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When can we travel to stay with relatives?

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Thewheelsonthebus23 Tue 02-Jun-20 21:50:34

Everyday I’m thinking about this. My parents live at least 4 hours away and I’m starting to get more panicky that I won’t see them until next year or something.
I feel so lost and scared sad sorry to sound pathetic.

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Mortgageandmoney Tue 02-Jun-20 21:51:32

I don't think anyone can answer that yet sad

Qasd Tue 02-Jun-20 21:54:44

No one knows but it does seem hotels are opening in July with social distancing so one will assume some relaxation on the rules the overnight stays would need to coincide. I was thinking a hotel near my parents and socially distanced our door meet up may be more sensible for us so I guess that may be encouraged where relatives are more vulnerable.

Thewheelsonthebus23 Tue 02-Jun-20 21:58:27

We are all meant to be going on a holiday together at the end of July.
But it’ll be mixing two households. It’s a self catering cottage.

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cologne4711 Tue 02-Jun-20 22:00:44

If your parents are over 70 I think you could reasonably argue that you are going for care reasons, which is within the law. I am going to visit my mum soon. She wanted to visit me but that may be harder to justify if a nosy neighbour "snitches" on us.

Or meet in the middle for a few hours. My mum and I are also considering that (we are 3 hours from each other).

cologne4711 Tue 02-Jun-20 22:01:26

(not sure about a holiday together, just thinking about you staying with them in their house)

Thewheelsonthebus23 Tue 02-Jun-20 22:02:36

I’m really really hoping the holiday goes ahead.

They’re 56 and 60 years old.

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Thewheelsonthebus23 Tue 02-Jun-20 22:03:11

They haven’t seen their only grandson in months (my DS) and it’s making me so sad.

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PersonaNonGarter Tue 02-Jun-20 22:03:45

Just go

HeyChief Tue 02-Jun-20 22:03:53

We are supposedly going on holiday with my mum in August. I know there are lots of reasons why it might not go ahead - but I am wondering if it might be possible for us all to self isolate for a week before the trip so that our households can mix. No idea though obviously!

Thewheelsonthebus23 Tue 02-Jun-20 22:05:22

@heychief we were thinking the same. We also think we’ve already had it (never had it confirmed as it was before lockdown).

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Thewheelsonthebus23 Tue 02-Jun-20 22:06:26

They’re 56 and 60 and not shielding or in the vulnerable category, although my dad is a bit overweight.

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middleager Tue 02-Jun-20 22:07:17

Why can't you meet in the middle somewhere?

Hugglespuffed Tue 02-Jun-20 22:07:26

It is sad. I want to see my family. They live in Wales and I can't see any time soon that I'll be able to see them. I just want to meet them halfway but we can't enter Wales nor can they travel over 5 miles.

LovingLen Tue 02-Jun-20 22:09:07

Could you meet them maybe halfway for a day out, then at least you will have spent some time together if the holiday isn’t possible

Thewheelsonthebus23 Tue 02-Jun-20 22:09:44

@middleager we can meet in the middle, but I’m worried about that much driving in one day for my 19 month old. He hates car journeys as it is (unless he’s asleep) but if nothing changes soon we will do.
My mum thinks it’s going to be so hard to see him, but being unable to cuddle him.

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chocolatviennois Tue 02-Jun-20 22:12:44

@middleager because half way would be Thurrock services!! I usually visit my mother by train because the drive is not the easiest but that would involve crossing London on public transport which would seem risky at the moment.

wobblywibble Tue 02-Jun-20 22:52:06

Honestly, just go!
My parents are three hours away and we're going to stay for a long weekend at the end of June.
We've all looked at the risks and it's one we're willing to take because it's small.

Topseyt Tue 02-Jun-20 23:11:08

My parents are in the highly vulnerable shielding category. They live a three hour drive from us. Therefore I think about this a fair bit too.

There is a Premier Inn in their town, so if it does reopen in July DH and I will drive up, stay in it and visit them in their garden or sitting socially distanced on their drive. I just really don’t think I can afford to leave it much longer than that. They are in their eighties now and getting physically more frail.

FelineUK Wed 03-Jun-20 00:41:41

My father's in mid-Wales (4.5 hours away)... what's this about Wales not letting us in (I'm from London)? He's a 78 year old widower, fit and healthy thank goodness, but I haven't seen him since February and he's hoping DH and I will be able to go and stay with him for his birthday in August. He won't drive far. What's the chance of us being able to stay in August? What's the difference staying in his home, to staying in a hotel? Due to DH's job he gets tested weekly, I don't of course.

Figmentofmyimagination Wed 03-Jun-20 09:48:11

You can go now - you just need to say you have been exposed to CV and might need care from them - but I think you can only do this if you have a second home in their grounds.

Whatelsecouldibecalled Wed 03-Jun-20 09:52:31

My PIL live in wales. We are desperate to see them to introduce their grandson. We can’t meet half way as the baby is only 8 weeks so don’t want to do so far in the car yet. I’m gutted they have not been able to see him at all yet. They’ve waited 4 years for this, he is an ivf miracle baby and the fact they can’t hold him and have completely missed the newborn stage breaks my heart

Sunnydays123456 Wed 03-Jun-20 09:53:54

Just go - this is a total shitshow

RhinestoneCowgirl Wed 03-Jun-20 09:55:29

My parents are early 70s (mum had her 70th birthday in first week of lockdown) and we are about 3 hrs drive away. We usually go by train too (via London and tube).

We would do the meet in the middle thing, but my dad's not the best driver and mum isn't driving at the moment as she's waiting for cataract operation (another thing delayed by lockdown sad). They haven't seen the DC since Christmas and we are longing to see them.

Janaih Wed 03-Jun-20 09:55:49

Just go, please. If it's making you sad then I proclaim you a vulnerable person. Not that police have any jurisdiction on who/what happens in a private residence

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