Think my ex is breaking rules - contact?

[Jellybellykelly25]

Throughout lockdown my dc aged 9 and 7 have continued to see their dad as normal. Both households are working from home so the risk has been minimal. And thankfully my ex and his wife have been taking things as seriously as us which is a relief because my dp is in a high risk group.

However my ex's family are less concerned and have all been mixing between households for weeks. His mum and dad in particular just don't seem to care about the risks and have regularly pestered my ex to 'let them come round to see the kids'. He hasn't given into this which I'm grateful for.

But I'm now getting the feeling that he is wavering from some of the things he's said. Dc are due to go there next weekend when the weather is good and I have a horrible feeling he is thinking of letting the family (including parents and cousins inc young kids) come round in the garden. This worries me obviously for the risk of infection but also because he is the sort of person who will tell my kids to lie about it too. I know it will cause big problems. And I absolutely hate his family for being so clueless and selfish.

I don't intend to stop contact based on a gut feeling but if my instinct is right what do I do going forward? My dc haven't seen my family for weeks.

[Soontobe60]

Week, with the whole debacle around Dominic Cummings, many more people will be doing this.

[Jellybellykelly25]

That's exactly it, people making their own rules now but when our household has been sticking to the rules since day 1 it really worries and frustrates me that my ex is about to throw it all away because his awful family have been putting the pressure on. With the kids going between houses it puts us at risk too.

I know his wife won't be happy about it either but him and his family are all bullies.

[Coffeecak3]

Seems you can do what you want now if you can justify it as reasonable.

[Jellybellykelly25]

But it isn't reasonable to put two households at risk and probably get the kids to lie about it