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Anyone else reevaluating friendships due to covid?(10 Posts)
Is people's response to the pandemic as divisive as brexit for example?
I've a few mum friends who are definitely not what I thought before this.
Brexit and C19 have definitely resulted in a decreased circle. But actually I’m happy with the end result, which is fewer closer friends that I now know beyond doubt that I have more in common with.
Yes definitely. Really shown friends true colours. Shown who are good friends (the ones who just message to see how you are getting on etc, check if you need anything) and the ones who we’ve heard nothing from.
Yes! My Dad is a stickler for the rules but happy to send his wife out every day to the shops. None of us would be in the high risk category yet he won't budge on the rules until scottish government says so. He rarely asks how we are but wants pictures of the grandchildren. We are going batty in a small house with no garden, a new baby that cries anytime I even think about taking him outside, and a very active toddler who screams all the time - probably out of frustration. I feel there is no support, even if from afar. I think even after lockdown I won't be seeing them too often at all.
Yes - only two have kept in touch and one has shown how thoughtful and kind she is - i will definitely make a lot more time for her in future
There’s one I would gladly never see again. Bombarding next with ‘evidence’ that it’s all fake and constantly asking me to go to her house. People definitely show their true colours in times like this.
And then there’s MIL who is upset with us because we won’t let her visit. Crazy
I haven’t messaged some of my friends because I don’t have the headspace to cope with messages as well as a full time job and the dc. I hope people don’t cut me off because of that!
I'm not sure it's the right time to just cut friends off tbh. Like poster above says. You have some that have been working all the hours under the sun, some who have had weeks off. Some that have been ill, the list goes on....Also of you havent heard from some people, then you havent made the effort either! There is only one friend I have found upsetting. Message regularly and ask how she is and she just replies about her, NEVER says how are you?? But I guess she is just preoccupied with her little ones...xx
I meant more to how they are responding to the situation. I'm seeing some serious lack of intelligence and critical thinking amongst some friends and a lot of neurosis. They probably think I'm not neurotic enough. Just wondering when this has passed whether it be back to normal friendship wise or if it drive a wedge.
Have given no tonight to people who haven't been in touch much. Assume they're dealing with their own shit.
Ah, I see. Yeah i get you on that one. I'm a bit of a stickler to the rules, couldnt bare the thought of putting anyone at risk through my own actions. I've been surprised at some peoples lack of judgement for definite!!
Yes I think I have seen the best and worst of my friends throughout this. Some friends I wouldn't have thought of have been exceptionally kind and thoughtful. Our best couple pals I feel have been really insensitive. They have decided to put themselves into a bubble with their two neighbouring houses and children, almost like a commune. They stay out in the countryside so wouldn't be caught. They constantly remark how lovely it is the children all play together and the adults all take turns of looking after each other's children. I feel like they are rubbing our noses in it but I guess that's my problem.
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