30s TTC. It was the BESHt of times,it was the worst of times, it was the age of rummaging in gussets, drinking gin.....

[ginhag]

C'mon in BESHes to the beach bar...sprawl on comfy sofas while you wiggle your toes in the sand and watch a glorious sunset....and drink brightly coloured cocktails with sparklers in. Cos we're classy,innit.

I've got Adam and joe in as barmen, and we have a rather nice Cave of Gloom in the corner for those 'whyyyyyy meeeeeeee???' moments. We have a reggae sound system playing mob barley's greatest hits. It's a sunshine paradise!

Newcomers welcome,as long as they drag along a bucket of black humour and a vast amount of gin. And please note,some of us have been here so long we have forgotten the real world almost entirely.

Now,who's getting the next round in?

[ginhag]

fred title too big

should read:

'it was the BESHt of times,it was the worst of times, it was the age of rummaging in gussets, it was the age of drinking gin, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, it was the epoch of random violence,it was the epoch of worrying about the state of your joe mangel.'

[Medee]

marvellous new thread!

[Muser]

Hooray for the new thread. Nice to see Adam n Joe, as it's a sunshine paradise I'll have a margarita. Lovely.

Now, will this be the fred of maximum diffment?

[Scorpette]

I don't like reggae. And I'm not going to follow that up with 'I love it', either. But apart from that, the place is excellent! Come to think of it, a bit of reggae goes down nicely as background to a spot of summery wailing about baybees!

I know it's a bit premature, but can we call the next fred 'Club BESHicana (drinks are free)' for the whole fun Mass Summer Diffment Project celebration feel?

Early night for me. Laters, hepcats

[ginhag]

scorps please to let me have my 15 seconds of Fred Host Glory before planning the next one? At least wait til everyone has turned up!

[PerfectDromedary]

Shattered and have had all the boozes. Gin you are a gurt star for opening the new thread.

Airynothings My love, it is SO hard to be doing this shit month after month. Same goes for you, gorgeous loretta. It should be easy and nice. But then, I'd neve have met any of youse lot, or have had some of the funnest conversations of my life. So debit: no baby; credit: new amazing friends.

[tagine]

Just registering this with you all, for various real life reasons. It should be fairly obvious.

[Muser]

Tagine is one of my favourite words. Also very tasty to eat. Hmmm.

How's everyone this morning? I have been indulging in gusset rummaging for signs of ov but not much evidence. If things don't work this month we shall have to dig a new, deeper pit as I am liable to disappear into a well of self-indulgence.

I have got pregnant 2 out of 3 cycles I've tried to. Which may be the most depressing thing of all, given lack of actual baybee. Urgh, must not be indulgent. Am such a newbie at this and really have so much less to deal with then you other lovelies. Someone apply violence!

[extremesitting]

Morning Sauce Pots.

Indulge away m'dear. You are fully entitled to after what you have been through.

Love the new thread title Gin Iz Proper Job.

[extremesitting]

Blanche Devereaux is dead

[PerfectDromedary]

streme! Hello, my luvver! Bundle! (Feck, that's too energetic for this time in the morning) How're you doing, apart from being sad about Blanche Devereaux?

Muserina Is not indulgent. You have had difficult times and are allowed as much fretting/anxiety and everything else as you choose.

Plus, way too hungover for violence today. Hmm. My body is NOT a pre-IVF temple.

[tagine]

Oh Muse that really is shite shite shite. I can't imagine. In some ways I think I'd find that harder than just never seeing anything.

Would it make you smile to say that I read your post as "I have been indulging in gusset rummaging.... if things don't work his month we shall have to dig deeper" ? I was all "Where the bloomin heck is she going to dig next month then?!?!"

[extremesitting]

Morning Perfect What's the latest with you? Are you being medicated yet?

Am good, mostly swinging wildly between despair and worrying optimism (bought rabbit shaped lamp for non existent baby yesterday). My body is also NOT a pre-IVF temple, though it should be considering the array of supplements I've been taking in prep. We should compare notes Didn't stop me inhaling half a bottle of WHITE wine last night (apparently the most evil of all boozes dontcha know!)

This month I am mostly convincing myself that I have achieved diffment natural like. Blatantly ignoring cruel statistics. This is, of course, in no way related to the extreme fear of someone else having full control over my hormones Am having the "IVF chat" on Monday before they send me over to the IVF nurses. I assume all will be underway within a month or so.

I take it you would all agree that POAS would be inappropriate a week before droid is actually due?!

Obv. haven't been here for a while. Any recent exciting news I should be giddy about?

[PerfectDromedary]

No meds as yet, nuno. Next week is info session, so should be hopped up on the baby drugs in no time at all.

OMG, have just realised that I will be snorting babydust for realz!?!!?

I haz fingers crossed for you that magic diffment has been achieved. After all, whothefuckisalice managed it (which is recent exciting news that I imagine you know about).

STEP AWAY FROM THE PEE-STICKS. That way lies madness.

[maswera]

Yayyy! Streeemieee

[VoilaAnotherGimlet]

Oooh I love what you've done with the place! Did I miss the Big Birthday Knees' Up? I can't believe I've only known you lot of nutters for a year. This place is a tower of strength - long may it continue, but with babies all round and new BESHes to fill your fabulous shoes. Once a BESH, always a BESH, no matter what



And Extreme is back - huzzah!

Muser & Aries Have extra Birthday cake and your choice of cheesy tune on the ghetto-blaster. And feel free to use the karaoke machine for drunken sweary rantings if you want to.

[extremesitting]

Good Lord. You are having info sesh next week too? Looks like we are going to be IVF twinz.

Am aware of the diffdness of Alice. Am thrilled she narrowly escaped being the IVF triplet. We could have been Bananarama, but I guess we'll have to settle for being Pepsi and Shirley instead.

Bring it on I say, apart from the needles. Do not look on You tube for injecting info. And by that I mean - SERIOUSLY do not look. Made self weep. Trufax.

[Muser]

extreeeeeeeme! Lovely to see you. Step away from the sticks, is way too early and Drom speaks the troot.

tagine it's the height of rubbish either way. Months and months of nothing must be soul destroying. Losses leads to people saying "well at least you know you can get pregnant", which makes me want to punch them repeatedly as what the fuck use is getting pregnant if you can't stay that way?

I am alternating feeling wildly optimistic and certain that things are doomed.

[extremesitting]

Did I miss our birthday?! Ooohhhh I LOVE a PARTAY!

[tagine]

Mooooos = Yes. None of the option are good, are they? Have mediks said anyfink about why each time? You don't have to answer that if it would just make you feel miserable. As it shorely would but just some days it's easier to talk about than others, right?

[PollyPoo]

Extreme! Sorry about the hangover Cam, have a bacon and mushroom sarnie?

Musical you are a) not self indulgent, but b) perfectly entitled to be after what you've been through. Glad to hear the booze ban is having the desired effect tho.

Gin great new bar, love it. It is about the closest I will get this year to a tropical holiday so I will just install myself on this 'ere lounger and help myself to a strawb daiquiri. Chin chin my luvvers!

[saltyair]

pokes head round door nervously erm....I've been hanging out on the symptom spotting thread , am I allowed to pop in here for a quickie and then scoot back?

[Muser]

It's officially just bad luck tagine. MC is scarily common and I lost v early so even more common. They don't do any investigations for that. No idea about the ectopic, it was ovarian rather than tubular and they didn't mention any blockages. I think that was just really bad luck too. I ought to get proper investigations if it happens again, as then it starts looking problematic.

Although that's based on miscarriages, no idea what they'd do about the ectopic in the middle. Maybe that doesn't count and I'd have to go through it all again.

It's NOT going to happen though. Optimism.

[tagine]

Hmm. I think I hear the distant beeping of the droid a'comin for me....

[tagine]

Mooos Like you needed them to tell you it was bad luck. Oh really? I had no idea...

Sigh. There are so many points at which it can all go wrong. How does it EVER go right?!?!

saltandpepa you're welcome, but you need to find the BESH questionaire as your first initiation, and post your answers pliz Oh, and we're quite twisty and bitter but if you can handle that you're gonna love us