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Is anyone not going to do the homework primary schools set?

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M0recakeplease Mon 20-Apr-20 11:12:30

I have two primary aged children (5&7). Before the Easter holiday a little bit of work was set and that was manageable.

Now they know that schools are closed for the foreseeable our school has just sent out a big list for each year group to get through weekly with daily activities for maths and English (less so for reception - just reading, letter formation and a few bits).

My DD is a summer born year 3, and more of a creative than academic child. She’s also very sensitive and quite young for her age (sucks her thumb still and very into princesses/role play). Whenever we do work, as soon as she gets one thing wrong she starts to cry and wants to give up. She also is not very good at listening when I try to explain the task - I lose my patience and then feel guilty.

I don’t want her to fall behind but it seems very stressful for her (& me), & does it really matter at this age?

She misses routine, friends, GP’s and school so much this just seems to be another stress that could be avoided.

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Year6teacher754 Mon 20-Apr-20 12:34:31


Don't worry. To reassure you, I'm a deputy head and year 6 teacher in a primary school. Our headteacher is sending out work but has posted the following on our schools Facebook and Twitter and emailed it out to all parents:
""This is not homeschooling. You are, and always have been, your child's primary educator. If you decide that your child isn't going to engage with anything sent home, then so be it. If they want to spend the day baking, playing in the dirt in the garden/yard, watching TV, then that is your choice. That is your right. There is nothing to stress or feel guilty about."

Don't worry x

PicsInRed Mon 20-Apr-20 12:36:44

No. I'm working full time and my child is in school child care. If the school won't facilitate - and they have said they won't as their own policy is that it's "childcare only" - I'll do my best but it won't be anything like 9 to 3.30pm.

RoseGoldEagle Mon 20-Apr-20 12:37:55

What a fab message for your head teacher to have sent out Year6teacher754!

Ostanovka Mon 20-Apr-20 12:39:39

Not going to do any here, but my DC watched the BBC bite size this morning and enjoyed it. It's on iplayer and red button.

DownWhichOfLate Mon 20-Apr-20 12:40:01

Learning should always be fun! Let her do what she wants to do and she will be learning. If she’s creative she may well use many skills in her own chosen tasks. Maybe gently nudge her towards the things she doesn’t enjoy so much. IF that’s writing and she has done a drawing maybe ask her to write a description of the drawing. That sort of thing.

Enb76 Mon 20-Apr-20 12:41:03

Yes - I am working from home so it’s useful that while I’m working my child is also, I am also creating tasks for her outside of what the school are setting. However, my child is 11 and thrives on and genuinely enjoys academic tasks, if I had a different child I might be thinking differently.

You should do what is best for your children and not worry about what others are doing

Year6teacher754 Mon 20-Apr-20 12:44:14


Yes I agree. It was a fab message. He's a very involved headteacher, not one of those who just hide in their offices.

museumum Mon 20-Apr-20 12:45:01

We are both working so school tasks are good as we don’t have to plan or organise. Ds benefits from a bit of time that’s not just free play. Our school is on inset today but prior to the holidays just sent spelling words for the week and daily a suggested numeracy game, a writing prompt and a creative project idea. Maybe an hour or two at most per day.

Makeitgoaway Mon 20-Apr-20 12:45:20

The Director of Education from our LA has sent a letter to parents today that says all the work parents are doing to support the Covid effort is greatly appreciated. If parents can keep their children physically and mentally safe and a bit active they're doing a great job. Not to worry about not being able to compensate for the closed schools and that schools will work tirelessly to close any gaps once reopened.

catsandlavender Mon 20-Apr-20 12:52:09

I’m putting together home learning packs and personally I think there’s too much in them. I’m a trainee currently, nearly qualified so I’m doing what I’m told by my mentors basically.
You know your DC best and honestly do what you think is best. Sounds like she needs a lot of TLC and time to play. Do some role play with her! KS2 children need a lot of this and none is offered at school.

Obviously I would say as a teacher do try to maybe practice her times tables in a fun way, why don’t you do it too and get it wrong and model dealing with the mistake, “oh DD I got that muddled! Times tables can be so confusing, let me try again...” etc.

Does she enjoy writing? Can you do some practical maths together like adding up the shopping list? Would she write a princess story?

In term of formal homework though.. I wouldn’t worry.

catsandlavender Mon 20-Apr-20 12:53:46

Also can she try teaching you some of the stuff she knows at school? Sorry if this seems like I’m saying you should be doing work, I really don’t mean that. I just mean if you want to keep things ticking over there’s lots of fun and positive ways you can do it without the formal homework and keeping stress low for both of you flowers as long as she’s feeling happy and safe though I would honestly not fret.

BadgersBum Mon 20-Apr-20 12:59:11

Our head (who I don't especially like but that's another story) has said it's compulsory on the letter which was sent through the post, along with his exercise books and details of how to download an app. where they'll be posting work starting today.

DH and I are both still working and juggling childcare between us so we'll just see how DS (Year 6 so not much longer to put up with her) gets on with it. I don't think the SENDCo is too impressed by how things have been done.

Pluckedpencil Mon 20-Apr-20 13:33:50

The headteacher who sent the original message on this thread is fantastic. What a great message. We are both WFH full time and the way they are sending the work is so un-user friendly, loads of pieces of handwritten text photographed they have to just copy out in a really boring format from a mobile phone screen. They are being real Nazis about deadlines too and only communicate the deadline on Sunday night at 7.30pm and we have to upload specific pieces of it from a child's email address to three different teacher's email addresses by the next day at 5pm. Meaning working parents have to do it after 7.30pm on a Sunday night. This is all as they are worried we will only do the work they ask to be sent though. I.e. no trust. And this is for an 8 year old. We have been told if they don't do it, we will be reported to the governors or some such nonsense. Two three hour online lessons a week, badly planned and dull. A whimper of complaint is met with histrionics. I could scream.

mindutopia Mon 20-Apr-20 14:12:13

Ours haven't asked for any specific work to be done, though are sending through learning resources and asking us to keep in touch about anything we're doing. We are doing what we can on our own and I've organised work for her to do every day and we mostly keep to that. But school has been incredibly flexible about expectations and also understanding that most of us are also still working full time and have young (nursery age) children and babies at home too. If they sent specific work and it looked interesting, I'd have her do it. But no way would I be stressing about their deadlines. I am a lecturer at a fairly elite uni. Even we are being more flexible and understanding of our students than that and can use a lot of discretion in marking and setting work to be done this term. I honestly can't be bothered to stress about my 7 year submitting school work. She's fine. She'll get back to it when everything gets back on track, but in the meantime, my goal is just to keep things ticking over so she doesn't lose ground and still learns a few interesting things. But I'd rather no one be stressed about it.

Aroundtheworldin80moves Mon 20-Apr-20 14:20:03

Maths yes. Reading- doing our own instead with books we have at home. Guided reading- elder DD has been set a book she read last year at her old school, so might chose another. Younger DD might enjoy hers.

Topic work.... Younger DD seems to be repeating a topic she did at her old school, so might do elder DDs with both.

Both quite liked Bitesize daily this morning.

Thesispieces Mon 20-Apr-20 14:59:42

I work from home. My year 6 and secondary children are set work in line with normal school timetable (by the school). We follow timetable. Break for lunch. Continue in afternoon; I mark work at set intervals (Between meetings) and try to be on hand to answer questions / help with research. It’s exhausting; but I do believe it’s my duty to educate my children and keep up with curriculum and beyond. We are BAME so (sadly) it has always been instilled in us we have to work twice as hard in order to get the same result. We don’t have the luxury of falling behind or even staying on par with our peers. We also are very sporty and normally highly competitive in chosen sport; so DH job is to maintain our fitness which we do in the form of games/ cycling/ weight training etc in the early evenings. The kids seem to be enjoying the structure.

LoisLittsLover Mon 20-Apr-20 15:04:20

I'm picking and choosing as the work being set is not differentiated as just being published on the hr generic school website (not a moan, just stating what ours are doing) as such, most of it is far too easy for dd so I am adding extension tasks or trying to extend it in other ways. I do think that all children should be reading daily as well as attempting some of it as at this stage we don't know how long the schools will be off, and expecting them to do all the catching off because you haven't done anything is unreasonable imo. Yes your child may be creative but you can still use this to teach her things

bingowingsmcgee Mon 20-Apr-20 15:06:25

No. No intentions of getting mine to do school-set work. They have workbooks for 11+ prep, which we're working through, and as and when they find something tricky we will give it some attention. The work school have set is clearly fillers, which is understandable and fine, but I don't feel it will harm them at all to be doing something different so long as their brains are still working.

BriefDisaster Mon 20-Apr-20 15:06:59

We are doing the work that is set but I think it is a reasonable amount and DS thrives with routine (whether he know is or not!).

We still manage garden time, screen time etc.

DS is 6 and lots of the tasks set are 'fun' learning like wordsearches, word snap, multiplication floor lines etc.

There are lots of videos on BBC bitesize and lots of educational apps available that she might prefer if she doesn't like the work that school sets?

Failing that I really don't think that a couple of months off will have too much damage at that age.

Stellaris22 Mon 20-Apr-20 15:08:02

@Year6teacher754 that's a fantastic response and made me feel a lot better.

Our school (mine is Y2) has only just started sending out activities and stressed not to worry about completing it.

We're going to do what we can, but mostly I love having activities set by her teacher as I'm clueless as to what we should be doing.

GinAndTonicNeeded Mon 20-Apr-20 15:34:44

This is the message sent by our fabulous Head teacher. The school is outstanding in every way. We are so lucky and feel supported and understood.

We are doing bits, but this made us feel so much happier.

DICarter1 Mon 20-Apr-20 15:42:04

I’ve got a year 6, year 5 and year 2 child. The year 5 and year 2 child both have autism. My year 6 child is doing a lot of work on his own, year 5 child is struggling so we’re doing a mix and year 2 child is in a specialist school so we’re doing some stuff but it’s not typical work like the mainstream send home. I’m also working and my dh is little to no help between 9-5pm and is working his typical hours. I’m just doing my best. I do feel guilty that we’re being rubbish but I’m doing as much as I can.

ChiaraRimini Mon 20-Apr-20 17:15:29

It's really bloody hard to be suddenly thrown into home Ed. I am readjusting my expectations to think this is not home school, it's just like longer homework. DD (year 4) can't concentrate for very long and gets really stressed if she can't do something, she seems to take it really personally...I don't get the impression she is like this in school at all.

TubereuseNordlys Mon 20-Apr-20 17:20:23

As a Year 6 teacher, I can tell you that the levels of engagement in my class differ wildly, and I don't mind at all. Everybody's in different circumstances, doing their best.

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