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HedgeHogFoxBadger Thu 21-May-20 22:59:14

Title would be too long but if you knew there was a child in the bubble class who's parent had broke the rules, ie since lockdown has seen her BF most of the time but they dont live together and since the rules have changed they are mixing with a slightly bigger group and not social distancing.
This parent has told me to see my BF who i havent seen since lockdown. Am i being unreasonable?

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LouiseTrees Thu 21-May-20 23:03:46

I would request to be moved to a different bubble.

gersan Thu 21-May-20 23:04:03

I live in the area I teach in. For the past couple of weeks I see groups of parents and kids together whenever I take my dog for a walk. I recognise the children and know they don't live together, and many are not social distancing. I think it's unfair on those who are following the guidelines.

pfrench Thu 21-May-20 23:09:59

Tough really isn't it. If I was concerned I'd not send my child back.

Playdonut Thu 21-May-20 23:13:03

I can't imagine that you will be able to find a bubble without someone who has broken the rules. By definition its only the people who aren't scared of the virus who will be sending their kids in or key workers who have no choice.

ViSovari Thu 21-May-20 23:17:17

Play donut
I think that’s a really unfair comment to make. I know people who are proportionally scared of the virus but are also making informed decisions regarding going back to school and the impact that has on the child and family wellbeing with what are relatively low risks for young children and people/families with no underlying health issues in
It’s not a straight “I don’t care I’m sending them back” decision.
I wish people would see this situation is much more nuanced than what is made out in here and on social media.

Playdonut Thu 21-May-20 23:19:14

Sorry visovari. I'm sending mine in and I'm a stay at home mum xxx

Greysparkles Thu 21-May-20 23:19:22

Will you also request a different bubble if there are keyworker children?

aquietlifeplease Thu 21-May-20 23:20:35

My school has sent an email out saying if they have evidence of people not following the regulations about mixing households etc they won't be allowed into school. I totally agree with there stance on this and just assumed most schools would be saying the same.

LavenderLilacTree Thu 21-May-20 23:24:53

I honestly don't think it will make a difference. Once the YrR, Yr1, Yr6 go back to school they will be in effect mixing with multiple families. There won't be social distancing in schools and there won't be any PPE.

Yester Thu 21-May-20 23:25:34

Sadly so many.people are breaking the rules it's impossible to keep track of and the risk is there. This is why people that can are keeping their kids off.

VicesReturning Fri 22-May-20 00:07:28

If you chose to send them in, you chose to accept a risk / likelihood they will catch coronavirus. I pass no judgement, up to you what you choose to do, but I would only send them in if ok with them catching CV.

(Mine have had cv, it was fine, they r going in as key worker children already and yr 1 son will be continuing to go in when classmates join him after half term)

Deelish75 Fri 22-May-20 07:39:09

I had decided to send my DC back in June (subject to test, track and trace being up and running competently) but I'm beginning to wobble on it now. I'm starting to notice larger groups of people clearly not from the same household in our local park, and it's not actually half term yet - which the weather is supposed to be really good. What's it going to be like next week?

The schools should be able refuse the rule breakers. I think people have forgotten that this virus is still here and we need to be limiting its spread.

Aroundtheworldin80moves Fri 22-May-20 07:43:56

My DH has shared an office with 1-2 other people daily, plus toilets and drink making facilities with more people, and driven 300mes to attend meetings with other people in the car...

Would you be happy with my kids? (Essential worker btw, although DC aren't in school at the moment as I'm at home)

ProperVexed Fri 22-May-20 07:45:45

The police do not have the resources to police social distancing and groups meeting up. How on earth do you expect the schools to police that now? What would be the evidence? What if the report was malicious?
These bubbles are in no way sterile. Mixing started when the lockdown was relaxed.... there will be many children in bubbles who have broken the rules.

GrimmsFairytales Fri 22-May-20 07:50:34

I can't imagine that you will be able to find a bubble without someone who has broken the rules.

I agree with this.

MichonnesBBF Fri 22-May-20 07:55:02

This has already started to happen, my school alone have recieved phone calls from parents, asking/demanding (some phone calls are more poliet than others) that their child is not placed in the same bubble as so and so because...

Another parent rang to tell us not to allow a certain family back because of rule breaking. When asked how they (the school) could prove it, they were told "because i'm fucking telling you".

Schools are never going to win.

This is going to be an interesting start back.

The school have said they will monitor accusations but ultimately without cast iron proof there is very little they can do.

CurlyEndive Fri 22-May-20 08:01:42

OP, it's unlikely that everyone in the bubble has been following the rules to the letter. And even if they have, there's still a risk of infection - lots of workplaces are starting to go back now, children will be mixing with their siblings who are in different bubbles etc etc.

If you can't accept that level of risk, keep your child at home. Personally I'll be sending mine back as soon as their year groups reopen.

StrawberryBlondeStar Fri 22-May-20 08:02:29

My children’s school has demand from parents that keyworker children should not be put in bubbles with their children and should be housed on a separate site.

If you send your child in you are accepting a risk, but accepting the benefit is greater (societally in the case of keyworkers or educationally/emotionally for your own children). You are accepting they will be in contact with a small group of other children. Yes some children’s parents may be meeting Granny at the weekend, but others might not be great hand washers or go to the supermarket regularly. All the plans/modelling are based on a certain amount of people not complying with lockdowns

HeffalumpsCantDance Fri 22-May-20 08:03:30

Schools need to tell parents to take their accusations to the police, so they can be dealt with appropriately. Schools can’t make decisions based on hearsay.
Neither will they be able to accommodate the usual insane levels of primary parental fussing over who is with whom and individual demands for children without additional needs.
If schools do go back on 1st June, it needs to be with clarity about which rules are set, and less kowtowing to parents wanting to manipulate them.
‘Because I’m fucking telling you’ Really? Take that to the police, you aggressive arse.

milkysmum Fri 22-May-20 08:19:37

I genuinely think by now that most people have breached the rules to some degree ( maybe not on Mumsnet, but in the real world they will have)
I'm a mental health nurse and I work in a small residential home. So I have daily contact with 10 residents ( all of whom go to the shop independently) and I have contact with 15 staff ( who shop, have their own families, and I have no idea to what degree they adhere to rules out if work)
So would you refuse your child to be with my child? I suspect you would. But she's the only keyworker child in her year 6 group. Is she really going to be isolated from the rest? I certainly hope not.

purpleboy Fri 22-May-20 08:28:46

I don't think you can police who is or isn't breaking lockdown rules.
If your child is in a bubble of 10 kids, those 10 kids have 1/2/3 sibling with their bubble of 10 kids, by the time you work it all my guess would be almost everyone in the school has access to each other via siblings bubbles. The whole thing makes no sense to me. Unless all the kids are only children then the bubble is actually huge.

Orangeblossom78 Fri 22-May-20 08:44:44

There will be key worker children there who come into contact with the public as well, for example in our school DS will be with a child whose mum is a nurse..

so I don't think so...

pfrench Fri 22-May-20 08:49:58

My school has sent an email out saying if they have evidence of people not following the regulations about mixing households etc they won't be allowed into school.

Hahaha, yes because schools have got loads of time to do that right now. It's also not their job.

'Demanding' anything of schools right now is not OK. Headteachers have not had a day off in months, have been working ridiculous hours in circumstances that apparently it's totally fine for people in this thread to be scared of, and are getting grief from all angles.

If you don't think school will be safe for your child, on the basis of the arrangements the school have made, then don't send him or her back. That is your only option.

headinabook Fri 22-May-20 08:54:17

As I’ve found as a teacher, some of the children who’ve been coming to school are quite happy to tell you that they’ve been playing at so-and-so’s house. And the fact that they’re going to be having a big religious celebration with all their aunts and uncles this weekend. And yes, the school does act on this.

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