I was wondering if anyone could offer any advice on managing the competing demands of a 5.5 month old who is very clingy and only naps on me and a school age child with severe learning disabilities (autism plus a genetic condition which gives high anxiety and sensory seeking behaviour) who normally has one to one support to learn.
At the moment I feel my older child is very neglected and spends most of the day on his ipad becuase he gets very anxious if I try to do anything with him whilst the baby is on me in a sling or in the room making any noise. Whilst baby is sleeping on me I give the older child the ipad becuase otherwise he undertakes sensory seeking behaviour mainly chewing on books or toys, he will not play on his own.
Currently our day looks like this:
5am older child wakes up and made to stay in room until 6am
6am baby wakes up, has feed, plays on mat whilst older child has breakfast
7am baby has nap on me whilst older child on ipad
8am give baby his breakfast (just started weaning) clean up, get baby dressed
9am baby due another nap on me - older child still on ipad
10am we all go outside, trampoline for older child and walk for all of us
11.30am prepare lunch. Leave older child with his lunch and ipad whist I do another nap
12.30pm have my lunch, try to do some reading with older child whilst baby plays. Time in garden
2pm do another nap whilst older child on ipad
2.30pm Dad finishes work and does cooking with older child ( he is working 6am to 2.30pm during lockdown)
3.30pm I do some reading with older child whilst Dad has baby
4.30pm all have dinner and tidy up
6pm I put baby to bed whilst Dad plays with older child
7.30pm I put older child to bed and I go to bed becuase baby wakes a lot during night
I would say in total out of the 14 hours he is awake the older child has an ipad for 10 hours. Does anyone have any suggestions how I can reduce this?
If I could get baby to nap in his cot that would really help free up some time for my older child. Does anyone have any tips on this? Baby naps on me in a sling but will wake if I try to do something with my older child also the older child does not like me wearing baby in a sling when I am trying to do things with him. This is also the only time I have to myself as I go to bed and get up when the children do. I manage all the night wakings for the baby, Dad manages our older son at night who often wakes a couple of times too.
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crazydiamond222 · 11/04/2020 10:30
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