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Cinderella69 Mon 06-Apr-20 09:23:05

Hi, my son's dad still insists on seeing his son during this covid-19 crisis. Our son is 17. My ex lives an hour away. Normally our son goes on the train. But I said he shouldn't so my ex is going to pick him up. I don't think Its a good idea. I'm still working (I work in a Dr's surgery). His dad is working from home. He also runs an air bnb. He currently has 2 Nigerians staying there who can't get home. I'm not happy about my son going but my ex thinks I'm being unreasonable! Am I? Also my ex has another son,, who doesnt live with him, who is about 8. I spoke to the mum the other day. She's not happy about him visiting his dad either. Are we both being difficult?

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NotEverythingIsBlackandwhite Mon 06-Apr-20 09:31:13

Haven't the Govt stated it is fine for under 18s to swap between each parent's home? If that is the case, your ex isn't doing anything wrong.

Are you saying your ex is mixing with people in the Airbnb? Aren't they keeping their social distance? They should be so I'm not sure why you are commenting about him having the airbnb.

FirTree31 Mon 06-Apr-20 09:33:41

It's fine for under 18s to visit parent living in separate household, the govt outlined this.

backaftera2yearbreak Mon 06-Apr-20 09:34:37

My son went to his dads yesterday. He picked him up, lives around an hour away.

FirTree31 Mon 06-Apr-20 09:34:45

Are the tourists staying in the same household as your ex?

curlychocs Mon 06-Apr-20 09:36:56

My stepdaughter came to us yesterday. She is staying a week. She is 11 and has decided she wanted to come after not coming for 3 weeks but no symptoms in either house so now wanted to. A 17 year old can make their own decision whether to go or not.

Shitsgettingcrazy Mon 06-Apr-20 09:40:57

The question I would be asking is

Does you son want to go? There specific guidance with thos that children under 18 can go between parents houses.

Are the people staying in the same property are they also following the official guidance? Social distancing, only going when they must etc.

Are there any symptoms in your house?

You are at risk of giving it to your son because you are still working, travelling to work etc. It sucks and you need to work. But that the facts.

Not sure why it's relevant they are Nigerian tbh.

I cant see, unless theres a lot more information to come, why you would stop this, or think your ex is more of a risk to your son than you.

Frariedeamin Mon 06-Apr-20 09:41:36

Agree with PP, surely at 17 your child is capable of making their own decision. The family court have issued further guidance which emphasises the need to put the safety of children first, even if parents don’t see eye to eye. www.judiciary.uk/announcements/coronavirus-crisis-guidance-on-compliance-with-family-court-child-arrangement-orders/

aSofaNearYou Mon 06-Apr-20 09:43:23

I would consider you more at risk than him tbh so the sensible thing would be for your son to stay with his dad. I can't see the relevance of the Nigerians. What does he want to do?

inflam Mon 06-Apr-20 09:46:08

If you were shielding I would say he was being ridiculous, but you are still working anyway. In a GP surgery, so high risk area. What added risk do you see for you or your son if he goes to his dads?

Also, the Nigerians? Don't understand this part at all.

Cinderella69 Mon 06-Apr-20 10:24:44

The guests are in the same household. I hope they are social distancing. I don't know if they are working or not. I'm surprised my ex wanted to see his son knowing I'm working. My son wasn't bothered either way if he went or not but my ex doesn't take no for an answer.

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Shitsgettingcrazy Mon 06-Apr-20 17:42:44

I really dont see the issue

Soontobe60 Mon 06-Apr-20 17:46:45

Yes he should go. And what's the point about the air bnb guests being Nigerian?

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