Advanced search

Feeling like parenting my parent.

(2 Posts)
PurBal Tue 21-Apr-20 09:33:16

I should preface this by saying my Dad works abroad and took unpaid leave to return to the UK. He did so because he is high risk (lung condition and asthma). Where he lives is developed but they still have far fewer ICU beds per person than the UK, I've been hospitalised there, it's fine but obviously preference to those who can pay. They have total and complete lock down (not allowed out without a mask, so if you don't have a mask you can't go out to shop for groceries you have to get someone else to do it) which came into place almost immediately after they had their first case at the beginning of March. They ran out of paracetamol the first week. Like here they also have ridiculous theories like "black people can't get it" (it's a primarily black society). My Dad think he'll be safer there (and the weather is better) but the reality is that if he doesn't get sick it won't matter where he is, but if he does get seriously sick his chances of dying are lower here. I'm a mess and I don't know what to do. The borders are closed but as soon as they open again he's getting on a plane. I know he's an adult but this is heartbreaking for me. I know I just have to deal with it but needed to get it off my chest.

OP’s posts: |
Purplewithred Tue 21-Apr-20 09:38:23

It must be really difficult for you but he is an adult and needs to make his own risk assessment and decisions. So this is actually about you managing your very understandable anxiety about him after he’s gone back again. I’m pretty sure there are loads of online resources available - maybe someone here can point you in the right direction.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, quick, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Get started »