baby chances after ectopic.... cheer me up please...

[boodleboot]

hi ladies

me and DH are trying to come to a decision regarding trying again after a MMC in apr and a 'very lucky to still be here' ectopic three weeks ago...

my left tube is now gone and apparently PID at some point in my life {news to me...} has meant there is lots of scarring on the outside of my right tube - inside as yet unknown...

We have three healthy children from previous relationships but would of liked one together...doc has said that if i wanted to try again he would suggest i had gynae intervention as odds really not very good of naturally conceiving now....can anyone give me any experiences of conceiving after ectopic and how it was for them please

thanks

[FanjolinaJolie]

Not me personally, but my very good friend had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy and lost one tube in 2003. She went to to conceive within six months and is now the proud mummy to three children.

So, with just one tube, it can be done.

[MrsHappy]

Hi Boodleboot

I had my second ectopic in September and had a tube removed. I am now 37 weeks pregnant - the egg came from my dud side but managed to get picked up by my only tube, so it can and does happen.

It is worth getting your remaining tube checked. I hated ttc without knowing whether there was any point, or if we would need more help. If tests are being offered I would take them.

Good luck - I hope it works out for you.

[pasturesnew]

for you boodleboot but EP seems more common than people think.

I had ruptured EP in Sept 2005, lost left tube, DS born Oct 2006, tried again from Oct 2008, DD born Sep 2009 amazingly from the left ovary, right tube reached over to collect!

Take time to mourn and look after yourself but your chances are better than fertile every other month due to the movement in the other tube.

Make sure you get 6 week scan in any future pregnancy.

Good luck!

[boodleboot]

thanks for sharing guys....i feel like it is the end of the world at the minute but realise this is just my perspective and not necessarily true.

can i ask how you knew which side you had ovulated off and what you mean by more than fertile everyother month?

x

[pasturesnew]

OK so not a doctor etc. but having been through it my understanding is as follows:

Normally the ovaries take monthly turns to ovulate, although this is not always the case, hence nonidentical twins (2 eggs at the same time). So when I lost one tube I thought I would only be fertile every other month. But amazingly fallopian tubes can move to collect eggs from whichever ovary sends signals it is ovulating, although the chances of it picking up the egg successfully are better on the side where the ovulating ovary is.

When the ovary releases the egg and you become pregnant, an ovarian cyst is formed to release the initial batch of pregnancy hormones (after about 12 weeks the hormones come from the placenta IIRC and not from the ovarian cyst and are then more targets at the baby rather than going round your whole body, which is why morning sickness often improves around the same time).

The ovarian cyst can be seen in the 6 week scan so that is how you find out which ovary the egg that became a baby came from. This is how I know that the egg for DS came from the right ovary (tube intact) whereas the egg for DD came from the left ovary (tube missing on that side).

For more info I would really recommend the Ectopic Pregnancy Trust

[boodleboot]

i'll check it out. thanks PN

[pasturesnew]

Totally sympathise with your feelings, it is really devastating and I think the whole emergency surgery aspect is traumatic. But it's not a life sentence and I agree with MrsHappy that it would be good to get your remaining tube checked.

[MrsHappy]

Hi - agree with most of what Pasturesnew said but for one point. The ovaries don't take it in turns to produce an egg. Apparently it is more that they have a "race" to see which one gets there first. So it is possible to ovulate on the same side in successive cycles.

The reason I know what side I ov'd on is because I can feel ovulation and because of the early scans I had when I became pregnant - as Pasturesnew said there was a cyst on the ovary on my dud side. Rather ironic given that both of my ectopics came from my (supposedly) good left side but got stuck in my right tube, and that the second time I thought we would be fine because I knew I was ovulating on the left (i.e. my unscarred tube). I have read one study that says that this side swapping happens as much as 30% of the time!

Anyway, I know it feels devastating right now but I promise it gets easier. Right now your hormones are likely to be doing crazy things too, so please go easy on yourself.

[pasturesnew]

Thanks MrsHappy

[mcfly79]

Hello
I understand what you are going through,also had a 'very lucky to be here' EP (had an hour to live apparently),this was in October 07.Also had one tube removed.

It did take us over a year to conceive but now have 9 week old daughter and I really believed it would never happen so please try and stay positive it does get easier.

What helped me was thinking..'I'd rather be alive' over and over

[PacificDogwood]

Hi, sorry to hear about your losses.

A good friend had an ectopic in July (abroad, ruptured, lost tube AND ovary) and fell pregnant in August . She has had 1 previous child.

It can happen...

Very best of luck to you .