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Honestly had enough now.

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Mummypig2020 Fri 08-May-20 16:11:12

My mental health isn’t good atm. I’m really starting to struggle. I just can not see an end to this. It’s making me so depressed. I have just been for a walk with dd3 and even she’s had enough. She’s begging to be able to go to the park, go to the ice cream shop or anything other than our daily walk.

I want to go to a national trust property and spend a ridiculous amount of cake.

I’m fed up.

I know I’m being unreasonable.

I want to see my dad too!

Uhh Iv had enough. I can’t imagine the whole of summer like this.

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applesandoranges221 Fri 08-May-20 16:14:57

Me too! I can’t say anything to help but please know that it is utterly shit and you are absolutely not alone in feeling like this!

Skybluepink123 Fri 08-May-20 16:18:48

I know what you mean but I’m also really terrified of lifting the lockdown. It’s awful either way really.

TopBitchoftheWitches Fri 08-May-20 16:21:49

You are simply being asked to stay at home, unless a keyworker. It's not that difficult.
I don't understand this attitude of 'can't do it anymore', it's been what? 7 weeks.

Mummypig2020 Fri 08-May-20 16:21:55

I’m worried about a second wave but I also worry about the effect this is having on more people than will actual get coronavirus.

I just want to cry. My Dc are driving me insane!!

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Whitney101 Fri 08-May-20 16:23:22

You’ve got this mummypig just keep swimming! It’s shit and it’s dragging on. But you’ve come this far 💪

Bagelsandbrie Fri 08-May-20 16:24:06

I feel the same - and I am in the shielding group (12 week stay at home letter). I haven’t been able to stay at home totally because I have a son with complex needs who is literally climbing the walls without being able to go for a walk. We are all sick of it now. It doesn’t mean you don’t understand the importance of it all but you’re allowed to be pissed off with it all!

Hunnybears Fri 08-May-20 16:24:45

Totally agree OP. Went to the supermarket today and had to queue right round the store to get to the checkout.

This whole thing is going to go on for months if not year/s.

It’s a nightmare and I really feel for the likes of single parents with young children that have no support. I can go shopping when DH is home but I really feel for some people.

CloudsCanLookLikeSheep Fri 08-May-20 16:26:36

I'm getting depressed now, I have that awful heavy feeling in my chest and just want to sleep all the time. I actually woke up in the middle of a dream last night and thought, nooo don't want to wake up the dream is so much more interesting! Yeah I can actually leave the house in my dream!

I'm worried about the impending recession, this was supposed to be the year I got my career back on track, I'm going to be even further
behind now and there's a real chance I'll be made redundant as well.

It's just the lack of anything to look forward to or break up the endless days.

TopBitchoftheWitches Fri 08-May-20 16:27:25

Sorry op, I get the concern with a second wave.
People just need to do as told, but they aren't.

I'm a keyworker, it's awful going to work everyday.

LadyofTheManners Fri 08-May-20 16:28:49

You're not alone

With other places ahead of us being able to lift their lockdowns, it's easy to feel pissed off.
I just want to have the freedom to not beholden to Supermarket workers changing what is and isn't allowed on an almost hourly basis
I miss the street party we were going to have today
I'm worried that my local village pub had today said they financially cannot carry on past the end of June as their brewery is still charging full rent
I'm miffed my wedding is cancelled until next year
It's monotonous. It feels so definite. It feels never ending.
And it's all so unnecessary if one place had of exercised caution or even tried to contain it

Janaih Fri 08-May-20 16:29:31

I'm with you OP. 3 year olds do not appreciate walks for the sake of it, getting very bored now. If it was up to me I would end lockdown tomorrow.

But I would settle with playgrounds and public toilets being opened again.

moita Fri 08-May-20 16:30:22

This whole thing is going to go on for months if not year/s. Its not going to go on for years.

Bigfishylittlefishy Fri 08-May-20 16:30:27

💐 it’s rubbish.... hang on in there!!

jaffaa Fri 08-May-20 16:30:38

@TopBitchoftheWitches Might not be difficult for you but it will be for others!!

Waxonwaxoff0 Fri 08-May-20 16:32:06

I get how you feel OP. When people say "it's not that hard" I don't think they seem to grasp how much this can affect someone's mental health. What's easy for some is incredibly difficult for others.

TopBitchoftheWitches Fri 08-May-20 16:32:13

@jaffaa read my second response.

Mummypig2020 Fri 08-May-20 16:35:22

We were supposed to be going to a haven site in July and Dd is so so so excited. It’s for her 4th birthday and she hasn’t stopped going on. Obviously probably won’t happen now!

She can’t see her friends before she starts school either. We haven’t had chance to even look round her school yet, I’m really worried about her starting being so young. Ahhhhh Iv had enough.

Dh is on 12 hour shifts this weekend and I’m dreading them, even though he does it every two weeks it just feels harder this time.

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HolyMilkBoobiesBatman Fri 08-May-20 16:39:01

*You are simply being asked to stay at home, unless a keyworker. It's not that difficult.
I don't understand this attitude of 'can't do it anymore', it's been what? 7 weeks*

I don’t understand why people feel the need to make these kind of comments @TopBitchoftheWitches
It’s not helpful or constructive. OP has come on for a bit of advice or maybe a cheer up. Ok we ‘only’ have to stay at home, good for you if you’re finding this a piece of cake, not everyone is.
The number of people who’ve commented similarly on threads like this is ridiculous. People are struggling, mental health is struggling. There is no shame in that. You don’t know just how desperate some people are feeling in all this, sometimes I read these threads and despair at the lack of empathy some people have.
If you saw someone at the edge of a bridge about to jump would you grab them back for the edge or would you push them?
For some people this is their bridge and comments like those I’ve quoted above aren’t helpful.

OP I know it’s hard, especially with little ones. How about a home cafe next time you can get shopping in? Make scones and cake and have an afternoon tea of your own?
Take your daughter on a treasure hunt instead of a walk, challenge her to find a daisy, a red leaf, a streetlamp etc etc.

Hopefully we will at least have an idea of how the next few weeks will look in the coming days.

Keep going, it won’t last forever.

Hunnybears Fri 08-May-20 16:41:19

@moita

I meant it social distancing in shops, banks, etc... not the actually lockdown we’re currently in right now

Social distancing in general will go on for months and months then that will take us up to winter then I recon there’s a good chance of a second lockdown and that could see us with social distancing in place until about this time next year.

I hope I’m wrong.

TopBitchoftheWitches Fri 08-May-20 16:41:33

Read other comments please.

Hunnybears Fri 08-May-20 16:42:12

Again- I mean waiting in long queues to get just about anywhere

user1468953505 Fri 08-May-20 16:42:17

@TopBitchoftheWitches the fact you are a key worker and going out to work is the reason you don't understand.

My business is completely dead. I have no income. There is nothing to do but wonder if things will get better.

Don't you get the combination of stress and boredom (at the same time) is a horrible feeling?

Mummypig2020 Fri 08-May-20 16:43:33

I just don’t get this whole “overwhelming the nhs” stuff.

They have hospitals stood not being used. It’s absolutely awful but how many people are dying a day because of this? Those whose treatments been cancelled? Mental health? Too scared to go hospital? Probably more than 400.

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HolyMilkBoobiesBatman Fri 08-May-20 16:44:54

@TopBitchoftheWitches I see your other comment that you’re a key worker, and I appreciate you for continuing to work through this, honestly I do.

However, I still don’t agree with comments such as your original one (not just you obviously, I’ve seen it many times on other threads too)
Just because you have it worse, it doesn’t mean you get to play down other people’s worries like that. If you don’t feel like you want to offer support on threads like these because of your own situation then just don’t comment, no need for top trumps of whose got it worst.

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