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Advice please, should I bother about this?

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poozel Sun 07-Jun-20 12:42:12

Family farm so we have carefully isolated as three households in a unit.

I am pregnant. Twelve weeks.

Few instances I've been a little concerned, nephew going to work for someone for a couple of days but precautions were in place and it seemed "safe". Workers on and off farm but that was essential. Nephew friend stayed for two weeks but isolated for a week beforehand.

Niece 18 went to see a friend yesterday, that's fine. Met outside for a walk, chat. Had a few drinks and niece stayed over. Both parents are front line emergency services.

My SIL has lied and told me they went for a walk, niece let slip in chat that she stayed.

Do I stay away from everyone for a week now? Dh obviously works with them so that makes it harder for him. Do I just ignore it?

Just feeling a bit unsure. Sil not home just now and I don't know whether I'm being silly or whether I should just start protecting me and toddler Dd and not see them now.

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onalongsabbatical Sun 07-Jun-20 13:29:04

What does DH say? I think if you're pregnant you've got the absolute right to be cautious. It's not being silly. You're being put in a difficult position by other people's actions. Can you and DD isolate from DH though - that sounds as if it could be tricky?

Slothsarecreepy Sun 07-Jun-20 13:55:36

I really wouldn't worry if this was me.

lljkk Sun 07-Jun-20 13:58:04

I thought pg women were no more at risk than any women of same age (revised evidence).

LaceCurtains Sun 07-Jun-20 14:02:44

lljkk, when was it revised? I was looking at the guidance in Friday and they were definitely on the current government vulnerable list then.

That said OP, I don't think you need to worry, the risk that any of these peope are infected must be very small.

lljkk Sun 07-Jun-20 14:14:07

"All available evidence suggests that pregnant women are at no greater risk of becoming seriously unwell than other healthy adults if they develop coronavirus."

From RCOG. Updated 4 June.

LaceCurtains Sun 07-Jun-20 14:15:33

Interesting, it's still on the government list though and one of the (many) reasons reopening schools is proving tricky.

Slothsarecreepy Sun 07-Jun-20 14:22:44

Its only on the list due to caution as pregnant women have been seen to be more susceptible to other viruses. There is no evidence at all thats the case with CV but thats the reason. Caution.

Slothsarecreepy Sun 07-Jun-20 14:27:56

Pregnant women with no other condition that would put them in more vulnerable categories have been told its fine to send older children back to school.

"Children and young people who live with someone who is clinically vulnerable (but not extremely clinically vulnerable) as defined in the social distancing guidance and including those who are pregnant, can attend."

LaceCurtains Sun 07-Jun-20 14:33:42

It's the teachers Sloth. A surprising large % of teachers are pregnant at any one time and whilst there's no "rule" to say they shouldn't be in work, they are repeatedly being told that they are vulnerable, at a time when women often feel more vulnerable/worried (about everything) anyway.

110APiccadilly Sun 07-Jun-20 14:48:54

Hi, I'm pregnant (and I'm also a statistician, so I've been having a look at the numbers when I can). My understanding is that there is no evidence pregnant women are at more risk in the first two trimesters (I'm actually a bit cross at some of the media reporting which has led to people constantly asking me if I need to shield!). In the third trimester there is some very weak evidence that there is a slightly increased risk of premature birth if you do get Covid. So I'm not concerned until I get to the third trimester, personally (and I'm hoping by then the situation will have changed!)

Carlislemumof4 Sun 07-Jun-20 14:58:16

What I wouldn't find acceptable is your SIL lying to you. The other households on the farm need to be completely honest about close contacts so you can make informed decisions.

poozel Sun 07-Jun-20 15:11:10

Thanks for your help.

I had not seen the updated guidance and have read that now.

We are in Scotland and we have been abiding by the rules. Yesterday breached both travel and mixing households.

Been a very long few weeks much of which I've been alone anyway save for Dd. Feeling low today and pissed off at being lied to, or not important enough to be taken into consideration.

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Inkpaperstars Sun 07-Jun-20 16:19:10

I don't know what the risk is but I would be pissed off that SIL lied, since she presumably has no particular medical insight.

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