Trying to conceive after a stillbirth....do i have to wait for a first period?

[shelly24]

Hi everyone on these threads...i'm currently on the miscarriage/bereavement page as I lost my little boy 7wks ago.He was stillborn due to a liver malformation and a condition called hydrops,I had a normal delivery at 33wks and have been told by various professionals that this will never happen to me again.
Bravely I have decided to try for another baby as soon as possible,its all I can think of right now and I just feel I have to return to that path I was following and so looking forward to reaching the end of.
A friend of mine told me that her friend had had a similar experience to me where she had lost a baby late into preg and had started to try for another straight away.She apparently conceived the wk after her 6wk check up after her previous preg,and the only bleeding she had prior to falling preg was for a couple of wks after birth!?
I had been told that you bleed for awhile after birth,that then tails off,and a while after that you will get your first period? It has left me alittle confused,and I've got a check up to go to on the 13th of july( 9wks after i gave birth).My husband and I are already trying again now to fall preg,but could that really happen yet without having a proper period first?
Sorry if I sound abit forward,I just really need so advice..I'm physically ready to try again and feel that although getting preg so soon after recent loss will be scary..its where I want to be right now,and seems the only thing that will fill the emptiness right now!?Soz for going on abit..desperate for some advice!!.x

[homemama]

Hi Shelly, so sorry for your loss, I cannot begin to understand.
I'm jost posting re the period thing. I had been taking the contraceptive injection. During this time, no periods. Came off, still no periods but we started trying anyway. Fell pg without ever having one. As Irish says, you ovulate before you have your period so it may be possible.
I hope it happens for you soon.

[shelly24]

Rushed out today and got a preg test!Had a whirl of mixed emotions because the not knowing and even the knowing that i might be preg was doing my head in..its negative,and although i'm sad that i'm not preg,i had a slight feeling that i wasn't,but just had to b sure.Am i mad,the trip to the chemist was the most exciting and frightening experience all rolled into one!!? i guess i'm gonna have to wait for a period to start,but how long could that b!? Its the ninth week after i gave birth and (sorry if i sound desperate) i just want a baby...its all i want!!

[AnnaK]

Desperately sorry to hear about your little boy. I have no words to express it but am thinking of you. One word of advice - your body has been through an enormous upheaval being pregnant for 33 weeks. After a full term pregnancy, it is recommended that you give your body a minimum of 1 year and better still 18 months to recover. This is partly due to the baby leaching out all the nutrients while you were pregnant, iron levels for example. It is shown that quick 2nd pregnancies are often born early or with problems. I know this is not what you want to hear but getting pregnant again immediately is not such a good idea. However, I know a little about the need to have a baby (I have PCOS and was told I probably wouldn't be able to have any) and medical advances have been fantastic recently so if there is a problem it can often be dealt with. I wish you all the very best.