I see a trend re. boys and girls

[dejags]

All my friends who were actively trying for a baby i.e. shagging like mad conceived boys whilst all my friends who took a more relaxed approach had girls. Is this just in my imagination?

What are your experiences?

[ChocolateGirl]

hmm, don't know. I heard that the male sperm swim faster, so the closer to ovulation you bd, the more likely you are to have a boy... think there's any truth in that?

we have two boys and a girl - and I did try hard to get pregnant, so it could be true... we bd'd a bit earlier when trying for the third, I think, although we kept going up to and after ovulation as well because I didn't mind what sex the baby was...

[dejags]

just seems that a lot of my friends who took the "it'll happen when it happens" approach conceived girls, also all of my friends (6 of them) who had unplanned pregnancies all had girls? I know there isn't any science to it - just weird that this is my experience without exception.

[dejags]

ChocolateGirl - you are the only person I have ever spoken to who had a girl after two boys too (or at least that I can remember?)

[TracyK]

I heard that too - the girl sperms won if you shagged early in ovulation because the boy sperms were lazy and wanted a quick burst so only won near ovulation. iykwim??
I had boy and had sex practically the minute before ovulation (by accident rather than design)

[Flossam]

I think it is a known fact. Although we weren't trying and had DS, nor was Dp's sister, another boy!

[dejags]

I think it's probably more likely that some men are more pre-disposed to fathering same sex babies. A close friend has 3 girls - her DH was desparate for a boy but she reckons she could go on popping them out for England and she'd never have a boy.

[emmatmg]

we concieved extremely(first month of trying) easily with all 3 DS's, none of them were "accidents" we were trying each time and, well the theory works for me doesn't it, as we've got 3 boys!

[Fennel]

we tried the active "shagging like mad" approach 3 times and conceived 3 girls.

I thought that made sense as you are supposed to be more likely to conceive a girl early in the cycle and if you follow the shag-like-mad approach you are presumably more likely to conceive early in cycle.

[Blossomhill]

Not sure really. Both of my children were unplanned but very much wanted. With dd I got pregnant after not using protection. With ds I think it took a couple of months.

[dejags]

I am looking forward to a third DS - that's why I started this thread. DH suggested that I go off the pill and we see what happens. I would prefer a boy though so I think I'll take the more "managed" approach .

[dejags]

besides - it's fun to shag like mad

[Fennel]

dejags yes we thought so too, about having more fun that way. it almost makes up for the many months/years after when I have no urge at all.

[Mum2Ela]

dejags exactly what happened with me

[Blossomhill]

Dejag - girls are lovely too

[HunkerMunker]

Saw DS as an egg on scan as was having follicle tracking after taking clomid Had an ov test at hospital, was told to go and 'celebrate my birthday' (what a wonderful present that egg was!) and nine months later we had DS

I'd like to say we took the laid-back approach to conceiving, but I think you'd realise that I was lying

[dejags]

I am absolutely sure they are Blossom . I just know boys and although it probably sounds silly, they are a known quantity to me. Not to say that I wouldn't be thrilled to have a girl too. Oh sooooo broody...

[dejags]

That's lovely Hunkermunker!

[Xena]

Our girls are great but they are Daddy's girls. DS would like a brother and I would like a boy. Do this theorys work?

[moondog]

That IS lovely Hunker!!!!
I am amzaed at how open people are about 'trying for a baby'. (Yuck, vile expession, so coy.) I would never/have never breathed a word to anyone. Waaaaaaaaaay too personal!!

[dejags]

I think I'll go with you "get what your given" school of thought. I'd drive myself and DH mad otherwise. We'll just stick to standard advice i.e. the more you bonk the more likely you'll fall pregnant.

[dejags]

sorry moondog - I am far more open on here than I am in RL

[HunkerMunker]

I'd be shy of telling people this in RL, but this is MN (even though you keep pretending to be real people by posting photographs) so it's different

[Blossomhill]

It's funny you should say that dejags as when I found out I was expecting when ds was 10 months I was convinced that I was having another boy. Like you I really wanted one as it was what I knew. When at my 20wk scan they told me I was having a girl I nearly fell off of the bed.
Must say now that she is 5 and a half she has far more clothes than I do. Clothes shopping for girls is much more fun than boys as they have such a better selection (now how shallow is that ????

[SeaShells]

First baby, not exactly trying to get pregnant but were at it like bunnies (early years together) = had a boy!

Second baby, weren't trying for a baby, did it one time and got pg first time = had a girl!