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This waiting to get pregnant is hard isn't it?

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OhBling Fri 26-Jun-09 14:13:30

I haven't even been trying that long and it shocks me how it totally obsesses me. I cried randomly, twice, on the weekend and managed to get overly excited thinking I might be pg.

I wonder about it at least once an hour?

It's just going to get worse isn't it? If I don't get pregnant in the first six months, the obsessive thinking about it will start to get chronic?

My word.

jugglingwoman Fri 26-Jun-09 14:18:57

I haven't even started TTC (we're hopefully starting in Autumn) and I'm already obsessed. To be fair though, so's DH so I'm not alone. Every decision (which currently involves adopting DSS, buying a house, jobs) is based on us having babies.

Don't worry, you're not mad and if you are, I'm far worse blush.

OhBling Fri 26-Jun-09 14:49:05

Oh yes, the decision making process... for months and months before hand. Yup, went through that. Now it's not even a big deal, it's just worked into general planning in the same way we work anything else in such as where we work or holidays we want to take! blush

Mostly, I want to stop wondering all the time if there's something happening and actually I'm already growing a little baby.



LittleOneMum Fri 26-Jun-09 15:01:39

TOTALLY. This week I have cried in the loos at work when I did a negative test, have cried all over my husband and am generally in a foul mood. it really sucks.

jugglingwoman Fri 26-Jun-09 17:28:12

Oh heck I'm not looking forward to all of that. I'm not the most patient of people so having known we've got to wait before TTC will make it more frustrating if I don't get pregnant immediately!!

Tigresswoods Fri 26-Jun-09 17:38:10

Agreed. Have kind of decided that if it ever happens i will not have the strength to begin it all again for a second time. But then it seems that hormones take over...

Bring a woman ah? Sucks.

Kaylo Fri 26-Jun-09 20:52:46

jugglingwoman I'm soooo with you!! DH says we have to wait until September after our 4th wedding anniversary because we're going to Barcelona (like it matters that we're going away)
I'm so excited tho - September is only 2 more AF's away grin


jugglingwoman Fri 26-Jun-09 22:00:18

Good luck Kaylo!

We only got married last September and it was all planned around-get married, rent house, DH trains to become a teacher whilst DSS gets used to new family, DH gets job after a year, we buy house, we start TTC. So, we've done the first bit, DH starts his job in September and we're currently panicking about looking to buy a house. None seem reasonable or if we like them, they've gone off the market. Our plan is I stop the pill in September so if we do move anytime soon, we should be settling by the time (at the earliest) that we should get pregnant. But if we don't buy a house we wouldn't get a mortgage on one salary. It's horrible as being sensible is getting in the way of everything! But then hopefully in the long run it'll be worth it.

Armi Fri 26-Jun-09 22:52:44

The 'planning ahead' thing amazes me. We need a new car - ours is dropping to pieces - so now we're having discussions about the best model to accommodate us, possible-future-baby, a large dog, pushchair, baby paraphernalia....

I'm a teacher, so DH has been studying the calendar to work out what he perceives to be the best time for me to have maternity leave so as to take full advantage of the long summer holiday. He's pin-pointed the exact month he thinks will be 'ideal' for conception. Am having the devil's own job getting him to realise it's not like making an appointment at the dentist' doesn't matter if I wee on a hundred sticks to tell me I'm ovulating and then we go at it like rabbits for 48 hours, it still doesn't mean I'll get pregnant when he's planned it!

Kaylo Fri 26-Jun-09 23:23:46

ooooh, what date in September did you get married - we got married on 17th to mark our daughter being 6 months old on that day - well, not really but she was anyway. We had originally planned to marry in June 05 but the week (literally) after we booked everything I found I was pregnant (Friday 13th) and so everything had to be postponed....listen at me carrying on - MY APOLOGIES blush

armi I'm due to get another car in August 2011 when the one I have reaches 3years old (motability car for my mum - me primary driver as she doesnt drive) and am already choosing what will be best. Mum doesn't care as long as it has 4 wheels and an MOT grin

And then I'm thinking...well...what if it's twins - then what will I do. I have a grande punto now which nicely accommodates me and my 2 children as well as my mum and my husband if needed however he has his own copycat punto. AAAAARRRRGGGGHHHHHHH
After months of this I'm at breaking point and it's my own fault because I'm OCD about being ready and organised. I have my bite my knuckles (almost) when I see maternity or baby clothes on sale with the thought that being prepared is good but it would take the fun away for when I eventually do become pg.

Ok, I'm going away now...please dont throw pillows at me for talking too much, I really am OCD about it all!! And depressed cos I'm having to wait knowing I might not conceive immediately....SHUTTING UP NOW!! In fact, am going to bed!!!

Night Everyone
<cue everyone peeps round corner making sure Kaylo really has gone and can remove earplugs>

jugglingwoman Sat 27-Jun-09 20:48:30

We got married on 13th. Was worked out on when DSS was back at school so our week long honeymoon wouldn't change much as he'd be with his grandparents (who he and DH were living with before).

DH's car was bought on the pushchair and baby seat basis in February. Mine is small so it may get changed or we may have to swap for a while....

I think I'm OCD about it too, don't worry! It's difficult as I want to plan but I want the excitement at the time too! Saw a house today and put an offer in so fingers crossed that's one hurdle we might get over. We have to have a big enough 3rd bedroom that if we have more than 1 DC, DSS will be able to fit in it whilst a teenager whilst younger DC's share. All very organised and then I remember, IT MIGHT NOT HAPPEN! It'll be fine though, I'm sure. Just seems silly planning for things that'll probably happen in the least convenient manner...

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