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smokescreen Tue 05-May-20 07:53:31

Is it just me? I honestly can't wait to go to a restaurant again, travel, go to a concert, hug family. I realise due to regulations things aren't going back to normal anytime soon but I'm not nervous about human contact.

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HampsteadHeathen Tue 05-May-20 08:23:22

Presumably you think that if you catch it you won't be very ill and you don't care if you infect and kill other people?

ItsAllForYou Tue 05-May-20 08:27:55

I'm the same op. Obviously I care about infecting someone else and won't do that until we are told
By the government that it is safe but also, we can't stay locked away forever. This is going to hit the economy massively.

SudokuBook Tue 05-May-20 08:29:24

Presumably you think that if you catch it you won't be very ill and you don't care if you infect and kill other people?

Bit harsh!

DaisylovesDonald Tue 05-May-20 08:30:34

I feel the same op. This isn’t a natural situation and most humans thrive on being social and being close to people. I can’t wait for that to return.

BreadmanAndCake Tue 05-May-20 08:34:30

I'm the same really. I work in a very rural pub and can't wait to (hopefully) return. I'm aware it'll be a very different atmosphere and operation that it was pre-Covid. I'm just crossing my fingers it survives.

I'm also excited for my toddler to be able to find the joy in playing and interacting with children his age again. When out for exercise he gets so excited if he spots other kids and it's awful to have to make sure he doesn't try and run up to them.

And of course can't wait to see my sister and (young, fit, healthy) parents but as they all live varying long distances away I doubt that'll be any time soon.

Tamtam86 Tue 05-May-20 08:44:34

I'm the same. Of course I don't want to get infected or spread the virus but as soon as we are told it's ok to travel, eat out etc. I will be doing it all!

And like @breadmanAndCake I can't wait for my toddler to be able to play with other children again. It breaks my heart when she shouts "friend" whenever she sees another child and I have to stop her going over to them

imausernamenotanumber Tue 05-May-20 08:48:33

Me too OP. Can’t wait for all of those things and also to have some income coming in.

kingkuta Tue 05-May-20 08:55:21

Why do you think theres something wrong with you? Virtually everyone else feels exactly the same!!

Bol87 Tue 05-May-20 08:58:17

Similarly here. I think most people feel the same way. I miss my parents so much, I long to just pop round for a natter. I miss my friends & our dinner dates and play dates with our children. We zoom & Skype etc but it’s not the same really. I’ve recently had a new baby and it’s been pretty tough with no support. I long for a big hug from my mum!

But above all that is my want for my 3 year old to be able to play with other children again. She is very sociable and is struggling. She asked me the other day why no-one wanted to play with her anymore & was it because she was unkind? I nearly burst into tears.. I did later when she was in bed! With new baby, I’m also struggling to give her as much attention as usual so I feel she’s getting a really raw deal out of all of this!

tillyteatowel Tue 05-May-20 09:02:22

Yes, I think you may lack basic understanding of the entire situation.

imsooverthisdrama Tue 05-May-20 09:02:30

I think most people feel the same so no your not alone , but will only do so when they know the risk is lower .

tillyteatowel Tue 05-May-20 09:03:06

Oh you mean you miss it? Well that’s fine

Not fearing the virus? That I don’t get

dazzlinghaze Tue 05-May-20 09:03:06

@HampsteadHeathen Don't be so bloody ridiculous! Just because the OP is looking forward to enjoying her life again doesn't mean she doesn't care about people who might die! Life will eventually go back to normal and we can't all just stay inside living in fear of this virus. Life has to go on. Of course there will be people who have to be more fearful, just as there is with the flu but why should it mean that those who aren't at risk should feel guilty about enjoying themselves?

OP, I'm with you! I can't wait to go to a concert again. It's one of my favourite things to do and the day I get to experience it again will be a very happy one!

DaisylovesDonald Tue 05-May-20 09:04:57

Posts like @HampsteadHeathen really wind me up.

Op - I can’t wait to be able to hug people again
HH - you want everyone to die


Thisdressneedspockets Tue 05-May-20 09:09:25

I'm the same. We were at a gig just before lockdown. We thought long and harm about going and changed our usual gig habit and found a quiet space.
Having said that, I was pleased when lockdown was called, having watched everything unfold in Italy. We needed the breathing space to understand the spread in this country and limit the deaths.

Also....We can hold two (actually multiple) seemingly opposing thoughts and feelings at the same time. Missing all the things that sustain us and wishing they were happening, while at the same time taking personal responsibility for not spreading this virus.
It's tedious having to write disclaimer after disclaimer in our posts so that people who are more black and white don't jump to the assumption that we don't care and are practically murdering people.

frumpety Tue 05-May-20 09:16:33

I don't think there is anything wrong with looking forward to doing things you used to enjoy, again.

I am one of the least well travelled people I know and the first thing I am going to do, once this is over, is get a passport and go abroad, if that is in 3 months, a year or whatever, matters not. It gives me something to look forward to and I can do all my travel planning and browsing in isolation smile

Littlemeadow123 Tue 05-May-20 09:37:06


Clearly the OP means that she is really looking forward to when it's safe to do those things again and not that she plans on going out and doing them this afternoon.

scaevola Tue 05-May-20 09:44:18

I don't think it's harsh to remind people that the reason these restrictions are in place is to prevent deaths and avert long, scary illnesses, and to hope for the lesser economic damage of lockdown and control of peaks, rather than catastrophic freefall.

And I want those things more than a personal craving to resume specific opportunities to touch or resume an activity.

Thisdressneedspockets Tue 05-May-20 10:01:32

I don't think it's harsh to remind people that the reason these restrictions are in place is to prevent deaths and avert long, scary illnesses, and to hope for the lesser economic damage of lockdown and control of peaks, rather than catastrophic freefall.

It would be a rare person who does not understand this.
It's not particularly helpful when someone is posting for empathy to have those pointed out yet again. I'm sure the op understood this and credited people to read with enough intelligence for them not no need to spell it that of course they understand the purpose, do not wish more people to die etc etc etc. It's exhausting having to remember to post all of that while getting to the point. It's also tiresome to read. We've had months of this. I think we can assume that people know how it works by now.

WiseUpJanetWeiss Tue 05-May-20 12:05:03

It was the not being nervous about human contact that made me conclude that the OP doesn’t really have a grasp of the enormity of the situation. Everyone should be nervous about it, because increasing human contact increases the risk of illness and death on an individual and population level.

However, it seems to me that it’s perfectly normal to be desperate for it to be safe again and to feel the urge to throw caution to the wind. It’s also reasonable to be mindful of all the other risks associated with lock down.

LilacTree1 Tue 05-May-20 12:52:28

I’m the same OP

I have health issues and a lot of things could kill me

I’d like to just get on with my actual life. I don’t go to restaurants but I’d like to see loved ones again

Also I’d like to go for a walk or supermarket shop without bloody social distancing.

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