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Is it normal to feel so drained

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Drainedbeyondbeleaf1 Tue 19-May-20 16:04:12

Really starting to struggle. I’m usually such a pragmatic person but finding everything so overwhelming recently.
I have three dcs , bags of energy , a job that I’m trying desperately to keep ( luckily it’s part time and they are very understanding), I’ve actually taken some leave during this as my dh is out 6 days a week, we are renting a crappy apartment as our house was getting a big, much longed for renovation done. Obviously that has stalled, the apartment is absolutely awful, it was supposed to be very temporary as our plan was to be finished work by now and we were going to be out working , kids in school all day etc (obviously all that has not happened)
It has no garden, no space , in a city, no parks nearby etc.
I do my absolute best with the dcs and they are great kids but I just feel so exhausted and drained all the time now. I’m used to having some downtime and I’m pretty introverted. It’s not as though I’m not used to being with my kids , I was a sahm but went back to work 2 years ago to my previous job. I’ve never had any family support so im not missing that.
I was just getting some life back , years of sleep deprivation over and felt like some energy was coming back. All day long is so full on , my three year old needs loads of attention and is very, very active so constantly have to watch him and he doesn’t play for more than 15 mins at any one thing and my older two fight a lot. We go out but it’s the same walks. My kids always loved playgrounds , swimming etc
My dh is fantastic and takes over the second he’s back but he’s in a very high level position and is extremely busy and is managing some of the build (we can’t afford a site manager and we are down loads of money as it is as well as renting this place , mortgage , build). I’m just so exhausted all the time and worried I’m getting depressed, I don’t want to get up in the mornings sometimes. Although I’m good all day and they kids are very well looked after and I adore them. They do loads of art, baking etc but my energy is so low. I had my bloods done before this and they were fine and I’m usually pretty fit etc but by the time the evening comes I just want to go to sleep.
Is this normal to feel like this ? Do other people get drained with childcare 24/7?

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Bluewavescrashing Tue 19-May-20 16:04:39


Drainedbeyondbeleaf1 Tue 19-May-20 16:05:43

I’m also in a very hot country so hoping the summer isn’t going to be too restrictive.

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Kljnmw3459 Tue 19-May-20 16:10:47

Yes, because it's a constant, nonstop task. Day and night. Added factor with lockdown and you're probably not getting the usual amount of fresh air, exercise or some other form of stimulation from elsewhere.

BilboBercow Tue 19-May-20 16:17:15

I'm the same op. Lone parent with a 7 year old. Trying to work from home and feeling permanently exhausted and guilty. I've stopped doing any exercise but walking and I'm comfort eating all the time.

Drainedbeyondbeleaf1 Tue 19-May-20 17:17:26

Sorry to hear about others but also glad I’m not alone.
Just got sight of myself, massive eye bags and wrinkles worse (I’m 35). I eat pretty healthily and am going to bed early etc . Glad to hear it’s normal as was beginning to feel like I was getting ill or depressed and I don’t think it’s the latter as I’m usually fine.
I think I struggle a lot with the lack of any options to do anything with them, you can’t bring kids into shops here or anywhere inside which i understand but such a trapped feeling. Saw plp queuing to get a coffee the last day. There’s no way I feel I can queue with the dcs . When are things going to loosen up for people with kids?! Honestly no idea how single parents cope, max two plp in each shop and I haven’t seen a child in a shop in months.
I just feel low about the fact that I’m looking forward to bed all day..

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