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So sick of seeing all the I’m not sending my kids back to school posts

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NiknicK Mon 18-May-20 10:21:45

from parents on Facebook. Followed by their friends jumping on the band wagon praising them for being such a great parent. I’ve also seen posts from parents judging others who have chosen to send their kids back saying they are selfish. Why do parents feel the need to announce on Facebook that their kids aren’t going back school. My children aren’t going back to school until at least September but I haven’t felt the need to share this on social media with the hope of being validated by other parents telling me what an amazing parent I am. It’s like it’s a competition, ie the prize for the biggest martyr and best parent goes to........

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Alone07 Mon 18-May-20 10:31:50

What is annoying me is the scaremongering on social media.
Someone was spreading all over fb how our local hospital was over run with covid patients and it was worse then before lockdown.
So then the parents was on there with 'this is why I'm not sending Johny in etc etc.
When in reality the hospital is not oven run and in actual fact there down by 1/3 and are seeing 1 or 2 a day.

NoMorePoliticsPlease Mon 18-May-20 10:33:52

The unions are whipping up fear that does not stack up to the evidence
eg BMJ and Australian study, and experience in Denmark

WhatCFeryIsThis Mon 18-May-20 10:34:01

Oooh! A competition!!

I'm not sending mine to school for two years because they're not school age yet.

Do I win?! winkgrin

Waxonwaxoff0 Mon 18-May-20 10:36:19

Gets on my nerves too. Why feel the need to announce it on facebook? Do what's best for your family and let others do the same.

Popcornriver Mon 18-May-20 10:38:11

It's not much different from mumsnet is it really. Just the other side of the coin. Some of those stating their own children will be the first at the gates accuse those deciding not to send them of being uneducated, low class and so on. Perhaps people should make decisions based on their own families and circumstances

MarieQueenofScots Mon 18-May-20 10:39:29

The thing is OP, aren't you looking for validation that you're using social media in the right way wink Your use of "I haven't felt the need...." is telling.

Social media is for anyone to use how they wish, it is also possible for one to get the social media experience one enjoys by using the various tools they put at your disposal.

Make no mistake, people not sending their children back have the privilege of choice and should recognise that, but I certainly don't think they shouldn't post what they want on their own timelines.

Harriett123 Mon 18-May-20 10:41:03

No I win I'm not sending mine in for 4 years ( hes a baby)

Burplecutter Mon 18-May-20 10:42:25

Does anyone know what the difference between September and June 1st will be?
Why will September be safer? Or will it not be?

I have to make the decision for DD soon, but I honestly can't think what will make September much much safer.

ITonyah Mon 18-May-20 10:43:09

Don't worry. Anything that's touted as fact on FB and has all the MN frothers in a rage usually means the exact opposite happens in reality.

Jazzled Mon 18-May-20 10:44:00

Its the nature of fb. Why post pictures of your dinner? Or tag yourself into every place you go ever? Especially the hospital tag PM you hung type posts.

Attention, validation? Whatever it is it happens across the board on many subjects. Hide them from view or tbh consider coming off fb as I expect it will ramp up.

NiknicK Mon 18-May-20 10:45:44

No, I’m not looking for validation at all. I‘m happy with my decision to keep my kids at home but I don’t judge others for choosing to send their kids school.

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Jazzled Mon 18-May-20 10:45:44

Hun not hung confused

ITonyah Mon 18-May-20 10:46:17

I came off FB 2 months ago after having been a prolific user for 10 years.

I do not miss it in the slightest amd I've discovered I can live very happily without knowing what people's opinions are about all sorts of bollocks.

WhatCFeryIsThis Mon 18-May-20 10:47:39

@Harriett123 damn 😂

tinytemper66 Mon 18-May-20 10:49:18

I want to go back to work but feel if I voice this I am not thinking of others. I dont like the unions' stance on this but feel, as a teacher, I won't be popular saying this.
I am not afraid to go back but so many of my colleagues are. One of them has not left the house since we left school on March 20th.
I really don't know what the compromise is. I am in Wales so won't be going back soon.

NiknicK Mon 18-May-20 10:49:29

Yeah i understand that people have the right to post what they like on social media. I’m just being honest about how some things are pure attention seeking and rather annoying. My own Facebook isn’t used for attention seeking posts. I use it mostly to keep up with family who live at the opposite end of the country and friends who I can’t see regularly enough but it’s mostly sharing pictures of our families and joke type posts.

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chunkyrun Mon 18-May-20 10:53:29

I'm sending mine, not announced it. Nobodies business

Jazzled Mon 18-May-20 10:56:07

And some would not understand why you don't use a less public forum for doing that and may deem the use a fb in general is attention seeking.

Each to their own. You have the option to block etc. You may well be fed up, I know people they get fed up seeing endless pictures of peoples kids. It's all relative really.

NiknicK Mon 18-May-20 10:56:24

You’re right. A family member of mine is one of the worst culprits for posting to be he isn’t. She is classed as a key worker and has kids in reception and year 6 but she regularly announces on Facebook in one way or another that she isn’t sending her kids to school even though she can. In my head I’m like well done you do you want a bloody medal.

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NiknicK Mon 18-May-20 10:57:37

I get that but for me posting the odd picture of my child isn’t attention seeking. How on earth could it be?

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Weallhavevalidopinions Mon 18-May-20 10:59:38

Indeed, announcing on social media and waiting for the praise for being 'such a caring parent' for not sending them to school.

However, these type of people post everything on social media anyway. Some people live their lives on it - everything they do has to be shown.

The facts remain that children are at extremely low risk of dying or complications. A study shared on the BBC news this morning suggested that they are not the super spreaders that was initially believed either. Our local schools have had key worker children in and no cases at all. These children are living with people who are most at risk. However, facts seem to have been lost in the recent times. More chance of being knocked down by a car than dying of covid

sundowners Mon 18-May-20 11:01:31

I'm really getting sick of it. I think keeping them off now- unless you live with someone in the vulnerable category makes returning in September, having then been off for nearly half a year so most more daunting for them. However "good" your homeschooling, classroom teaching, with other children around is so different so to be out of that loop for so long will be really hard to adjust to again, I feel.

Lougle Mon 18-May-20 11:02:54

Perhaps they are seeking validation? What is wrong with that? It's a strange and difficult time. They may not be sure of their decision.

I have posted a thread asking if people are sending their children in, and I've used a Facebook group thread to chat it over. I've also spoken to my SIL/BIL who are teachers. All because I'm unsure of my decision.

I don't think September will be different to June, but DD3 is in year 6. She won't be returning to her school after summer, so nothing they do will impact her in September. She will access the same work wherever she is, so we're keeping her home. But I'm not certain that's the right decision... how can I be?

ITonyah Mon 18-May-20 11:03:46

Seeking validation on social media is absolutely pathetic.

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