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Is my mum allowed to provide care?(6 Posts)
I have schizophrenia and bipolar I take at least 6 sedatives a night, i also have severe copd and I am on the shielding list.
I also have 3 dc with SN. DS has adhd and needs to supported to sleep and although his psychiatrist has now prescribed sleeping tablets I have to wait till Friday for them to arrive until then I'm up till 1am to get him to sleep. DD1 has ASD and I provide full time care for her and she requires supervision as soon as she wakes up at 8. DD2 has suspected epilepsy and is not to be left unaccompanied and also wakes up at 8.
I have to get up at least half hour before them as my medication means I vomit in the toilet for at least half hour so I have been getting up at 7 to 7:30.
My mum is my registered carer.
My mum has been dropping off shopping if I've been unable to get delivery by just leaving it at the door. Something my sister is annoyed about.
However we are in lockdown and I have not been out the door in four weeks my mum has not been in contact with anyone for two weeks.
I needed a sleep and as my mum is My registered carer and helps me with my disability she came over to babysit while I had some sleep as sleep is very Important to Maintentence of my bipolar and schizophrenia.
Dsis is annoyed said it's not fair as she cannot see our mum and that we are breaking isolation and now won't speak to me. I am quite happy to be told I shouldn't do this again but it's my understanding that care provided to vulnerable people is allowed? Or am I mistaken?
Yes of course it's allowed. SIL lives near MIL so will drop in every day (she does have carers but she will go in most days because all they do is the direct personal care, they don't eg do washing or food shopping so she goes in to collect/drop off washing and drop in food).
Yes, your Mum is allowed to care for a vulnerable person, and yes, it is not sensible for your Mum to have contact with your sister, which is tough, but she's not the only person who's unable to see their Mum for the next 12 weeks.
Thank you shall carry on as we are although shouldn't need her round once my son starts his sleeping tablets melatonin or something they are called. Will just need her to drop of food if I cannot get any as otherwise I'm managing with just regular face time.
Quite honestly I'm impressed you've managed all this without your mum up to this point - it sounds like you have an awful lot on your plate! Entirely acceptable I'd say. Your DSis needs to stop moaning.
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