Mixing of households?

[SpongeCake23]

I’ve seen this is in phase two of the guidelines. Does anyone else know when this might happen?

[kimlo]

phase 2 is when they are aiming to open some hospitality isn't it? And they have said end of July for that to hopefully start.

[Doyoumind]

Already seems to be happening in my neighbour's garden where they have a party going on (with people who definitely don't live there).

[SauvignonBlanche]

I’m dying to see DS, not sure how much longer I can take missing him

[SqidgeBum]

My elderly neighbours have had people over every day this week. We are starting to wonder why we still wont see my DHs parents who are in their mid 50s and healthy. Its seems those of us who are following the rules and are missing our families are wasting our time. Others are seeing their family.

[SpongeCake23]

@kimlo end of July?! I didn’t realise we’d need to wait that long!

[Greenhousecat]

I don’t know or what it will entail. It’s all just speculation and I don’t know what to believe any more and the more statistics I read, the more depressed I become.

Unfortunately mixing does seem to be happening already all over the place. People in my street regularly have their grandkids there and I’ve heard loads of other stories too.

[kimlo]

I've just looked it up, it's stage 3 for july. Stage 2 is when they start to open the schools, so hopefully some point in June.

[SqidgeBum]

I feel it's a huge mistake on the part of the government to not give any indication of when we can see our families. All the emphasis and information is relating to working. I feel they have failed to understand how much people need a goal to work towards, and going back to work to pay taxes isnt that goal.

[Greenhousecat]

I don’t think anyone is expecting large gatherings or pubs/restaurants to be opening any time soon but it would be lovely just to meet with a few friends or family.

You could be right Squidgbum. I think people are just going to start making their own decisions now.

[DrDetriment]

It's really hard. My partner's ex stopped all face to face contact with his children in March even though neither household have ever had symptoms or are considered vulnerable. I was hoping that they would be able to start coming to us again after Boris's statement but she's still refusing. Looks like it will be July.

[SpongeCake23]

I just want to go to my parent’s house and sit on the sofa and drink tea or have lunch round there with my DS.

[HeIenaDove]

My dad is 84 next Saturday. Im in two minds.......................it will depend on whether or not i hear any more dystopian shit this week.

[Bumpandus]

I need to know when this is going to be for my mental health. I’m a single mum and really struggling with no adult to speak to. Even just being able to see my mum would be enough and would benefit the kids. She’s healthy.

[Wewearpinkonwednesdays]

@Bumpandus go and see your mum. I'm seeing mine tonight and I'm in Scotland. She had a fucking terrible year last year. She only just moved into a new house in another town a month before lock down so hadn't even finished properly furnishing the house. We haven't been mixing with anyone else.

[Catsmother1]

They said maybe phase 2, which is June 1st at the earliest. Phase 3 is beginning of July at the earliest.

[MintyCedric]

SqidgeBum

You know that care visits are allowed? Perhaps that's what's going on with your elderly neighbours.

I'm sure my parents' neighbours think the same thing about my daily visits, what they dont knowing that my dad is dying and I've been isolating myself since the end of March so I can help care for him and support my mum.

[Bumpandus]

@Wewearpinkonwednesdays I’d love to but I’ve got two kids who I’d have to take and they wouldn’t be able to social distance from her they would run for cuddles they haven’t seen anyone in months just me.

[Itsjustmee]

Call me a cynic but ...
there is no financial gain to the economy to mixing households & families right now but it risks the R going up
But going to work means taxes and it’s good for the economy therefore if the R goes up it’s sort of worth it

[user68901]

Itsjustmee - exactly . There are ways to seeing people. I've had a walk with my Dad and my girls have each met up with a friend. Everyone has got to remember that at the moment it's just baby steps

[Rightbutno]

God I need cuddles with my little nieces so much. But where I am cases are higher as is R. (NE) so I'm wondering if it will actually be safe even when the gov say it is.
I have anxiety which I take meds for. It is having an impact but I also want to stay safe. My sis has a 5 month old and is really struggling with baby and toddle. She had PND last baby so I'm concerned for her mh too.
Just some examples of how important family support is. I think we need to make a risk assessment for ourselves soon.

[Rightbutno]

@Itsjustmee yep totally this

[Wewearpinkonwednesdays]

@Bumpandus. Yup, take the kids with you.

[newwnamme]

It's already happening. If you're not seeing your friends and family, that doesn't mean everyone is doing the same. Neighbours on all sides here are regularly meeting in gardens, having people round for drinks / BBQs / meals. We have not, or not yet, broken any rules. But my take on it is that all of life involves a risk and the decisions about those risks are mine to take for me. If I want to see my family, or my friends, and they are happy with the risks, we'll be seeing them. The guidelines make no statement about when this might be officially permitted, and I'm afraid I'm not longer waiting around to see how long we're expected to be separated.

[HoneyBee03]

I've been hoping it's soon, but when I hear that people are already visiting grandparents it makes me wonder why we bother. My mum lives a few hours away and she's offered to come and stay for a week to help with DS while I wfh. We've been sticking to the rules but I wonder if we should just go for it. I haven't seen her in nearly 6 months.