Clearly not..since you say they were ridiculous yet admit they were things you did! that others spoke to him about....he didn't make them up, other people told him.
Your lack of self-awareness is astounding. You even said that he had tissues ready because he knew whatever he said, you'd start crying as you're an 'emotional person'.
Sounds like he, and others were treading on eggshells around you being so fragile and were right to do so as a tiny bit of minor feedback led to you 'being destroyed', 'ill', 'scarred', 'broken', and 9 months on you're still saying you 'can't forgive him'.
When...what was it he said? "Describing me as lacking self worth, self confidence, how I constantly seek approval and need to be noticed" and he gave examples you admitted were true in your posts. You did moan to people how hard it was being a working Mum and how upset you were missing your kids. Those people fed back to him.
You did help a colleague then made a big show of how you'd helped them even though everyone knew you had, and people fed back to him about that.
You did make a good sale and sent everone in the company an 'excited email' in your words which made other people go to him and say they thought you were saying you were better than your colleagues while also seeking validation about how great you are when it isn't the company culture that people do that and others making great deals don't announce it to everyone.
None of those observations were mean or misogynistic or racist. He didn't say anything unpleasant or mean or unfounded. He passed on what other people had said to him and it was his job as a manager, to let you know about that. You freaked out, wouldn't listen and sobbed for hours.
And he's said nothing at all negative to you in the 9 months since as he's probably wary to given your massive overeaction, though you've tried to bring up just how hurt you were with him, when you really should have let it go as it was not a big deal at all.
He also said you were great at your job, were a valued employee and just needed to chill out a bit. Stop making a fuss about what you do, seeking attention and just do your job well (he said you were) and stop seeking attention and validation from others. He called you and took you out to lunch as knew you were upset and he didn't want it to be a big issue but you just won't let it go. 9 months on you still won't.
Can you not see that you starting your original thread and this one 9 months after, might just mean you DO want attention and validation from others even if you're in the wrong?
I think you're very lucky you haven't been managed out tbh as you sound a nightmare. It sounds like its true that you're good at your job, otherwise I don't know why they'd want to keep hold of you.
If you can't get any self awareness, move on and let everyone else in the company relax without worrying you'll be 'broken' and 'ill' for months by someone saying something true.