My elderly nan has dementia. She was diagnosed at the beginning of the year but her condition began to deteriorate rapidly, coincidentally, from the onset of lockdown ( I think the severe disruption to her routine has bought on this deterioration). She has lived with my parents for 8 years.
Over the past three weeks my nan has suffered about 20-25 falls, miraculously she has not injured herself, but seeing as these falls generally happen during the night (she sleeps during the day and then wanders around at night) my parents weren't able to sleep. My nan also left a hob on when she began to cook bacon at 2am, luckily my mom woke because of the smell.
The social worker deemed it unsafe for my nan to stay at home and we took her to a care home on Friday for respite care. It was the singularly most horrendous thing I have ever had to do. We had to just hand her over at the door and walk away.
We haven't been able to visit, obviously, though we are phoning every day.
My questions, to care home staff, are;
Was it a good idea for her to go into respite care (with the view to moving to permanent care) during this pandemic? How do new arrivals cope under these circumstances? Do staff get fed up of relatives calling?
What can we do to make my nan feel comfortable and safe and happy in her new situation?
This bloody virus has made an absolutely shit situation, a billion times more shit. The fact that we can't visit her to reassure her feels absolutely barbaric to me, though I obviously understand why. But I feel as though she's sitting there wondering why we've just abandoned her and the guilt is just tearing me up.
Any reassurance would be most welcome, but any I also want to get a true, and real view too.
Thank you
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Could someone who works in a care home help me please?
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duckme · 15/05/2020 00:25
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