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Jumpqueen Wed 27-May-20 19:24:38

So I realise none of us know the answer but feeling rubbish about it all. 3 weeks ago one possible option in the plan Boris set out was 2 households nominate each other and then be able to merge and visit each other inside their homes.
I know reading the papers today all possible updates are just speculation but it seems that any update on seeing families will only be outside.

Do you think that will be the case or is there a chance of being able to mix two households inside?? Xx

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UnderTheBus Wed 27-May-20 19:26:16

I think they will say outside for as many things as possible. Transmission of the virus is much less likely outdoors and with the weather being nice theres no reason to go indoors really. Why are you so keen to fo indoors (not being harsh, just wondering)?

smilingthroughgrittedteeth Wed 27-May-20 19:30:43

They are also saying social distancing will have to remain in place, not sure exactly how my 2yr old is going to manage staying 2mtrs away from nanny hmm my 3yr old and 5yr old might just about manage but my mum is desperate to cuddle them. I dont care if its inside or outside i just want to be able to let my children see my mum again

wowsaid Wed 27-May-20 19:36:32

You could do what an acquaintance of mine has just admitted to and completely fuck the rules and do as you please

Jumpqueen Wed 27-May-20 19:45:43

I’m asking as my brother lives over 5 hours away and I have 2 small children. A day trip to sit outside is just impossible so we would normally stay over.
I understand it’s much better to be outside I would prefer it but my brother and wife are working from home and don’t leave due to home deliveries. So I would feel comfortable staying over but of course just waiting for the green light.

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iolaus Wed 27-May-20 19:53:21

The problem with only 2 houses linking up is for the vast majority of us it wouldn't work

My parents have two children, me and my brother - we both live in seperate houses - so do they have to pick between us?

My daughter has gone into lockdown at her boyfriends, however his sister has moved into her partners at this point - for that house do they pick my dd seeing her parents or their dd seeing their's?

monkeytennis97 Wed 27-May-20 19:54:41

I just want to see my DS but he's in a residential home.....

twinnywinny14 Wed 27-May-20 19:56:35

@monkeytennis97 same as us, we haven’t seen us since end of February x

SamSeabornforPresident Wed 27-May-20 20:00:09

iolaus, in Scotland we can meet up with more than one household but not at the same time. So we can meet my parents (outside) today, and my brother's family tomorrow. It's to discourage large gatherings I think. I think the potential problems of the 'bubble' were recognised.

LookDontTeuch Wed 27-May-20 20:11:46

@SamSeabornforPresident we can't actually meet up with them today or tomorrow as that will only be allowed from Friday if announced tomorrow.

Blossom513 Wed 27-May-20 20:13:21

Two households being able to link up would be a real life saver for many single parents (1 in 4 families) as we are not even able to do the current 'you can meet ONE person from another household outside' because we always have our kids with us. We never get a break. I can't feel sorry for couples who don't want this because they would find it too hard to choose between their many family options, when they've had another adult in their home the entire time, and able to meet up with other adults alone whilst their partner looks after the kids. Socially distant meet ups still don't actually help single parents much. However I expect the government are still going to ask everyone to remain socially distant.

Jumpqueen Wed 27-May-20 20:14:44

Ahh I know it’s so hard for every family and situation - I guess I just feel deflated as I’ve been using the possibility of seeing my brother to get me past the last few weeks. I totally understand the why’s and reasons just wish it hadn’t been outlined as a option to get hopes up.

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Kittywampus Wed 27-May-20 20:19:50

I think for the odd person this would be a great thing eg people who live separately from their partner.

However for most of us it would be too complicated. For example, I would love to see my sister, but she shares a flat with a friend, so they would presumably need to choose a mutual friend of both of them, rather than me. I would also like to see my parents, but so would my brother and how would they choose between us? Otherwise we could choose one of the children's friends so we can share childcare - but we have two children so how can we decide which one of them would get to see their friend? Etc.

GlennRheeismyfavourite Wed 27-May-20 20:20:44

I've already done this - my family and my parents. I can't do this anymore at home with a toddler. We're all isolating apart from each other. Makes no sense that next week my daughter can go to nursery but we can't do this!

SpringerJS Wed 27-May-20 20:27:15

We are the same OP, several hours from my parents and my FIL, and we have moved around quite a bit for work so our friends that we would love to see are all over the place and we would need to stay overnight. It wouldn't work for us at all. I don't see how it would work for anyone who doesn't live round the corner from family and who has more than one sibling or whatever.

RichardMarxisinnocent Wed 27-May-20 20:30:37

Why are you so keen to fo indoors (not being harsh, just wondering)?
Similarly to the OP I have someone (my closest friend) who lives too far away to be able to visit and sit outside. I suspect others have similar with non-local family

My first choice however would to be able to see my boyfriend in private, inside (and get nearer than 2 metres to him) rather than in a park.

monkeytennis97 Wed 27-May-20 20:32:48

@twinnywinny14 thankswine

March for us... So so hard isn't it xx

SamSeabornforPresident Wed 27-May-20 20:46:16

lookdonttouch It was hypothetical. To illustrate the point. But I think you know that, don't you?

NaturalBornWoman Wed 27-May-20 20:49:00

Makes no sense that next week my daughter can go to nursery but we can't do this!

It does make sense. In order to keep R down there is limited wiggle room for relaxing restrictions. Opening nurseries benefits many people and the economy. People mixing indoors is a greater risk to R and benefits only the individuals.

Granolaslice Wed 27-May-20 21:22:39

Same thinking here.

We don’t have a garden, so meeting indoors would be much more preferable for us. Will have to see what is announced I suppose sad

LookDontTeuch Wed 27-May-20 21:42:41

@SamSeabornforPresident i was thinking it was hypothetical smile but there's so much confusion arising from the different changes that you can never be sure.

Certainly no offence intended

pfrench Wed 27-May-20 22:17:40

Do what you like. Risk assess it and go for it if you can make it work. Ie, both families isolate, or you accept that both families haven't etc. Go and sit in a garden. If you're miles away then meet in the middle. Take a potty. The difference between Thursday and Friday is one click of the second hand, its irrelevant.

ChocolateCheesecake20 Wed 27-May-20 23:30:00

I'd prefer one or 2 households indoors. Because I miss my dad's roasts haha.

And then what about those in flats? Until a Yr ago myself and my DM had flats. She still does. So what happens there?

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