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Longjo Mon 27-Apr-20 21:17:34

I belong to quite a few whatsapp groups, some I have been in for a while and others that were created at the start of the outbreak. I found these a great way to distract from the bad news and people would often post links, videos, jokes, ideas, community support... everything really. Today I realised it has almost all come to a standstill. Is it just the groups I'm in or are people fed up with posting now? I posted a link in a group today with over 40 people. No one responded! blush Some people, who used to post daily, have left the groups. I'm a single parent so these groups have been a real means of distraction and uplifting support for me. Everything feels very quiet at that moment...

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SouthernComforts Mon 27-Apr-20 21:21:27

We've run out of memes.

Seriously though I'm running out of small talk. I get up, work, eat, run, shower, tv, bed. Rinse and repeat. There is nothing to catch up on with friends, nothing on the news except corona, it's groundhog day.

PicsInRed Mon 27-Apr-20 21:24:28

People are depressed.

I've watched it happen with even (especially?) the normally upbeat on WhatsApp and FB. Their posts have become more and more morose, sarcastic and few and far between.

Sosadandempty Mon 27-Apr-20 21:25:52

I think people are communicating less as well (though one group I am a kind of silent member of is still pretty active, as well as my local mutual aid WhatsApp group but that’s different). I guess the novelty has worn off and it feels like more of a hard slog now. I am also a single parent.

BadgerBadgerMushroom Mon 27-Apr-20 21:26:34

I think people are actually bored of social media too and are finding other things to pass the time. I know I am.

PersonaNonGarter Mon 27-Apr-20 21:27:36

Agree that it is Groundhog Day. Nothing to report.

Pebbles574 Mon 27-Apr-20 21:29:23

Yes, it's gone in a cycle. Initially everyone was upbeat and "we can do this" and everything was being moved to zoom etc.
Now people have realised they can do an exercise video on their own from YouTube.
Our street WhatsApp group has become a forum for swapping 1000 piece jigsaws and lending garden power tools! grin

MRex Mon 27-Apr-20 21:31:12

I don't have time to post much. Working at home with a toddler isn't easy. Then there's extra time spent on food, making sure wider family are ok, checking in on a few people who work for the NHS or live alone (both on one case), doing the cleaning because our cleaner can't come, responding on the neighbour WhatsApp about whatever someone needs, chatting in small friend groups etc. Bigger WhatsApp groups would come pretty far down the chain (if I hadn't left or muted them all in the past anyway).

Sorry you feel lonely though, maybe just join some new groups that suit you. New friends can be fun too.

Longjo Mon 27-Apr-20 21:33:35

@Pebbles574 perhaps I need to do a 1000 piece jigsaw grin

I understand the depression in people. It's from people who were initially upbeat and who I didn't expect to disappear entirely.

I'm guessing if it's a cycle it will all pick up again?

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RubyRedz Mon 27-Apr-20 21:33:34

I had to update my WhatsApp today-
Apparently it was the last day to update it!

VodselForDinner Mon 27-Apr-20 21:35:19

Virgin Media broadband seems to have outages across Ireland and the UK today. Does your Whatapp work on wifi only or is it enabled for use of 4G?

Drivingdownthe101 Mon 27-Apr-20 21:35:22

I’m bored of it all. For the first week or two I was positive and upbeat, not so much now. I’d rather read my book than talk to people grin

Palavah Mon 27-Apr-20 21:35:26

I found the outbreak of memes on our neighbourhood WhatsApp group to be really exhausting. It turned into people sharing news articles and ranting about covidiots and turned so nasty that 4 people left. I'm delighted it's now jigsaws an power tools.
I'd say the WhatsApp group of 'real' friends is quieter for the past week or two, but I agree that's because we don't have much new chat. Not that people are especially low, just don't have loads to say. It perks up when someone sends something and then goes quiet again.

If you're missing it have you posted anything? Or contacted the previously chatty people to check they're OK?

Carrie7469 Mon 27-Apr-20 21:38:37

I'm in a WhatsApp group and the memes are coming thick and fast.. I find it really annoying and intrusive and I'm going to leave the group

Bluebooby Mon 27-Apr-20 21:42:03

Our group chat has gone quiet. I think partly people have run out of things to say. There's not much to talk about really. Well the biggest conversations in ours were people asking if anyone had seen gluten free pasta etc stocked anywhere or asking if anyone needed help with anything, and then one or two asking for help. I guess people who are in the groups and needed help have it sorted now, and the supermarkets are generally better stocked/ people have found alternatives they're happy with.

Oldmrswasherwoman Mon 27-Apr-20 22:06:19

A close relative of mine has died of covid and I am finding all of the social media #lockdown/memes/funnies/faux positivity quite trite. Even the clap for carers positive stuff I am struggling with as it glosses over fact that care workers and NHS are woefully under protected. A neighbour had a massive kareoke party atmosphere sing along after the clap the day after my relative died. He meant well and it was all meant to boost community spirit etc but it ruined the solemnity of the clap which was so important to me that night.

To me its very real and not a joke anymore. I've had to step back from whatsapp/FB because I just think the majority of those posting have no idea. They are lucky I suppose. My experience is colouring my feelings on this but as more and more are affected there will only be more and more feeling the same as me.

loobyloo1234 Mon 27-Apr-20 22:07:17

What is there to talk about? No one has a life right now

WhenItIsOver Mon 27-Apr-20 22:09:41

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WhenItIsOver Mon 27-Apr-20 22:12:04

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Ilovemypantry Mon 27-Apr-20 22:18:32

@Oldmrswasherwoman
I’m so sorry you have lost someone close to you to the virus, heartbreaking 💔

Oldmrswasherwoman Mon 27-Apr-20 22:33:54

Thank you Ilove I am less depressed than my post suggests! Just a bit jaded at the moment.

OP if you are feeling isolated, please reach out, pick a couple of people from that 40 and contact them individually for a chat - in a large whatsapp group the collective responsibilty to reply often means no one does.

Beautiful3 Mon 27-Apr-20 22:45:04

Yes it's TRUE here. Everyone apart from 2 friend what's app me during this lock down. There is a group chat and one friend normally posts alot of stuff, has gone radio silent! I've tried talking with him, but nothing!!! He must be depressed? Who knows?!

LilacTree1 Mon 27-Apr-20 23:09:23

I don’t do WA

But who has anything to talk about? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Kintsugi16 Mon 27-Apr-20 23:20:13

Oldmrswasherwoman 💐

My groups are still very active. I also have 5 regular Zoom catchups with family or friends each week. Daily FaceTime my DM & MiL.

We still seem to have lots to talk about

Namechanger20183110 Mon 27-Apr-20 23:22:07

I'm not in the mood for video chats now either. I almost hung up on MIL today after she rang to speak to DS, who true to form got bored and shoved the tablet into my lap while she was still connected. Had to have a conversation with her and I just couldn't be bothered.. I feel so down about it all and I can't get motivated to chat normally to anyone, not even my siblings and own mum.

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