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Perfidy Sun 26-Apr-20 21:29:57

Limiting contract basically. So dh and I could see his ex and his two grown up kids who live with her. They wfh and so do we. We could see his parents who are self isolating.

We could see our friends down the road who wfh and aren’t mixing at all elsewhere.

Yes 3 out of 4 of those households are going to the shops...but outside contact is minimised.

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Lumene Sun 26-Apr-20 21:33:52

How do you limit numbers and where is the cut off?

daisypond Sun 26-Apr-20 21:33:59

But if any of these households has members going out to work and mixing with people there or on the journey, there’s going to be a much larger pool of outside contact than it at first appears.

BestZebbie Sun 26-Apr-20 21:39:22

The problem with the “bubble of ten” suggestion is that everyone will assume they personally can have their ten besties, but really that would create a huge web and it actually has to be ten with no other people.
Eg: my parents and in-laws would both want our household in their ten but would also want to meet 7 of their own friends - because they are “allowed ten”. We can’t do that as that means we’d be exposed to our family members (fine) but also 14 other disparate randoms who are also each meeting loads of other people, shopping, etc. This is apparently extremely hard to understand and being difficult.

tootyfruitypickle Sun 26-Apr-20 21:42:23

Nicola Sturgeon indicated this would the way forward today. I’ve been thinking about it and i can’t see how it would work at all! It’s like picking teams , I’d probably pick dds friends’ families as she’s struggling way more than me - but obviously they’d probs pick their own extended family, plus I’d quite like to see mine - but I worry for dd ! It would just make things even worse !

tootyfruitypickle Sun 26-Apr-20 21:43:32

Maybe it just has to be that you can see your extended family. Otherwise it’s unworkable .

SummerSazz Sun 26-Apr-20 21:47:24

The suggestion is 2-3 households (Max 10 people).....

Millicent10 Sun 26-Apr-20 21:47:51

That idea doesn’t work for most people. I am at work (although trying to maintain 2m from people) so seeing 70+ people a day, when the schools go back my children will be seeing 1000+ people. With a household of 6, none of us would want the same bubble. If we had to list people I would probably just let my older children choose a couple of friends each to hang out with.

Makes more sense for older/vulnerable people to lock down and for younger people to be slowly lifted out of lock down. Ban all large gatherings and long distance travel, socially distance on public transport.

Gingerkittykat Sun 26-Apr-20 21:49:30

What about those who don't have extended family? I only want to see 2 members of my extended family and a couple of friends.

Sparklingbrook Sun 26-Apr-20 21:50:55

This will very much have to depend on the comings and goings of people in your household. Also the ages and if anyone is vulnerable.

mynameiscalypso Sun 26-Apr-20 21:51:29

We've been joking about this with my parents as to who will make their 10 (my DM said that second on the list after my DS would be her hairdresser). In reality though, it would be like the angst of Christmas x 1000. If we 'picked' my parents and my DB and DSIL, we'd get so much grief off my DH's family.

AChickenCalledDaal Sun 26-Apr-20 21:51:34

Whatever emerges, I just hope it will allow for elderly people to have some social contact. The idea that people like my poor frail confused father will have to stay in his tiny flat forever for the good of society is unbearable and inhumane.

Sparklingbrook Sun 26-Apr-20 21:52:21

What if my 10 don't want to be my 10? sad

Doryhunky Sun 26-Apr-20 21:55:34

I might want to buddy up with my mum but her partner is going to want to buddy up with his own children and his own mother. I can’t see how this would work at all...

tootyfruitypickle Sun 26-Apr-20 21:55:38

That’s what I mean about picking for teams!

Chocolatecakeandpinkcustard Sun 26-Apr-20 21:56:57

I know it's only speculation, but I really can't see this bubble thing working out.

I mean surely dh and I would have our parents. But then our parents obviously would want their other children and grandchildren, and then their partners would want their own parents. My in laws would I'm certain want their friends.

There are 4 generations in my family, 5 in Dhs.

Then what about my dc? Their friends? Then you've got to actually trust that the others are sticking to the bubble.

Think it would just be easier to stay as we are now and I'll speak to family on the phone or wave through the window.

tootyfruitypickle Sun 26-Apr-20 21:57:10

It won’t be a list, there’s not been much enforcement. It’ll be a strongly worded suggestion. I think most will just take it as restrict as much as poss. So in our case, dd will see her best friends, and we’ll see my sis and family . Not risking parents

Chocolatecakeandpinkcustard Sun 26-Apr-20 21:57:49

Of course it could work for some people, and would be brilliant for someone living alone to buddy up, but got us it wouldn't work.

Tonemeth Sun 26-Apr-20 21:57:52

I just dont know how this can work. I want to see my boyfriend. I'm staying with my parents. My mum (and i) want to see my gran. My gran wants to see her other 5 kids and 10 grandkids. They want to see their partners families. Basically its just real life, no bubble.

So if you do what big Nic is saying, it means no more than 10 from 2 households. So I can see my parents and they can see me. Anyone else cant see anyone outwith this circle? I just cant see how they can make this work and understood.

tootyfruitypickle Sun 26-Apr-20 21:58:43

So more than ten in our bubble but otherwise there’s no point — and there will be many overlapping bubbles.

Taytotots Sun 26-Apr-20 21:59:34

They have just brought it in here (Canadian province). We are allowed to choose contact with one other household only. They have to agree to only have contact with your household and vice versa. The next stage will be to allow contact with friends and family but no big groups.

Tonemeth Sun 26-Apr-20 22:00:05

(Im shielding and will be moving to my flat again if this happens. I should be able to see my parents every so often if they isolate beforehand. My boyfriend lives alone too so I could see him. But I cant put him above seeing my parents).

daisypond Sun 26-Apr-20 22:02:17

It wouldn’t work for us. All our extended family live hundreds of miles away in various parts of the country, and I would assume you can’t travel to see them.

Tonemeth Sun 26-Apr-20 22:03:31

But you could pick friends daisy.

I guess even though it sounds unworkable, it is that or more lockdown?

BacklashStarts Sun 26-Apr-20 22:04:25

I’d rather stay in lockdown than have this bubble business as my parents would expect to be our bubble exclusively and that to mean we should be at their beck and call. It’s be them letting themselves in, trying to take over home schooling, insisting on is going to theirs all the time. No. Long live lockdown wink

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