Hi all,
Looking for a little tea and sympathy, advice and hope. Or even just a really good joke to make me laugh!
My wish/plan was to have 2 children. First pregnancy aged 33 - missed miscarriage at 13 weeks. Second pregnancy aged 33 - caught first cycle and we now have a lovely 4 year old boy. 3rd pregnancy aged 36- caught 3rd cycle, our second son was perfect but stillborn just before my due date, due to a knot in the cord. I am now 38, its over a year later ttc a third child and I'm going demented. And yes, its the first day of my period. Welcome cycle 16. Argh!
So many people have told me that I have been through so much, we have had quite alot of family deaths over the last 5 years, in every generation. Obviously losing our second son is my greatest loss which I will always live with and feel to some extent but I have learnt to accept and deal with my grief. I still have much to be thankful for and am very aware of that, but having to deal with this new grief - infertility - is getting a bit too much to bear.
I have only just got my doctor to refer me as we had to wait a year of ttc before my husband could be referred for a sperm test, Doc fully expected me to get pregnant as I'd had 3 easy conceptions previously. So frustrating as I 'know' something is wrong. I have been tested on day 5 and 21 and confirmed that I am ovulating.
I have watched my 'angel mum' friends deal with their losses and get pregnant, have babies and yet I can't. I just feel like I am getting further away from being pregnant, rather than closer. I have 2 good friends who are due in the next couple of months and whilst I will be able to happily see their babies, but it will be with a private pain knowing I'm not pregnant.
My periods have been exceptionally heavy for this past year (but no pain or PMT - an upshot) and accupuncture has really helped with this, but not getting pregnant. We are on super-duper vitamins(!), don't drink, smoke, take drugs, have caffeine free tea, eat reasonably well, have sex at the right times and more. I have tried hypnotherapy as well.
I don't know when i will have my appointment but I think it will be within the next month. I have no idea what to expect, aside from the gynae getting to know 'down there' better than my hubby!
Is there any more I could be doing? What should I expect from an infertility workup? Help, anyone?
Jo
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