Live alone and lonely

[9millioncansofbeans]

When lockdown first started I enjoyed it to be honest. I like my own company, enjoy working from home and i felt more connected with people as everyone was making more effort with FaceTime etc.
But the last couple of weeks I’ve felt more and more lonely. My divorce is going through so I guess that doesn’t help. It’s forced me to really reflect on my break up which is hard.
Ultimately I’m vulnerable as I have asthma so would rather be lonely than ill but I’m having more sad and low days than not now so just wanted to reach out.

[Noooblerooble]

I hear you. This is very very tough for anyone on their own right now. I'm finding a routine is helpful and getting on skype or zoom as much as I can. Hopefully some restrictions will ease relatively soon.

[Firefly2]

Hi 9million, sorry to read that you are feeling lonely and I feel for you that you’re now sitting with those feelings from your breakup. I’m afraid I don’t have any words of wisdom as such but didn’t want to read and run, and just wanted to send you some positive vibes that you will get through this and perhaps even be grateful at the end that you did have that time to reflect on your divorce. Please be really kind to yourself and perhaps make a point of calling a close friend tomorrow? I am sending you well wishes

[Beebyonthewold]

Hi 9million, I’m in a similar position, including dealing with a break up, and understand how you feel. I was ticking along ok for the first few weeks but it’s gradually getting more difficult. I am craving a face to face conversation, and also a hug! Hang in there, here’s hoping things will change soon

[Redheadedninja]

Me too! I really know how you feel. I’m in a very similar position and although I wasn’t married, I have recently broken up with my long term boyfriend who I lived with. I felt sort of ok at first but now less so. I’m not really sure why. It feels like over time I should be getting more used to it rather than less! I do also keep looking at his social media even though I know this isn’t helping me :-(

Right. I need to try to make myself stop feeling like this. I’m going to take firefly2’s advice and be proactive and FaceTime someone (anyone! Everyone!).

This won’t be forever. We will be ok

[9millioncansofbeans]

Thanks everyone. I’m sorry so many other people feel the same. I kept myself busy today an had three video calls but I can’t shake the sad/emptiness. I’m going to go for a power walk early tomorrow morning and See if that helps .
Hope you are all ok

[Pooppicker]

Might not help everyone but when I have had periods of loneliness in my life. I listen to the radio, in particular talk shows which makes me feel like there are people around. Weird but it helped me

[purpleme12]

I know I'm not in the same position as I live with my 6 year old but I'm lonely too. The thing that gets me is not being able to hug another adult for over a month. My child is not a hugger anyway. I'm desperate for some real human contact not bloody skyping. God I've set myself off

[Idespairofthehumanrace]

@9millioncansofbeans, I am so sorry that you feel this way and I can empathise with the emptiness and sadness that you feel. I am also sorry that you have not had many responses to your original opening post - this is the sad irony - I have posted myself (under a different name) about lonliness and the response has been minimal, which just accentuates my feelings of lonliness and 'unworthiness'.

I am currently furloughed, with no idea of when I can return to work, and have been keeping busy, up until now, with projects in the garden and have even repainted the whole of the outside of my house! However, the evenings are lonely and now that I have run out of jobs to do, the days will be likewise too!

Although I am not going through a divorce, as you are ( I am permanently single), I can imagine how difficult these strange times must be for you and I just wanted to wish you well and let you know that you are not alone