ttc #4 ? come over here and join the noisy section..

[tillyblue]

TTC #4 and lurking in the shadows really as some people may tut and say surely 3 is enough!
Anyone else doing the same?

Oh blimey, I will cringe if no one comes over!

[Diege]

Hi Tilly! Just to say you are not alone . I am currently 7 weeks pregnant with no.4 and there are a few of us floating around. There was a ttc for no.4 thread a while ago, with a few graduates on various antenatal boards. Good luck!

[amateurmum]

Hello Tillyblue,
We are trying for number 4 (but having a month off at the moment as I don't really want another August baby after sending my tiny dd to school aged 4 and 2 weeks!).

[SquidgyBrain]

meee tooooo!!!

DH isn't convinced - we have had to have assisted conception with the other 3 kids but I seem to be ovulating on my own. We have always had the attitude if it happened it happened, and with me not ovulating and having PCOS it was a pretty low risk stratigy for him lol

BUT I have started to ovulate - this is the 2nd month in a row - I have warned him and given him the chance to use protection which he hasn't done - so if he is going to play with fire he is hopefully going to get burned.

Please don't flame me over this - I know my DH and he hasn't been convinced about ttc any of the kids and I know he will love any babies that come along

Im feeling very excited and hopeful

good luck ladies and congrats Diege

[tillyblue]

ah the there are others.
Congratulations Diege, thats lovely. When is your due date then?
Amateurmum (how can you call yourself that and have 3 kids already!? You are obviously NOT an amateur.)I know what you mean but history has shown me that my kids have never been the shy type so I have no worries over the August issue!Also it would mean the youngest wouldnt be too far apart from number 3.Perhaps I am being selfish but I fear I am becoming too old too quick and just want to get on with it now.
Tried for ages about 2yrs ago, lost one and then nothing happened for 6 months after so i got cold feet and stopped.

But have just decided to go for it.

What are the kids' age gaps with you both?

[tillyblue]

Hi squidgy! pretty exciting stuff once you decide to do it regardless of dh enthusiasm or not! What you got now?

[SquidgyBrain]

we are in Scotland so the August thing isn't an issue here - our kids can go to school from 4.5 to 5.5 - so our december born son could have gone last year or this year (he went this)

Tilly I am soo excited - just the possibility of it all! We have a DS1 - 5 a DD - 4 and DS2 - 2. To be honest it is kind of nice just doing it without DH - there isnt the constant chat about it and it feels much less stressful, kind of nice playing the "just lets have sex card" rather than "I need you to impregnate me" he seems to be enjoying it too. Although we both have stinking colds and trying to convince him that I was well enough to get down to it last night was slightly difficult, and since the ovulation tests are showing today could be the day I didn't want to miss last night!!

• What about yourself? How old are your DC's and what have you got?

[tillyblue]

That made me laugh Squidgy, SOOO been there done that. 'Oh darling lets make love right now!' sounds so much nicer, but they DO know what we are upto you know!
Wow yours are close together!
DD1-11 DD2-10 DS1-2. Big gap in middle when life was so easy for a while.
i am excited too, but also a bit scared. Dealing with teenage anxst and toddler tantrums all in one room is already happening. But the bigs are nagging for another and they are wonderful to him.

[SquidgyBrain]

You know Tilly I don't think that he caught me out last night - I think playing the same card tonight might make him wonder though although I shall just tell him it was sooo wonderful last night that I simply must have some more....... I did try to play that card at 4am this morning but he was having none of it! Humph you can tell we arn't newly weds any more!

Lovely that your "bigs" are so keen for another sibling Mine all seem to think that it is a good idea too - DH is well and truely outnumbered!!

[tillyblue]

4am Squidgy ?!!!!
my god you would be fine with the night shifts that come along with a newborn! Am impressed!
Our contraception the past few years has been small giggling children trying to peer under the door at 6am or tweenager banging on the door at midnight wanting to know where her phone charger is!
Hmm, maybe 4 am is a good idea...

[SquidgyBrain]

only 4am as youngest had just made an attempt to get into bed with us and I had been up putting him back into his bed.....and dreaming of that almost possitive ovulation test.........must get sperm inside me.....!!

(yes Im slighty insane it helps round here!)

[Diege]

One of the reasons we went for no.4 was that dds 1&2 only only 16 months apart (age 6 and 7) and little dd3 nearly 3. Just want to even things up a little!
This is definitely my last pregnancy - no chance of a no.5 for me...due June 22nd, after a mmc in July, and suffering horrendous sickness. I had forgotten quite how bad it gets!
Love your 'contraception' TILLY! We resorted to ttc on/off the sofa in the early evening, though had to listen put for the click of the stair gate and the resulting whining voices..
LOL SQUIDGY at rampant attempts for sex. My poor dh hasn't been allowed anywhere near me since bfp - feast/famine here!

[SquidgyBrain]

Diege - our eldest are 18 mths appart almost to the day. so sounds like we are in a similar boat

I said no more after number 3 - horrible pregnancy but here I am abusing my DH something cronic lol

Yup Diege it is feast famine in our house too - I wonder if that is why he is so unkeen

[tillyblue]

Yup, same again here. Eldest two are 20 months apart and then 7 yr gap. Can everyone else see a pattern ?
Dh has a cold and has just gone off upstairs saying..dont wake me !!! Now thats disturbing!
Diege how is pregnancy now?

[rainbowdays]

hehehe! yep I see a pattern and I am there with you all!

I currently have ds1 - 5, dd - 4 and ds2 7months, and eager to have number 4 to be close to ds2. I only had 15 months between the first two and although tiring, it is great to see them relating so well now.

I will definitely want to stop at 4, as I had horrible pregnancies with both my sons. Also I will end up stopping at 3 if I don't get pg fairly quickly, as I am no longer a spring chicken and really don't want to be changing nappies on my 45 birthday! (how mean is that!)

As for pursuading dh to be co-operative at the right time in the month, has been not too difficult, probrably due to the sleep deprivation of the last 7 months messing up our thinking brains! Officially only on month 2 of trying for real.

It is great to meet some other mad people here too!

[Diege]

Yes, I think 2 close together then a break, then another two is quite a common pattern for 4 children. Apparently it was 'the' thing to do in the 1970s , and is fashionable again according to Vogue
Squidgy, pregnancy this time is as tough sickness-wise as with no.3. I am able to work from home for the next 6 weeks or so, thanks to v.supportive work, but the house is a tip, homework is getting forgotten, and the 2 forthcoming Nov birthdays are very neglected. I have a scan on Thursday after having the miscarriage, so touch wood all is progressing ok .
I am an oldie too (well, pre-oldie, 39 in May) so it was now or never for us! (dh v.old )

[SquidgyBrain]

Why is it I am always out of fashion lol - I don't think that you really can call the 28mths between DC2 and DC3 a "break" and I would have had him sooner but it just didn't happen. If we do manage a 4th the break will be bigger - 33 months mininum between DC3 and possible DC4 so I guess we better think about twins or a 5th to keep up with the in crown

glad that your work is being supportive Diege, good luck on Thursday - be sure to update us and let us know how you are doing

mmm I am wondering if I am the baby of the bunch at 33

[tillyblue]

Wow spooky...Diege are you me???!!
Hope scan is all ok, sure it will be but I know you will be anxious after having mc.

[adie3]

Hi ladies, Can I join you? I am also ttc#4. Had a cp at the end of Sept and have just got first af following that so am back on the horse!!

I have ds1 aged 5, dd1 aged 3.5 and dd2 aged 10 months, so hoping no.4 will be close to dd2 in age as the other two play so well together (most of the time!!) and dont want her to feel left out.

[tillyblue]

ooh yes adie3, welcome welcome.

Should we make it a club then? (god I sound about 7yrs old)!!

[tillyblue]

Adie whats a cp ?

[SquidgyBrain]

yeah lets have a club (and lets hope we all get in the "club" soon)

[tillyblue]

Lol.
Sorry forget to shout hello to rainbowdays too
Is this right then?

tillyblue dd11 dd10 ds2 ttc
squidgybrain ds5 dd4 ds2 ttc
diege dd7 dd6 dd2 pg7wks
amateurmum ? ttc
rainbowdays ds5 dd4 ds 2 ttc
adie3 ds5 dd3.5 dd2 10mths ttc

[Diege]

Ooh a club I love it! This seems such a lovely thread, hope you don't mind me sticking around as technically my ttc-ing is done! I can be the group carrot .
Welcome adie! Respect to ttc-ing with 10 month old... (err, hang on, dd1 was 5 months when we started... 'Irish twins as they say ).
Thanks Tilly! Am nervous about tomorrow but am suffering horrendous sickness as with all 3 dds (but not one day of nausea with mc) so trying to be positive.
Have an acupuncture session today to try and combat nausea. It's my second, so will need to keep things going for a few weeks I think (they are fleecing me though at £36 a shot!).

[SquidgyBrain]

Diege - 5 mths now that does deserve respect!! We started IVF when DS was 7.5 mths - unfortunately the 1st cycle didn't work which is why there is 18mths between our first 2 - I think that the clinic thought I was slighly mad :S

Can't wait to hear about your scan - Im glad you are sticking about to be our carrot!!

[Diege]

Wow squidgy, that's stil good going taking IVF into consideration!
I will update you on tomorrow's scan as soon as I get back. I am feeling sick on top of my usual sickness just thinking about it!