Oh FFS would someone just take me outside and beat this broodiness out of me, I am utterly insane

[sweetkitty]

I mean honestly, DD3 is 10 months old and I have been SO broody from when she was a week old. I could cry knowing that I might never be pregnant again.

I mean I LOATHE being pregnant, I get horrific pelvic pain which means I practically cannot walk which coupled with all the usual pregnancy aches and pains and looking after other DC is no fun at all.

I am constantly knackered, DD3 likes her midnight snacks and has never slept through, and with having 3 under 5 and no family support and a DH who works from 6am to 6pm it's not easy.

PLUS we live in a 2 1/2 bedroom house and need to extend in a few years, would need a huge car and just the cost of children not to mention giving each one quality time etc

Yet still I want another baby piss off hormones I hate you

[Kaylo]

Oh I absolutely know how you feel!!

My dd is 4years old now and ds will be 3years old in July and I'm desperately hankering after getting pregnant with my third but my dh says "oh maybe in about 7 years"

SEVEN YEARS!!! Not likely, he'll be lucky if 7 months passes!
He said we couldn't afford it and then when I proved we could he decided actually he wasn't ready and is sticking rigidly to that now. I def don't want to wait 7 years cos thats practically encouraging inter-sibling gang rivalry!!!

GGrrrrrrrr......men!
Wish they were more aggreeable sometimes

[sweetkitty]

Ah but the thing is DH is all for it, he looks at DD3 too and thinks "oh SK she cannot be our last"

I said when I was pregnant with DD3 that was it NO MORE, I wish these feelings would go away, lockets did a fourth cure you of all broodiness?

[skidoodle]

Could you give yourself a time limit?

Like "if I still feel like this in X months we'll go for it?"

That might help you put it to the back of your mind a bit, then you might start to enjoy not being pg enough to be more circumspect.

[foxinsocks]

lol sweetkitty

you know, I have very rarely in my life felt broody. Really, hardly ever.

But my gawd, after I had dd, I was like a walking conception timebomb. I literally HAD to conceive (and did and had ds).

Once I had ds, I had urges again but not as strong as the ones I had after dd.

Think it is very hard not to follow your hormones. But we too live in a 2.5 bedroom house and goodness knows how you'd manage with 4.

Tell dh to start trying to put you off the idea though I suspect if you feel this strongly, the urge will be hard to resist!

[mrsgboring]

Me too. DS2 is only 4 weeks old. He wasn't going to be our last, then DH decided that pregnancy was too traumatic. He is right, it would be stupid to do it again. I was at the end of my tether and really not well mentally or physically by the end of the pg. If we stuck to two, we could give them more time and more opportunities. But I still want one. Was hoping DS2's birth would make me feel complete but it doesn't. (I know, give it time, too early to be stressing about this etc. BUT I AM)

[NationalFlight]

[chocolatefudgebrownie]

Me too. I am soooo broody for dc3. I was pregnant (accidentally) until recently, when I sadly miscarried very early.

DH say no more (at the moment ) and I know it is totally impractical, as we live in a two bed flat with 2 dc's already. It's just the hormones are so overwhelming sometimes, it scares me.

[Nighbynight]

I wish that I had known that the broodiness was pregnancy related and would pass in a couple of years...I was convinced that I would be sitting in a bedsit in my 80s, fantasising about the child I had never had

5 years on, I am stretched to the limit, and would run a mile from conceiving another baby

[mrsdisorganised]

I didn't want anymore after dd3 was born, couldn't bear the thought! 3 years later memories faded and along came dd4, when she was only a day old I remember saying 'I could do this again!', dc5 will be due in October! Don't think the broodiness will ever go away, but I know that dc5 will be our last, which is tough but the right thing! Good luck with fighting it!

[Kaylo]

wow MrsD, on to #5. I you.
I had always planned on having 5 but dh wanted 2 so we compromised and said 3. (bloody men change their frigging minds so much that i'm now reduced to begging for dc3 )

Its so good to have somewhere to come and talk about it

[mrsdisorganised]

Kaylo....Know the feeling! DH changed his mind whilst ttc #5, devestated! Had to do a bit of begging too, set a time limit for the end of feb if I wasn't pg by then that would have been it....#5 sneaked in and I was positive it hadn't happened as DH was only home for one weekend and I thought too early in my cycle, shows how much I know

Good luck on the begging, horrible though it is!

[Kaylo]

MrsD Devastated is exactly the word to use, along with heartbroken and angry. And a little guilty (his doing, why aren't you satisfied with the two that we have?) Cheeky bugger.

I'll carry on doing my best begging for #3

Starting to think now he only 'compromised' to shut me up for a few years

[Kaylo]

Ooooh, had a good heart to heart with dh yesterday and we talked about the pros and cons of waiting 7 years - finally made him see sense and that waiting is silly (for us).

Also told him how down I've been about it and he felt terrible saying he had no idea - he would've if he'd listened to me!!!

Soooo, new plan is to review circumstances in September after our anniversary holiday to Barcelona - and hopefully will start ttc very soon afterwards.

Is it wrong that I've worked out when I'll be ovulating between 23rd and 28th September?
Maybe thats a little too hopeful so I also worked out Octobers ov days too

Just wanted to let you all know x x x x

[mrsdisorganised]

Well done!!!! Terrible how awful you feel until it's sorted though.

Hope all goes well for you, I worked out all my ovulation dates too although as mentioned above didn't go to plan with #5, usually ov on cd18/19 this def happened on cd10!!!

Really pleased for you.

[Kaylo]

Thanks MrsD

I'm so hopeful that maybe this broody feeling will come to a happy end in the next few months - its only 16 weeks until our holiday and that makes it sound so nice

Seems like the right time then somehow even though I wanted one now - it seems like a good compromise. I'm finding myself wanting to wait now, didn't think that was possible.

x x x
Kaylo is very very very today!!!

[sweetkitty]

kaylo

I was working out if I could squeeze another cot in our box room

DD1 starts school this year, DD2 next year but I do worry about not having enough time for them all as well as everything else.

I asked DH "do you think we will have another baby?" yesterday he said "possibly"

The thing is I don't want to wait another few years as I don't think it would be fair on the baby as there is 18 months between DD1 and 2 then 2 1/2 years between DD2 and 3 and I woulnd't want anymore of a gap than 2 -2 1/2 years.

[stripeypineapple]

Hi all,

Can I have a quick anti-get-me-up-the-duff thwacking if there's one going?

Been a bit desperate for baby for a while now but DP says we'll wait for 2 years(!!)

He's been saying for at least 6 months. I think he will always say that

[Poledra]

D'you know, SK, I opened this thread wondering if it might be you? Can't help, I am not where near as broody as you are. I am sad that I won't be pg again, that my days of bfeeding are drawing to a close, that my baby is crawling etc but I know that here is where we draw the line. Can't face DC4 being in SCBU like DD3 was, getting too old for it, DH happy with what we have (I think he would have liked a son but that's nop guarantee anyway). I think DH wants me back to work too.

I like the idea of what someone else said, give youself a time limit and see what you feel like then. FWIW, I have a good friend who is 4 years younger than her nearest sibling, and the other siblings are all close together in age. She loved it, as the older ones rarely fought with her, only with each other and doted on her mostly.

I am quite handy with a carpet beater, if you still want it beaten out of you......

[Poledra]

I am handy with a carpet beater on rugs, BTW, I haven't tried it out on DH or the children (yet!).

[Kaylo]

sweetkitty I know all about furniture rearranging I found myself measuring up with a tape measure just to make sure it would fit, then theres the possibility of twins so off I went again with my little tool bag
Have you spoken to your DH and explained the benefits of having a baby sooner rather than later? It took me 5months of begging to get DH to even complete a conversation on it to find out how eachother felt about it.

stripey Same again really, have a quiet heart to heart with DH and explain how important this is for you, perhaps he has things on his mind that is preventing him from taking it as seriously as you?

Big Smiles to you both and keeping my fingers crossed for everyone on this thread

[sweetkitty]

poledra - oh no I have been rumbled I must admit today I had to go for a school visit with DD1 and trying to fill in forms with DD3 screaming the place down and DD2 being well DD2 was hard, everyone else seemed to have no other children so I was the only one there with siblings, at one point I had to take DD3 out of the room as noone could hear the teacher. So I am thinking "how the hell am I ever thinking about another one"? I cannot do school and nursery run with SPD can I?

[Kaylo]

Hey girls...hows everyone today?

sweetkitty
SPD! Ouch, know how you feel - felt like someone was twisting my bones every-time I took a step or turned over in bed.

Anyway - was just popping in to say hi - gotta go to work now

Catch ya later x xxx x