getting back into the “real” world, especially since it’s so far away from what I will remember before DS was born.

I feel like my life now will be confined to my living room and garden.

I’m being supported with my mental health but I really don’t think it will ever truly help, as my worries are the virus and until that goes away I will never want to leave my house.

I’m absolutely petrified of catching it and leaving my baby 😔

When will it ever go away.

How does everyone else feel?

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Helenj1977 Wed 10-Jun-20 10:43:54

Yes! I was going to post about it and saw this!

My dp, 11yo, 9yo and 18mo children haven't really been anywhere other then daily walks.

I'm desperate to go to a shop but am terrified. Will I bring it home from the shop, will people laugh if I wear a mask?

I feel so daft.

Parker231 Wed 10-Jun-20 10:47:18

Still trying to keep to social distancing but have been food shopping and exercising all along. Now going for take away coffees in the park with friends, using the Tube and planning a holiday abroad for later in the year. The virus isn’t just going to disappear so we have to learn to live with it. Have been working from home but keen to get back into the office- hopefully in September.

laura081008 Wed 10-Jun-20 10:49:02

That’s the part I’m struggling with, how can we learn to live with something like this.
I feel like it’s too much of a risk. 😔

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SuperFurryDoggy Wed 10-Jun-20 10:52:06

Things like this feels like a risk until you’ve done them a few times, then they becomes normalised.

Eventually these things will feel normal and safe again, even if we are only able to control (as opposed to eradicate) the virus flowers

SuperFurryDoggy Wed 10-Jun-20 10:52:50

Sorry, that was rather garbled blush

Hopefully you get what I was trying to say!

unchienandalusia Wed 10-Jun-20 10:55:41

Are you at high risk op? I you haven't mentioned any underlying health issues so am assuming not. You need, for your and your DCs sake to find a way to tackle this anxiety because it is totally out of kilter with the actual risk. What news sources are you using?

Numbers released today show that if you are between 25 and 34 you have a 1 in 35k chance of dying from coronavirus. Can you immerse yourself in the rationally of the numbers?

laura081008 Wed 10-Jun-20 10:57:24

I have mild asthma. Controlled. So yes, I’m high risk. 😔

I’ve seen a lot of people on here talk about asthma. I’m wondering how others feel that are asthmatic.

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MereDintofPandiculation Wed 10-Jun-20 10:57:26

If you're young enough to have a baby and don't have other underlying conditions, it really isn't much of a risk. You need to talk to a GP about your anxiety.

BernardsarenotalwaysSaints Wed 10-Jun-20 10:57:32

We're in a sort of half & half situation. Dh is back at work, dc4(4) is back at school 4 days a week then the rest of us (me & 4dc) are at home outside of school runs (we have a walk after drop off). It's really odd if I'm being honest.

Parker231 Wed 10-Jun-20 10:58:40

Start with outdoor activities - a visit to friends and family but stay in the garden and have a picnic or visit a local park for a walk. If you do these regularly it will become easier?

Wheresthebiffer2 Wed 10-Jun-20 10:59:27

Yes, because (Scotland).

I've had one friend over for socially distant cup of tea in my garden. My child has had one socially distant afternoon in her friend's garden, and a walk together with this one pal.(teenagers).

Apart from that, yes we're still in lockdown. Going for one shopping trip per week, staying home the rest of the time, apart from walking dog.

Thighmageddon Wed 10-Jun-20 10:59:28

Speak to your Gp and health visitor.

This is no way to live and there's help out there, however you aren't alone and I think there's going to be lots in the same boat.

Maybe try a walk on your own around the block first, the fresh air will do you good.

Slothsarecreepy Wed 10-Jun-20 11:04:59

You'll be more likely to injure yourself in an accident at home than catch CV and it make you very ill. Mild asthma does not make you high risk at all.

Bol87 Wed 10-Jun-20 11:07:39

OP. Asthma is not high risk. Especially mild. In fact, even brittle asthma has been removed from the shielding list. Asthmatics fair no worse than anyone else from this. It’s only people on extremely high doses of serous inhaler that need to be careful.

I have mild asthma. I take a preventative. I had a baby 12 weeks ago at the start of lockdown & I’m leading as normal a life as is possible. I go shopping, I go for walks, I’ve met up with friends in their garden & my parents (my mum is shielding but still comfortable with a garden meet up), my elder daughter has returned to nursery .. life feels OK again. I def felt quite anxious as we started to get out & about more but now, not at all. If you are under 40, you have the same, if not more chance of dying from something other than Corona!

Keep talking to the support teams, your family etc. Your anxiety does not match the risk. This is a virus that predominantly kills the elderly & thankfully spares most under 40’s & children. There is no more to fear from this than forgetting to put suncream on & risking skin cancer, for example. Or getting in your car & driving on the motorway!

Bol87 Wed 10-Jun-20 11:08:32

*steroid inhaler

BlueJava Wed 10-Jun-20 11:13:50

Yes, not because I'm worried about Covid, just because I'm WFH full time and so is DP, kids off school and no real reason to go out - shops shut etc. However, it seems like a ton of other people have just conveniently forgotten!

GentlyGentlyOhDear Wed 10-Jun-20 11:14:17

I'm struggling too with anxiety. New baby is 14 weeks now and I have a 4 and 8 year old. Also have mild asthma. Have only recently left the house to go on 7am scooter rides with the kids.
My baby needs her jabs and 6 week check and we are booked in at the docs tomorrow but I dont know if I will be able to go. If I do I know my mental health will be wrecked for the next 2 weeks.

Tropical2 Wed 10-Jun-20 11:22:16

Yes - DP works from home (always has), I'm a SAHM and our two children are under five. Myself and the children take a daily 30 minute walk around our neighbourhood. We do a fortnightly shop by click & collect. Other than this we are at home. The advice still is to stay at home as much as possible (Scotland).

Suki2 Wed 10-Jun-20 11:25:14

I think there are a lot of people in this situation. My elderly parents, in their eighties, have been out for only two short walks since the first week in March. They are terrified.

I've come to the conclusion that everyone has to judge their own level of risk and to come out of this at their own pace. You are not at as great a risk as you think, because of your age and general health.

Please start small; walk to the end of your street and return home. A few days later go a little further or drive somewhere quiet and get out and walk. Your baby needs fresh air; to see the seasons, to feel sunshine. Take things very gradually; don't feel pressurized into meeting up with friends if you feel too scared, but ultimately you do need to confront your fears as they are becoming increasingly irrational.

chasingmytail4 Wed 10-Jun-20 11:27:28

I think you need to take baby steps back to the outside world, in a way that keeps you as safe as possible. I’m sitting in the car outside my husband’s office while he collects some papers. It’s the first time I’ve left our village for 13 weeks although I have been walking our dog daily, he persuaded me to come for the ride. It feels good to be in the ‘outside world’ again. Maybe start by a cuppa in the garden with your parents, I think you’ll be encouraged by how much better you will feel. I do empathise though, and think we will have a lot of people who feel like you.

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyear Wed 10-Jun-20 11:31:08

I was nervous the first time I went to the garden centre as we had managed to get online food deliveries throughout so it was my first experience of social distance shopping. It was actually really straightforward and I am not remotely nervous any more. Perhaps start off with just walking down your street and hopefully you will realise it isn't as bad as it has built up to be in your mind smile

BigSandyBalls2015 Wed 10-Jun-20 11:31:40

I think the longer you do this the harder it is going to be to get back to some sort of 'normality'. Asthma doesn't put you in a high risk bracket.
The risk of you dying from corona is incredibly low.
Start by going for a walk with your baby, the risk is almost zero. What does your DH think about it all?

RaininSummer Wed 10-Jun-20 11:33:17

I am only seeing my daughter and her family at a distance but this is because I have no urge to go to any shops other than food necessaries fortnightly and am still working from home. I go for walks but very much keep distance from strangers. Friends seem to be doing the same I think. I does do you good to step outside and see the real world a bit as things aren't as scary as you thing they are when you have been home for months.

MrsTannyFickler Wed 10-Jun-20 11:33:38

Yes. I'm in Wales and don't know anyone within our 5 mile limit so not been out since 14th March except to collect groceries at Asda Click and Collect and local walks.
I'm planning on meeting a friend for a socially distanced country walk once we are allowed to travel a bit further.
Just try small steps at first. A cuppa in your parents garden for starters and see how you feel.

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