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Cooling off at a friends house

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Duckduckgosling · 16/04/2020 20:52

So we can now have 'cooling off' time at our friends if we stay for several days after having had an argument at home!

I wonder how many people are going to abuse this and use it as an excuse to mix households.

On the other hand, it's a good thing for those in abusive relationships.

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Mikki2019 · 16/04/2020 21:48

Isn’t it saying individuals can move households if they have a valid reason to do so ?

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Actionhasmagic · 16/04/2020 21:52

This made me laugh. Yes arguments happen but stay at a friends? Really? Obviously any domestic violence victims should seek help to leave but just a regular argument???

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Duckduckgosling · 16/04/2020 21:58

Yes, it states;

''Moving to a friend’s address for several days to allow a ‘cooling-off’ following arguments at home. Measured in days, not in hours''
On the new guidelines.

I Agree @Actionhasmagic!

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NeverYouMind123 · 16/04/2020 22:00

I live alone. No one is fucking coming round mine if they've had a row with their boyfriend. I'm probably a shit friend. Oh well!

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Greendayz · 16/04/2020 22:01

I think it's about letting people get some space we when they really need it before things reach the stage of violence. If people in both houses are well, there is very little risk involved. I'm glad they're giving the police the guidance they need to be sensible and focus on the really risky and unnecessary things, such as parties

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30not13 · 16/04/2020 22:02

I'm sorry what is this?

Looking on bbc and cant find anything?

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Mikki2019 · 16/04/2020 22:05

It’s an example given of a reasonable reason for an individual to move households

www.college.police.uk/What-we-do/COVID-19/Documents/What-constitutes-a-reasonable-excuse.pdf

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30not13 · 16/04/2020 22:08

Found on sky.

Well that's lots of people going to go elsewhere for the weekend then pretending they had an argument just to visit friends or family isnt it.


And now no restrictions on driving to the countryside for walks.

Ffs

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NeutralJanet · 16/04/2020 22:10

Surely if you're doing that it means that the person who has moved households and the household they have moved to should have to self isolate within that household for 14 days in case the mover has brought the virus with them? Otherwise people will take the piss and claim they went to stay with a friend for a couple of days because they've "had an argument" but it's really just an excuse to socialise.

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TheGreatWave · 16/04/2020 22:10

I wonder as well if it is to stop the threat of 'If you go, the government says you can't come back.'

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Mlou32 · 16/04/2020 22:12

This advice is just muddying the waters I fear.

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MereDintofPandiculation · 16/04/2020 22:13

And now no restrictions on driving to the countryside for walks. there are restrictions. the walk has to be substantially longer than the drive. In practice, if you're stopped on your way to the Lake district, you'll still be turned back because there's places nearer home you could have walked. But it get rid of the insanity of all piling into the local park when a 5 mins drive would take you somewhere much quieter.

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Mummyshark2018 · 16/04/2020 22:15

Sounds sensible. Have you seen the increase in DV rates and deaths since lockdown started?

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Mikki2019 · 16/04/2020 22:18

@neu Why would the mover be more likely to bring the virus than a member of the household going to supermarket and picking it up ?

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Xenia · 16/04/2020 22:20

It's a balance. Fewer will die if we allow this. If we don't allow it some husbands will kill wives.

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gingajewel · 16/04/2020 22:23

.....Or some wives will kill husbands, dv can happen to anyone.

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Samtsirch · 16/04/2020 22:25

When I heard about this I thought the government really have no idea what they are doing or how to proceed, every time another possible scenario is brought up they offer a fudged solution and hope for the best.
I dread to think what will come up next, it really is the hopeless leading the hopeless.

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GabsAlot · 16/04/2020 22:26

i mentioned this-shouldnt they be saying just go for a walk or call 999 if your being abused not mix with other household

Now you'll get people visiting others saying well police said i could

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LilacTree1 · 16/04/2020 22:28

It might also prevent suicides.

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rosiepony · 16/04/2020 22:29

DV happens mainly by men to women. By far. FFS.

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celan · 16/04/2020 22:29

Xenia is absolutely right.

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NeutralJanet · 16/04/2020 22:30

Why would the mover be more likely to bring the virus than a member of the household going to supermarket and picking it up

It's a possibility the mover could already be infected with the disease and not showing symptoms yet, spread it to other people in that household and they then go out and infect others if they're out shopping, working etc. I have sympathy for people stuck in abusive households but this new thing of "cooling off" seems open to abuse from pisstakers and will result in far more households mixing with each other and using it as an excuse.

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celan · 16/04/2020 22:31

I am struggling to understand how "just go for a walk" would ever be a solution to domestic abuse. @GabsAlot

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GabsAlot · 16/04/2020 22:31

They havent made it clear its just for abuse though-im not going round my sisters just coz dh is being a wanker i wouldnt risk it

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GabsAlot · 16/04/2020 22:33

its not a solution i just think they need to be clearer on what they mean and to who

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