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What is your other half doing whilst in lockdown? Do they think they are on holiday? Or are you a lucky one and I just a sucker.

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life2day Wed 08-Apr-20 16:35:14

My hubby is getting up at 930. Going to gym in garage. Bath jacuzzi at noon. Lunch for himself at 1. Nothing for rest of day apart from pretending to be on laptop. Playing PlayStation, watching tv.
Me: working at home in normal job. Home schooling 2 kids. Feeding kids. Cooking dinner for family. Housework. Is it me or are some of partners thinking this is holiday for them.

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aSofaNearYou Wed 08-Apr-20 16:40:28

Why on earth are you putting up with him not helping at all?

moita Wed 08-Apr-20 16:42:53

No because my DH isn't a lazy sod

Rainycloudyday Wed 08-Apr-20 16:42:56

Sorry but I don’t know where to start with this. What the actual fuck? You do realise this isn’t normal or ok don’t you?

My husband and I are both working from home, splitting the day six hours each mon-sat, and spending the time we’re not working looking after our two children. It’s not perfect but it’s teamwork. Not a snowball’s chance in hell would I be tolerating your arrangement for more than ten minutes or so.

BikeRunSki Wed 08-Apr-20 16:44:39

Mine is trying to keep his company afloat. He employs 67 people.

Londonwriter Wed 08-Apr-20 16:47:06

My husband is working in the spare room. I'm looking after a preschooler and a 8-week-old baby.

StormBaby Wed 08-Apr-20 16:47:23

Jeez, I'd have kicked him right up the arse by now.

Mine has fitted an entire kitchen, laid new flooring and carpet, tidied the garden, grown veggies, helped with the homeschooling, done some deliveries for other people, done all our food shopping.

SueEllenMishke Wed 08-Apr-20 16:47:34

Well we're both working full time but we also share all housework and childcare. He sounds lazy and selfish

BikeRunSki Wed 08-Apr-20 16:48:18

I am also working from home, 2 DC . I tend to work and deal with DC in the morning and make lunch, then he does the afternoon. We all eat tea at about 6pm and go for our Boris-approoved walk in the evening, DH tea with bedtime. The DC are 8 and 11 though, so largely independent.

No way would I put up with what your OH is doing OP.

Ragwort Wed 08-Apr-20 16:48:53

And why are you being such a martyr and putting up with this?

ItsJustTheOneSwanActually Wed 08-Apr-20 16:50:35

Sorry, but you're a mug to put up with that.

sweetkitty Wed 08-Apr-20 16:50:57

Sorry but there’s no way mine would doing that. We are a team. He’s doing it because your allowing him too. He’s your children’s parent too he should be parenting them and helping with the housework.

My DH is on holiday this week (usually WFH), everything is split including the cooking.

PandaG Wed 08-Apr-20 16:51:28

My DH is working full time from home, only difference to normal is he doesn't have the commute so starts earlier. He's busy so often finishing later. I'm furloughed and our kids are both adults so I'm doing the cooking etc while they study/work/do household jobs.

ifonly4 Wed 08-Apr-20 16:51:32

He needs to be told! He can stilll help with household jobs and meals, and have time to himself. My hours have been slashed in half. Today I've put the washing on, ironed, hoovered, done the washing up twice, done lunch and will do tea, just been Tescos. The rest of the time I've messed about on laptop and gone out for a bike ride. All while DH has been working.

GatherlyGal Wed 08-Apr-20 16:53:13

I got a bit annoyed doing most of the cooking etc but my DH has never worked so hard in his life. He works for a supermarket and I've never seen him so busy so I'm just picking up the slack. BUT if he was tossing it off while I sorted the kids and everything while working I'd probably tell him to move into the shed for the rest of lockdown.

MarshmallowManiac Wed 08-Apr-20 16:54:42

Mine wfh and helps with the kids and the general running of the household. Life2day maybe he needs a GENTLE 'prod'! grin

mbosnz Wed 08-Apr-20 16:54:48

He's working up to 14 hour days. Helping with the cooking. Being available to the girls, and spending time with them, going cycling if he can, and doing all the grocery runs.

Your husband would be getting perilously close to a leg of lamb and a freshly built patio with me. Or a fruitbowl whizzing by his head and a screaming banshee of a wife giving him the memo.

BoogleMcGroogle Wed 08-Apr-20 16:57:39

How is that possibly okay? Mine takes himself for a walk for an hour each morning. He sometimes takes a lunch break and eats with us. Finished at 6-6.30, takes the kids for a kickabout or plays Lego and we all eat together and have a family evening. He's a senior partner in a law firm. It's quite busy.

I'm not working Mon-Thurs. so I do home school, have a run, take the kids for a long walk, cook lovely things, avoid doing laundry.

He's taken the next 8 Fridays as leave, and I do my work Fridays and Sundays. He's found home school tricky but is getting better.

The families are know who are coping best with this ( including three who are frontline hospital medics) are very much taking a team approach.

Have a word! Show him this thread....

Imapotato Wed 08-Apr-20 17:00:59

Why is he not home schooling the kids if you’re still working from home?

I wouldn’t be putting up with it.

In our house, in a key worker (nhs) so still going to work 5 days a week. DP is working from home, our teen dds are sorting themselves out re school work and what they do in their free time and house work is shared between us all, though I’m still doing most of the cooking.

Siameasy Wed 08-Apr-20 17:02:52

Get rid!
Seriously what a useless bloke.

LettuceP Wed 08-Apr-20 17:06:01

Why are you putting up with it OP? Have you told him he needs to start pulling his weight? He should be doing the homeschooling while you work as an absolute minimum and doing his fair share with the cooking and housework.

Iwantacookie Wed 08-Apr-20 17:06:05

You've got yourself a cf tell him he needs to pull his weight

catscatscatseverywhere Wed 08-Apr-20 17:11:56

My hubby is getting up at 930. Going to gym in garage. Bath jacuzzi at noon. Lunch for himself at 1. Nothing for rest of day apart from pretending to be on laptop. Playing PlayStation, watching tv.
Me: working at home in normal job. Home schooling 2 kids. Feeding kids. Cooking dinner for family. Housework. Is it me or are some of partners thinking this is holiday for them.
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Unbelievable. Seems like you have a 3rd child. Did you talk to him? He should be doing homework with kids, you're working.

We both work and he also studies. Actually now he's occupied with cleaning the house ha ha.

BriefDisaster Wed 08-Apr-20 17:12:10

Sorry OP I wouldn't be putting up with that for a second!

DH and I are both working from home with our 6 and 3 year olds, taking turns to work and do childcare/schooling and accepting that we get no rest or even a moment to ourselves without work/kids until 8:30 when they are both in bed.

I find it a slog and we are doing it 50/50. I couldn't cope doing it on my own, especially if there was another adult in the house just refusing to pull his weight.

UnaCorda Wed 08-Apr-20 17:17:34

Lunch for himself??! confused

And I suppose he's also expecting sex?

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