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How often do you have visitors? (distanced)

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starrysimon Sun 12-Apr-20 13:31:36

I haven’t had any personally. I’ve had family members drop shopping on the doorstep but they drive off straight away. I haven’t even seen my own DD from a distance as she’s isolated with my DM 5 mins away, she was at risk here and was the most sensible decision. She’s only 4 so it would upset her not being able to see me. Due to this is infuriating me seeing my neighbour get the same visitors every single day. They do try to distance but not very well as they stand directly in front of my front door to speak (open driveways). This means if I needed to go out I’d have to wait until they leave or look like a tit asking them to move from an open window or such.

They’re there for an hour most days and I have to sit and endure their conversations as have had the windows open with the weather being so hot. These people drive here as well and is hardly an essential trip as they don’t drop things off for them or anything.

AIBU to think they don’t need to see their friends every single day (same age couples as neighbours so more than likely not all family if any). Phone calls and FaceTime should suffice. Is anyone else having ‘distanced’ visitors often?

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starrysimon Sun 12-Apr-20 13:32:52

See me and not hug me* in regards to seeing 4yo DD from a distance

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Rebelwithallthecause Sun 12-Apr-20 13:33:39

I’ve had family dropping supplies off to me maybe once every 10 days and they either wave through a window or stop at the bottom of the drive for a brief chat/catch up

A neighbour in passing might stop if we see them and chat from a distance

No friends just popping round.

Missmonkeypenny Sun 12-Apr-20 13:34:01

Once, today. My DM dropped an easter egg off for DD by the bottom of the gate.

amazedmummy Sun 12-Apr-20 13:34:15

Haven't had one. I've had my mum drop off shopping when we were isolating for a fortnight and prescription medication for DS but no visitors.

VivaLeBeaver Sun 12-Apr-20 13:34:51

Having nobody.

You have more patience than me with your neighbours intrusive conversations. I’d have yelled at them to fuck off by now.

Can’t they zoom or house party app like normal people? No need to be sitting outside front doors .

Apolloanddaphne Sun 12-Apr-20 13:34:52

Not had any apart from deliveries which are dropped off at a distance.

gingercat02 Sun 12-Apr-20 13:35:55

None. DM dropped Easter eggs on the doorstep abd we all drop things on hers as she needs them. We have had a brief chat through the window but only a couple of minutes

starrysimon Sun 12-Apr-20 13:35:57

I’ve also had to endure other neighbours standing on my driveway in front of my open windows to talk to the neighbours in question in my OP. I understand they need to distance but do they really need to do it outside of my house. I’ve become a lockdown scroogeangry It just feels unfair that I’m not seeing anyone, even family. Yet every man and his dog (literally dogs sometimes) are stood outside my house talking every day

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PorpentinaScamander Sun 12-Apr-20 13:36:54

My mum dropped some shopping off a few days ago and we chatted from a safe distance for a few mins. Likewise when my friend dropped some stuff round. Other than that we haven't had any.

daisypond Sun 12-Apr-20 13:37:10

Never. Haven’t seen my parents since early February.

Theukisgreatt Sun 12-Apr-20 13:38:02

None. Haven't been able to give my sister her birthday presents even though she only lives 15 mins away. Not unnecessary journeys.

LouLouLoo Sun 12-Apr-20 13:38:06

We’ve had none but I do drop shopping over to my elderly parents and stay (outside) and have a chat with them for 20 mins or so when I do. Im not encroaching in anyone else’s space when I do.

justasking111 Sun 12-Apr-20 13:38:15

Two adult sons who root through the garage for pressure washers, dads tools to occupy their days. That is it.

Dropping off eggs later for grand kids we all live cheek by jowl in the same area here.

I would be annoyed by those visitors OP

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Davespecifico Sun 12-Apr-20 13:39:48

None, like you.

LochJessMonster Sun 12-Apr-20 13:40:24

None. Noones dropped anything off either. Only person coming to my house is the postman.

AmIAStone Sun 12-Apr-20 13:40:39

Very sorry you are not either your DD, that must be very hard. I would ask the visitors to not stand on your land/by your open window as they are putting you at risk being within 2m

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starrysimon Sun 12-Apr-20 13:42:04

It’s quite performance like and almost narcissistic to have loud conversations directly in front of other people’s open windows/outside front doors. I know I certainly wouldn’t want everyone hearing what I’m talking about if it’s a private conversation. They clearly don’t care about other people hearing what they say and have even had the cheek to bitch about other neighbours having visitors on occasionshock Glad to hear I’m not the only one sacrificing seeing loved ones and being selfless. Due a baby in 2 weeks (probs why I’m so angered by this haha). If she’s asleep in the living room whilst I’ve got the windows open and the neighbours are having loud chats outside then I will be telling them to be quiet. We have large driveways so thought we’d have decent privacy being so set back from the road. I was wrong! Unfortunately there’s no cars in them at the moment so can’t block people from using them to ‘social distance’

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pollysproggle Sun 12-Apr-20 13:44:48

My eldest sons dad has been by twice with his little brother to seen him. We stand at door or window and they stand on the street. I know children are allowed to go from different parents houses but I've decided it's best not to do that for now so the visits are nice.
My mum and sister have been by together twice dropping off shopping, it's mainly tons of fruit & veg for me (30 weeks) and the children.

CoronaIsComing Sun 12-Apr-20 13:45:03

One, my sister dropped off an Easter egg for DS on their daily walk and we opened the front door and said hello while she stood on our own drive about 5m away for a few mins. Our across the road neighbours who are in their 70s are having daily visits from family who all go into the house and today they’ve had 3 lots so far. The final set did see me glare at them 😡 they’re not helping with shopping either as the neighbours also have a daily walk to the local shop.

CoronaIsComing Sun 12-Apr-20 13:46:41

In your case though I’d knock on the window and move them on every single time.

vroc81 Sun 12-Apr-20 13:47:04

No one but I do go and stand outside the 85 year old neighbours house every day to check she is ok (but for about five minutes) drop off prescriptions or shopping so I could be an annoying person... Oh and I suppose work colleagues have collected office keys and we’ve shouted hello down the drive - I don’t really count that as visitors though...

emmathedilemma Sun 12-Apr-20 13:56:36

I don't family nearby and friends don't tend to come round all that often, we'd do stuff together or go out, so that's all just being done on zoom. I've talked to neighbours outside and bumped into someone I know while out for a walk yesterday so it was nice to chat to a real human for a bit (from a distance!).

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