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Feeling very down and unsure...

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mustbemorepositive Mon 22-Jun-09 10:03:15

This may be a long post so apologies in advance for rambling. I have been TTC 1 for 8 cycles (since Jan) to no success. I have pretty regular periods (between 24-27 days). I have used clearblue opk for a couple of cycles and do get the smile so was presuming that I ovulated. Having read TCOYF I started temping this month and on day 17 I have not ov/peaked. Now I am really worried that I don't ovulate and that is why I am not getting pg sad. The thing is though that from day 9-14 I had EWCM. I also had really sore boobs (which I have never noticed before) which I thought must be related to hormones doing something. I know some people ov late but they normally have very long cycles which I don't. Just feel very low now and keep on bursting in to tears whenever i think about it. sad I should add that last Thursday I reached breaking point with my boss so have decided to look for a new position as it has got to the point that I am feeling sick at the thought of going into work (to be honest I only stayed there the last 6 months because I thought I might get maternity pay sorted). Could this be related as on Thursday I was super stressed out. Has anyone else not ov every cycle and managed to get pg? Should I try the doctors? Is there anything else I could try?

Sorry to ramble...please feel free to ignore if you think I am just getting my knickers in a twist over nothing. I just needed to get it off my chest as much as anything as don't want to burden dh too much. I am trying to stay positive but not sure that its working. Want a baby so badly it hurts.

Neeko Mon 22-Jun-09 10:12:28

Could the stress of work be delaying ovulation? Last cycle I didn't ovulate until day 36 and thought I was going mad (der than usual) TTC is very stressful and loads of women on here understand how you feel. Maybe you could go to your docs for a chat? I think there are some simple blood tests they can do to check things out. Not all docs make you wait a year. Good luck.

FizzyWhizz Mon 22-Jun-09 10:16:55

Don't lose hope Mustbemorepositive.

I had my BFP this month which was my 1st month temping and reading TCOYF. My cycle is 28 days every month and this month I had EWCM on days 15 & 16 plus a positive OPK but no temperature shift. Decided I had probably not ov'd this month because of temp shift not following other indicators so gave up but DH had other plans and BD on day 18 anyway. Temp shift happened on day 19 (much later than I expected) and BFP on 1st day of missed period.

I'm not sure what this means for all the prediction kits we use but you never know, just keep trying and maybe extend the period over which you "really" try.

Lots of luck smile

skihorse Mon 22-Jun-09 10:29:42

I went to see my GP about 6 weeks ago after 6 months of no trying. My cycle is ~26 days and she thought this was actually a VERY good indication of ovulation, that is - cycles around our length are "strong and positive".

wildfig Mon 22-Jun-09 11:22:27

Poor you. I can sympathise with the stress and frustration; we've been trying for nearly 18 months now, and it's bloody miserable, and not conducive to baby making activity. Go to the doctor and get your day 3 and day 21 bloods checked out; they'll give you a pretty clear indication of whether you're ovulating or not. Temping isn't always a clear indicator that you've actually ovulated, whereas hormone tests are quite specific. Also, while you're there, book DH in for a check - might not be you that has the problem!

If you go to the doctors, you'll feel you're doing something positive, which might take some of the unspecific blame stress off you. At least the doctor will be able to tell you what the medical facts are: there might be some underlying issue like PCOS or just plain work-related stress. It's maddening when people say, 'oh, just relax and it'll happen' hmm but if you're so wound up by your job, your body might be doing its best not to add to the problem. Maybe if you deal with the job problem at the same time?

babyignoramus Mon 22-Jun-09 13:49:31

I never had a temp shift, and I've got a 4 month old so please don't worry about that. I think EWCM is a much stronger indication anyway. My only sign of ovulation is generally extreme randiness blush.

mustbemorepositive Mon 22-Jun-09 16:30:20

Thank you all so much for your replies. (Meant to say that I would be out for most of the day and hence no response until now.)

Neeko - I am hoping that it is the stress that has messed up cycle, I was a wreck last Thursday/Friday. I am definitely getting out of current job though dh thinks I should wait until I find another job beforehand which is very sensible, though with the whole recession thing might take awhile.

Fizzywhizz, Congratulations on your BFP! Its so good to hear stories like yours and babyignoramous's as it is so positive.

Skihorese I am actually really glad you said that because I always thought that the shorter cycles meant a shorter luteal phase.

Wildfig - I really hope that you get lucky soon (because it does seem down to luck half the time doesn't it). Think will try the docs and just insist on tests even though its not 12 months yet. This monthly waiting game isn't as fun as I thought it would be. I really thought that getting pg would be easy as it was for my mum and sister, and all my pg friends who keep on asking if I am pg yet! I haven't told anyone we're trying but they still ask. Made me realise that I should never bring up the topic unless its brought up by them.

Neeko Tue 23-Jun-09 14:13:40

mustbe I fell pg first try with my DD and with the one I lost so it has been very frustrating for me too these past few months. It's very difficult not to become stressed about it.
Good luck with trying and let us know how you get on.

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