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Is anyone actually bothering to report flouting now?

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SanityDecreasing Thu 04-Jun-20 20:21:30

Hi,

So I've seen quite a few threads where the poster gets flamed for suggesting it - "who would you actually report to?!... "mind your own business" etc

But aren't there some scenarios that should be reported?

For example, what if your neighbours teen DDs are constantly having friends over? All day, every day. Sometimes large groups staying for most of the day, inside the house. All coming and going in cramped cars.

No, I'm not curtain twitching or trying to be nosey. I can see it all going on clearly out my living room window from the sofa and I've actually been trying to ignore it, as it does genuinely get my blood boiling and I don't want to feel angry.

I do feel sorry for DCs at home all day, bored, not being able to see their friends. I have a teen DD myself and my heart breaks for her when I think of everything she's missing out on, but it is what it is. We're doing it for a reason!

I'm not saying send over the heavies, but does anyone think that someone needs to have a word?

Their parents aren't in during the day, so I'm not sure they're aware of it, but they're not the most approachable.... shall we say, so I wouldn't really want to potentially cause an argument.

WWYD?

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Molocosh Thu 04-Jun-20 20:24:11

I don’t even know what the rules are any more, they’ve changed them that many times. Truthfully I don’t care what they do in their own homes. There’s no point reporting it anyway, the police don’t do anything.

thewinkingprawn Thu 04-Jun-20 20:24:39

I genuinely couldn’t care less and think we should all crack on now so I wouldn’t but that doesn’t make it wrong if you think you should. I wouldn’t cause an argument with a neighbour though - you will have to live there longer than this will go on for so I would say choose your battles.

Waxonwaxoff0 Thu 04-Jun-20 20:24:56

The police aren't doing anything now, reporting is literally pointless.

Destroyedpeople Thu 04-Jun-20 20:26:44

"Flouting"...please can we stop using this word it makes me feel ill.

SanityDecreasing Thu 04-Jun-20 20:29:49

@Destroyedpeople, I'm afraid I can't take it back. Let's pretend it reads "breaking the rules" grin

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Deblou43 Thu 04-Jun-20 20:32:30

Past caring I hugged my dad today my mental health is so bad can't stop crying I broke the rules yes but I have stuck to them for 3 months and am desperate

Oblomov20 Thu 04-Jun-20 20:39:51

I wonder how much worse it is, those teens OP being inside the house, as opposed to outside in the garden? I'm not convinced that being inside makes it that much worse.

SanityDecreasing Thu 04-Jun-20 20:43:58

@Oblomov20, really?

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RC000 Thu 04-Jun-20 20:45:53

These responses concern me. It's like everyone is saying you can justify anything? The government is useless but if everyone ignores social distancing we may end up with another lockdown! Come on! I would report, OP.

Molocosh Thu 04-Jun-20 20:49:30

These responses concern me. It's like everyone is saying you can justify anything?
Oh I know it’s wrong but what can I do about it? The police don’t do anything when you report so it’s out of your control.

Waxonwaxoff0 Thu 04-Jun-20 20:55:00

@RC000 the police have literally said they are not doing anything about it any more, so nothing will happen if it gets reported.

Oblomov20 Thu 04-Jun-20 21:10:50

Yes honestly OP.

I just wonder about contagiousness.

If you are in an office working, you are still in the same space breathing the same air as your colleagues for 7.5 hours!

I have obeyed the rules to the T.

I saw 2 friends for the first time, last night, in a garden, still social distancing.

But it occurred to me that if we had gone and sat in her lounge, how much worse would the risk actually be?

RC000 Thu 04-Jun-20 21:14:13

@Waxonwaxoff0 have they? Jesus.

Groundhogdayzz Thu 04-Jun-20 21:15:53

Don’t report them, if they’ve been doing it every day then it’s a bit late to start social distancing now.

ravensoaponarope Thu 04-Jun-20 21:17:38

@Deblou43 that's not the same
and I really hope it helped.

puffinandkoala Thu 04-Jun-20 21:19:35

If you are in an office working, you are still in the same space breathing the same air as your colleagues for 7.5 hours

Which is why office workers should be WFH or going in in shifts so they can stay 2m apart when at their desks.

Deblou43 Thu 04-Jun-20 22:20:18

@ravensoaponarope I felt bad but I am getting in a hole and my mum is bad too

Fishfingersandwichplease Thu 04-Jun-20 22:57:49

I have decided to take the advice l always give my daughter and just make sure l am doing the right thing and not concerning myself with what other people are doing. Like pp's have said, the rules keep changing anyway so l would rather just know my family and me are keeping ourselves safe for as long as we can. You will only get accused of being a busy body if you do report it and it is unlikely the police will do much anyway.

ravensoaponarope Wed 10-Jun-20 09:17:12

@Deblou43 I hope you and your mum are starting to feel a bit better. These times are very isolating and can really bring you down .xx

Lynda07 Wed 10-Jun-20 09:26:22

SanityDecreasing: For example, what if your neighbours teen DDs are constantly having friends over? All day, every day. Sometimes large groups staying for most of the day, inside the house. All coming and going in cramped cars.
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II haven't experienced that with my neighbours, have no idea what people further up or down do but I have kept to myself. In a million years I would never grass up neighbours - and to whom anyway? From what I have read and heard, some people have been going about 'normally' all the time. I think it's unwise but it isn't my job to police them, I can only take care not to do the same.

If reports are true, we're coming to the end of the crisis anyway so it's a bit late to be talking about reporting people. I can't imagine the police would be that interested anyway, they have enough to do.

Just do your best and mind your own business about others.

Lynda07 Wed 10-Jun-20 09:29:54

Obiomov: But it occurred to me that if we had gone and sat in her lounge, how much worse would the risk actually be?
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I don't think it would matter as long as clothes were changed and people properly sanitised once they got home. Perhaps put a carrier bag on car seat and dispose of it in the bin. Lots of people have been doing just that and are fine.

Iwantacookie Wed 10-Jun-20 09:30:55

Agree with pp I havent got a clue what the rules are now and as long as nobody comes over and licks me I couldnt care less what anyone else does.

Frume Wed 10-Jun-20 09:54:09

Who even knows what the rules are anymore? I, personally, couldn't care less anymore. I've been seeing my parents for weeks now and it has helped my mental health no end.

SanityDecreasing Wed 10-Jun-20 10:11:39

But @Frume, are you actually hugging your parents? It's ok to see them.

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