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SpongeCake23 Sun 17-May-20 16:42:56

I’ve seen this is in phase two of the guidelines. Does anyone else know when this might happen?

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kimlo Sun 17-May-20 16:44:47

phase 2 is when they are aiming to open some hospitality isn't it? And they have said end of July for that to hopefully start.

Doyoumind Sun 17-May-20 16:44:56

Already seems to be happening in my neighbour's garden where they have a party going on (with people who definitely don't live there).

SauvignonBlanche Sun 17-May-20 16:47:31

I’m dying to see DS, not sure how much longer I can take missing him sad

SqidgeBum Sun 17-May-20 16:49:04

My elderly neighbours have had people over every day this week. We are starting to wonder why we still wont see my DHs parents who are in their mid 50s and healthy. Its seems those of us who are following the rules and are missing our families are wasting our time. Others are seeing their family.

SpongeCake23 Sun 17-May-20 16:49:15

@kimlo end of July?! I didn’t realise we’d need to wait that long!

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Greenhousecat Sun 17-May-20 16:51:48

I don’t know or what it will entail. It’s all just speculation and I don’t know what to believe any more and the more statistics I read, the more depressed I become.

Unfortunately mixing does seem to be happening already all over the place. People in my street regularly have their grandkids there and I’ve heard loads of other stories too.

kimlo Sun 17-May-20 17:00:51

I've just looked it up, it's stage 3 for july. Stage 2 is when they start to open the schools, so hopefully some point in June.

SqidgeBum Sun 17-May-20 17:04:38

I feel it's a huge mistake on the part of the government to not give any indication of when we can see our families. All the emphasis and information is relating to working. I feel they have failed to understand how much people need a goal to work towards, and going back to work to pay taxes isnt that goal.

Greenhousecat Sun 17-May-20 17:28:02

I don’t think anyone is expecting large gatherings or pubs/restaurants to be opening any time soon but it would be lovely just to meet with a few friends or family.

You could be right Squidgbum. I think people are just going to start making their own decisions now.

DrDetriment Sun 17-May-20 17:32:04

It's really hard. My partner's ex stopped all face to face contact with his children in March even though neither household have ever had symptoms or are considered vulnerable. I was hoping that they would be able to start coming to us again after Boris's statement but she's still refusing. Looks like it will be July.

SpongeCake23 Sun 17-May-20 17:32:45

I just want to go to my parent’s house and sit on the sofa and drink tea or have lunch round there with my DS.

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HeIenaDove Sun 17-May-20 17:35:47

My dad is 84 next Saturday. Im in two minds.......................it will depend on whether or not i hear any more dystopian shit this week.

Bumpandus Sun 17-May-20 17:35:48

I need to know when this is going to be for my mental health. I’m a single mum and really struggling with no adult to speak to. Even just being able to see my mum would be enough and would benefit the kids. She’s healthy.

Wewearpinkonwednesdays Sun 17-May-20 17:54:02

@Bumpandus go and see your mum. I'm seeing mine tonight and I'm in Scotland. She had a fucking terrible year last year. She only just moved into a new house in another town a month before lock down so hadn't even finished properly furnishing the house. We haven't been mixing with anyone else.

Catsmother1 Sun 17-May-20 17:55:16

They said maybe phase 2, which is June 1st at the earliest. Phase 3 is beginning of July at the earliest.

MintyCedric Sun 17-May-20 17:59:06

SqidgeBum

You know that care visits are allowed? Perhaps that's what's going on with your elderly neighbours.

I'm sure my parents' neighbours think the same thing about my daily visits, what they dont knowing that my dad is dying and I've been isolating myself since the end of March so I can help care for him and support my mum.

Bumpandus Sun 17-May-20 18:15:22

@Wewearpinkonwednesdays I’d love to but I’ve got two kids who I’d have to take and they wouldn’t be able to social distance from her they would run for cuddles they haven’t seen anyone in months just me.

Itsjustmee Sun 17-May-20 18:39:24

Call me a cynic but ...
there is no financial gain to the economy to mixing households & families right now but it risks the R going up
But going to work means taxes and it’s good for the economy therefore if the R goes up it’s sort of worth it

user68901 Sun 17-May-20 18:44:32

Itsjustmee - exactly . There are ways to seeing people. I've had a walk with my Dad and my girls have each met up with a friend. Everyone has got to remember that at the moment it's just baby steps

Rightbutno Sun 17-May-20 19:00:31

God I need cuddles with my little nieces so much. But where I am cases are higher as is R. (NE) so I'm wondering if it will actually be safe even when the gov say it is.
I have anxiety which I take meds for. It is having an impact but I also want to stay safe. My sis has a 5 month old and is really struggling with baby and toddle. She had PND last baby so I'm concerned for her mh too.
Just some examples of how important family support is. I think we need to make a risk assessment for ourselves soon.

Rightbutno Sun 17-May-20 19:01:03

@Itsjustmee yep totally this

Rainbow12e Sun 17-May-20 19:09:04

Dp's neighbours (I am only living here through lockdown ) have had their adult daughters and grandkids in their back garden for weeks most Friday afternoons.
Seems most are doing it already. 😕

DP and I have stuck by the rules. Little one goes off to her mum's and her partners for half the week then back to ours but that is allowed.

Wewearpinkonwednesdays Mon 18-May-20 00:26:14

@Bumpandus. Yup, take the kids with you.

newwnamme Mon 18-May-20 00:33:15

It's already happening. If you're not seeing your friends and family, that doesn't mean everyone is doing the same. Neighbours on all sides here are regularly meeting in gardens, having people round for drinks / BBQs / meals. We have not, or not yet, broken any rules. But my take on it is that all of life involves a risk and the decisions about those risks are mine to take for me. If I want to see my family, or my friends, and they are happy with the risks, we'll be seeing them. The guidelines make no statement about when this might be officially permitted, and I'm afraid I'm not longer waiting around to see how long we're expected to be separated.

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