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First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together - Calling all first time frolickers and fully proficient frolickers!

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summerbird Thu 09-Apr-09 15:50:48

A new thread to follow on from Part 3 - AKA the lucky thread!

Lets get some more BFP's this month grin

x

DawnAS Thu 09-Apr-09 16:08:19

Helloooooo,

Starting to freak about labour. Read today that labour with GD is not pleasant, especially if you are having insulin. You have to be connected to an Insulin drip and heart monitor throughout so are unable to move around and they induce you at 38 weeks to prevent a higher risk of stillbirth!!!!!

Induction itself is apparently terrible as there is no build up to the labour so the contractions are instantly painful when they start, even though you're hardly dilated.

It's all getting very messy and starting to scare me so I'm going to have a long talk with my MW and hope that Jelly stays breech so that I can have a C-section. I know it's a major op but at least then I know she'll be out quickly and it's only me that has to recover as opposed to her...

Currently in freaking out mode....

xxx

PistachioLemon Thu 09-Apr-09 16:24:16

Oh Dawn, that sounds very scary. Speak to your midwife, hopefully she can put your mind at rest. In the meantime, don't freak out too much and just think about the chocolate you'll be able to have afterwards.

heverhoney1 Thu 09-Apr-09 18:52:28

Dawn I know its hard not to think of all the things that can go wrong but you do have to remember - The majority of times things DONT go wrong! You have had such a lot to contend with this is just 1 more hurdle. Loads of women get induced and as for the pain of induction and the fact that you are quite happy to contemplate a c-section - have you thought about an epidural?

My mum had no signs of pre eclampsia in her pregnancy but when it came down to it had a MAJOR eclamptic fit on the table and that scares the living daylights out of me. I dont have the greatest pain threshold and will probably request an epidural - yes I know I am a wimp! - But there also seem to be added benifits. I mean logically if you are already under the effects of an epidural if they do need to go in quickly for a section you are already set up and ready to go. They also say it reduces blood pressure (which is a disadvantage to most people) but surely it means I am less likely to fit too??That probably makes no sense to anyone but me but we all have to make justifications in our own heads to get through any way we can. xxxxx

oh Dawn bless you! Try not to worry about it, i like to look on positive of everything and i'd say at least than 2 weeks less to wait to meet her!

Hever im sure you'll be fine to, but then again im not facing labour like tyou both are! For at least another 8 months anyway smile It will be worth it in the end for both of you to hold your little babies! x

DawnAS Thu 09-Apr-09 19:42:44

Hi all,

Hever, I do want an epidural, definitely, so I guess that makes me a wimp aswell - ha ha!! But the problem with being induced is that the pain is apparently really bad, really quickly, but generally you're not dilated enough for the epidural at that stage so they recommend other forms of pain relief until it gets to that stage and they're the ones that I'm worried about...

But Iate is right, it will all be worth it in the end, no matter what. Jelly has been really wriggly tonight, more so than usual, so I'm just hoping that she's not turning. At least if she stays breech they'll have to give me a C-Section!!

Hope you're all Ok this evening.

xxx

crunchynutter Thu 09-Apr-09 21:16:05

Hi all! Dawn you are not alone- my mom has graced me with horror stories of birth for the last few days and i've been freaking and I've got a long way to go yet! I think it's normal to be honest. By the way though, my best friend was over last night and has 3 children, all natural births with only gas and air and with her last one she had blood pressure issues and was wired up throughout but said it honestly wasn't that bad...

and on another note... I love Lilly- it is my favourite girls name and has been since I was a kid (Look up William Blakes poem 'Lilly' it's beautiful!) So whilst I don't mind at all you choosing Lilly you may have to share with me grin I like all of your names though. Maia is lovely- I know a Mia and she's an angel! It's really hard to make the final decision though isn't it? The only thing that puts me off Lily is that a horse on my yard is called Lily lol bit like your FIL's Missy but strangely it doesn't bother me too much lol- i really love the name! xx

(oh and thank you all so much for the advice- i will be stocking up on gingerbread men! I find lying down or at least sitting helps but i've no idea how to get away with that when i'm back at work hmm )

makingafamily Fri 10-Apr-09 13:52:49

Afternoon ladies.

Hope your enjoying the start of the Bank Holiday weekend.

It really is lovely to see this thread so active again.

So when are we having this baby shower?

Dawn child birth scares the hell out of me and im not even pregnant although have freaked myself out a bit by watching birth videos on youtube!! Weirdo that i am!!

I've had a complete freak out this week, a friend of mine is starting on IVF and i freaked out that the IUI's might not work and then IVF might not work so had a --few glasses-- bottle of red and ended up falling apart on my DP in tears. I think i'm just freaking because we are actually starting again (getting my say 9 scan on monday!! eek) It felt easier/less medical when it was just the boys coming over for dinner and then doing a bit of yoghurt potting! That seems like a lifetime ago now and i know that it was the right decision to change to an unknown donor and clinic but sometimes its still hard.

Anyway i'll stop waffling now. I have a weekend planned of sorting out the roof terrace and seeding/re-potting all my flowers and veggies. Just wish the sun would come out

D xx

makingafamily Fri 10-Apr-09 13:54:09

Oh and meant to say i love all those names. When we were trying with the boys are fav was Lilly May. Now me and DP really love Eve or Evie

summerbird Fri 10-Apr-09 14:44:08

dawn i think given your GD you are onto a winner putting your foot down and 'demanding' at least an epidural, if jelly is breech then you are ok as you will have to have a C Section but if i were you i would be strong and make sure you get what you want (i would do a birth plan now just in case).

hever and dawn i am with you both and i am going to go for an epidural too. i freak out about gas and air, when i was 10 i had an operation and still remember the horrible gas mask (not that they do that now as it is a small mouthpiece but i still freak over it!) my mum says that in this day and age we shouldnt have to endure pain for anything (she had an epidural with all three of us).

so you are not wimps - so there grin

MAF gosh it does seem like a lifetime away you were yoghurt potting, dont worry about your freak out, we would be worried if you werent worried about it all IYSWIM. You and DW are both very brave strong women and i am so proud of what you are doing. smile oh and you are so like my DH - he has been out in the garden potting things this morning... hmm

crunchy you know what i am still celebrating your BFP! I am pleased for all of us on here who have got there but you have gone through so much since i have 'met' you that i am thrilllllllllllled grin

I am in such a good mood today... and on emoticon overload smile grin hmm ........

Kay4MattTTC Fri 10-Apr-09 14:56:01

Afternoon all.
This seems like a nice thread so wondered if i could join in?

Wont beet around the bush me and my DP have been TTC DC1 for about 10month. Been haveing problems with ovulating. . We have a GOF blush very very regularly, but still no luck. Also, i have been getting very envy of people around me that are already pg or people who already have a DC, but oh well. I am currently on CD10. So just waiting for ovulatiuon CM if it ever arrives.

Kay4MattTTC Fri 10-Apr-09 14:56:39

Afternoon all.
This seems like a nice thread so wondered if i could join in?

Wont beet around the bush me and my DP have been TTC DC1 for about 10month. Been haveing problems with ovulating. . We have a GOF blush very very regularly, but still no luck. Also, i have been getting very envy of people around me that are already pg or people who already have a DC, but oh well. I am currently on CD10. So just waiting for ovulatiuon CM if it ever arrives.

makingafamily Fri 10-Apr-09 15:00:11

Welcome kay It is a lovely thread. I'm CD 7 today so we're nearly cycle buddies

Thanks Summer i feel like im driving myself insane at the moment hmm

Kay4MattTTC Fri 10-Apr-09 15:20:13

Hey makingafamily thankQ.
wooo cycle budds lol wink.
How long have you been TTC for?
How old are you?
Where are you from? grin

As i sed i have been trying for 10month.
I am 16, yer i know i seem young but after i had an abortion [well was forced to]having a baby is all i can think about.
I am from south yorkshire.

PistachioLemon Fri 10-Apr-09 15:20:53

Afternoon ladies, I thought I'd bring the list across - hope I've done it right, just added 6 days onto everyone.

FIRST TIME FROLICKERS

Maf: Cycle 4 CD7
Kay4MattTTC: Cycle 10 CD10
ShirleyC: Cycle 2 CD12
Wildfig: Cycle 12 CD19
Thandeka: Cycle 3 CD19
Linwin: Cycle 4 CD24
Vix: Cycle 8 CD25
PistachioLemon: Cycle 4 CD29
VeryAnnieMary Cycle 2 CD48!!

FULLY PROFICIENT FROLICKERS

Flirty - EDD 24 April 2009
Hever - EDD 2nd May I think
Saz - EDD 15 May 2009
Summerbird - EDD 3 June 2009
Dawn: - EDD 10th June 2009 (MC Aug 08)
MichaelaS: - EDD 13 Aug 2009
heylottie - EDD 11th Oct 2009
BubbaP: EDD 18 Oct 2009 (MC Oct 08)
Crunchynutter - EDD?
Fairy - EDD?(MC Jan 09)
Shirley -

Kay4MattTTC Fri 10-Apr-09 15:31:18

thankQ for adding me to list.
Wooo. lol. grin

makingafamily Fri 10-Apr-09 15:51:35

PL Thanks for bringing the list across

Kay My situation is a bit different as we are a gay couple. We started last summer with a known donor but are now going down the clinic route so are back on the TTC wagon this month. I'm 30 and in london.

VeryAnnieMary Fri 10-Apr-09 15:59:41

Hi ladies - fingers crossed for some happy Easter humping and little chicks!

(just updating self in list to prove not a freak of nature any more (49 day cycle last time)

FIRST TIME FROLICKERS

Maf: Cycle 4 CD7
Kay4MattTTC: Cycle 10 CD10
ShirleyC: Cycle 2 CD12
Wildfig: Cycle 12 CD19
Thandeka: Cycle 3 CD19
Linwin: Cycle 4 CD24
Vix: Cycle 8 CD25
PistachioLemon: Cycle 4 CD29
VeryAnnieMary Cycle 3 CD10

FULLY PROFICIENT FROLICKERS

Flirty - EDD 24 April 2009
Hever - EDD 2nd May I think
Saz - EDD 15 May 2009
Summerbird - EDD 3 June 2009
Dawn: - EDD 10th June 2009 (MC Aug 08)
MichaelaS: - EDD 13 Aug 2009
heylottie - EDD 11th Oct 2009
BubbaP: EDD 18 Oct 2009 (MC Oct 08)
Crunchynutter - EDD?
Fairy - EDD?(MC Jan 09)
Shirley -

PistachioLemon Fri 10-Apr-09 16:04:25

Hey MAF, I'm glad to hear someone else is freaking out about it a bit too. I've been having the strangest dreams and waking up in a panic (mostly about being pg or not getting pg but the oddest one of all was about (.)(.)s!). Don't get me wrong, I do really want to get pg but it is also so so scary.

By the way, what are you growing? I'm trying veggies for the second year running and I'm hoping for more success this year - I just wish it would stop raining so I can take advantage of the time off. I'm definitely considering a greenhouse for next year!

PistachioLemon Fri 10-Apr-09 16:05:43

Ooops sorry VAM I forgot to update you. How are you doing?

Kay4MattTTC Fri 10-Apr-09 16:11:41

awww MAF hope it happens for you both soon.

makingafamily Fri 10-Apr-09 16:17:17

Thanks Kay*

*PL
We've only got a roof terrace so everything needs to be done in a pot last year i managed cherry tomatoes, peppers, chilli's and courgettes (yep in a pot!!) this year i'm doing the same but with rocket and spring onions too. DW's mum got us a mini greenhouse but we havent put it up yet but she's grown us some plant plugs What are you growing? I know what you mean about rain grrrrr

makingafamily Fri 10-Apr-09 16:19:28

and PL i've come to the belief that TTC is mental!! lol I have funny dreams all the time. Just noticed your CD29? When you testing?

PistachioLemon Fri 10-Apr-09 16:31:53

I'm growing loads of stuff herbs and courgettes, onions, leeks, garlic, asparagus, toms, peppers, beans - basically everything I can lay my hands on! We have a little garden which is mainly beds but we used to have a flat and I grew absolutely everything in pots and it was fine as long as you remembered (read could be bothered in reality) to water every day in the summer).

I'm not sure about testing yet. AF due today! No sign yet but I'm pretty sure it's on its way Actually DH was very sweet about it this morning - I had a little moan about it and he said 'well when can we start trying again'!

makingafamily Fri 10-Apr-09 16:51:56

PL Fab. i cant wait til we have a garden although i'm still amazed what we can grow in pots and i learnt about the daily watering the hard way!!

Are you thinking of testing?

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